japoniazombie Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 well, first of all, you were right the first time, about a year ago, when I asked my only question so as far as I get it, you are some sort of genies who know everything, I want to say a big thank you to the community for taking the time to answer every single loser's post, I surely appreciate it and you guys deserve a big hug. I wanted at first to start this by giving you a lengthy introduction about my relationship with this girl and so on but I feel like you have other people to help too, so, long story short, I asked her out, as a friend, I didn't tell her I liked her or anything and we decided to go cycling together but she couldn't come, I can't say she felt really interested it that. Anyways, she said that she can't come now, but she's not letting me down and we are definitely going in the near future. Now, it's been a week, how should I approach her this time, again as a friend or should I tell her I find her attractive? I want to add, she is shy.
Assada Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Naa, dont do any of that. You already asked her. You dont want to put anymore of your needy pressure on her. Ask out other women
doeblin Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 I think the three strikes rule is the way to go with flakes. Since a week of radio silence passed, you can ask her out again, but this time not for cycling, because maybe she doesn't really like cycling. Or she likes cycling but not as a date. If she flakes again and doesn't reschedule (telling you the exact days she'd be free), then it's likely she is not that interested. Don't tell her you find her attractive, especially not in a text or on the phone. Go light on the compliments generally. During the date show her you like her, don't tell.
Gaeta Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 First no more lies. You don't really want to be friends with her right? If I were interested in a man and he'd invite me out 'as friends' I would be very disappointed and would think 'Fck that!' he only sees me as a friend. I would not be interested in blocking half a day on my agenda for a man wanting to be 'friends'. So, get back on your saddle and invite her out on a date, cause that's really what you want. 2
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