Dan-007 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Well I met the girl of my dreams about 3 months ago, everything has fallen into place perfectly. We get along on all levels, chemistry is through the roof. She sleeps over about 3 times a week and we see each other about 5 times a week. It was her birthday this past weekend and I got hammered... I kind of got too hammered and I told her that I loved her without remembering that I said that. My best friend comfirmed it after all he was the one that introduced use. Now she has been pretty sick on antibiotics for 5 days and has grown slightly cold. could this be because she is sick or did I **** u with the "I love you" she supposedly said it back to me.... I don't even remember that... Not sure what to do... we talked half an hour today and I get un unpleasant vibe, but she did mention that she wanted to go to a lounge when she feels better
Redhead14 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Well I met the girl of my dreams about 3 months ago, everything has fallen into place perfectly. We get along on all levels, chemistry is through the roof. She sleeps over about 3 times a week and we see each other about 5 times a week. It was her birthday this past weekend and I got hammered... I kind of got too hammered and I told her that I loved her without remembering that I said that. My best friend comfirmed it after all he was the one that introduced use. Now she has been pretty sick on antibiotics for 5 days and has grown slightly cold. could this be because she is sick or did I **** u with the "I love you" she supposedly said it back to me.... I don't even remember that... Not sure what to do... we talked half an hour today and I get un unpleasant vibe, but she did mention that she wanted to go to a lounge when she feels better Well, she is sick, that's unpleasant. It sounds as if you are questioning whether she is sick or she is using it as an excuse. I would say wait it out a little, say long enough for the illness to pass, but she's been on antibiotics for 5 days already, normally people start feeling better by then. She did say she wants to go out when she feels better. Call her and set something up for a few days from now. If she declines, you'll have a better answer.
kolleamm Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 How is telling someone you love them a mistake?
Ruby Slippers Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Carry on as normal. You don't remember saying I love you, and you don't remember her saying it back. She's aware that you said I love you when you were very drunk, and could be skeptical because of that. If she was turned off by the I love you, that should become clear soon. But it could be that she's just skeptical because you said it while drunk, thinking that doesn't really count as sincere. And given that she's sick and on antibiotics, she's not her usual self. Once she's better, take her out and continue as normal. 1
Redhead14 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 How is telling someone you love them a mistake? Telling someone you love them early in a dating scenario, puts pressure on that person especially if they aren't in love with you yet. And, thinking you are in love that early, is a little misguided. At three months you are still experiencing the initial endorphin high that usually fades as you get deeper into the relationship and if, love is truly there, you will be on a little less of a high and seeing the person on a deeper level. She did say she said it back, but it may have simply been a knee jerk reaction and not heart felt. It's not a mistake necessarily if you really mean it, it's just best to wait a little while until the relationship is more deeply rooted and defined. Just ask her out to the lounge she mentioned and make a specific date. If she's still truly interested she'll accept.
Author Dan-007 Posted January 20, 2015 Author Posted January 20, 2015 Carry on as normal. You don't remember saying I love you, and you don't remember her saying it back. She's aware that you said I love you when you were very drunk, and could be skeptical because of that. If she was turned off by the I love you, that should become clear soon. But it could be that she's just skeptical because you said it while drunk, thinking that doesn't really count as sincere. And given that she's sick and on antibiotics, she's not her usual self. Once she's better, take her out and continue as normal. My friend confirmed that she is skeptical... She is feeling better,but the medication is giving her some side effects making her a bit worried... Sunday I was with her at the clinic because of the side effects. and DR confirmed she ok. will continue as normal... thanks... 1
kolleamm Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Telling someone you love them early in a dating scenario, puts pressure on that person especially if they aren't in love with you yet. And, thinking you are in love that early, is a little misguided. At three months you are still experiencing the initial endorphin high that usually fades as you get deeper into the relationship and if, love is truly there, you will be on a little less of a high and seeing the person on a deeper level. She did say she said it back, but it may have simply been a knee jerk reaction and not heart felt. It's not a mistake necessarily if you really mean it, it's just best to wait a little while until the relationship is more deeply rooted and defined. Just ask her out to the lounge she mentioned and make a specific date. If she's still truly interested she'll accept. Seriously? After 3 months? How long does it take someone to make up their mind? 20 years? If their still having second thoughts at that point of 3 months, good luck.
Author Dan-007 Posted January 20, 2015 Author Posted January 20, 2015 Telling someone you love them early in a dating scenario, puts pressure on that person especially if they aren't in love with you yet. And, thinking you are in love that early, is a little misguided. At three months you are still experiencing the initial endorphin high that usually fades as you get deeper into the relationship and if, love is truly there, you will be on a little less of a high and seeing the person on a deeper level. She did say she said it back, but it may have simply been a knee jerk reaction and not heart felt. It's not a mistake necessarily if you really mean it, it's just best to wait a little while until the relationship is more deeply rooted and defined. Just ask her out to the lounge she mentioned and make a specific date. If she's still truly interested she'll accept. I agree, I will not me saying those words to her for a long time.... I will hold off at least until the summer...
EgoJoe Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Bring her soup, Nyquil and Benadryl etc. True affection is shown. So show her. Also the first time you say ILU is something a woman may judge you for.
Author Dan-007 Posted January 20, 2015 Author Posted January 20, 2015 Bring her soup, Nyquil and Benadryl etc. True affection is shown. So show her. Also the first time you say ILU is something a woman may judge you for. Trust me I know... I will either wait for her to say that or I wont say it for a long long time...
Redhead14 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Seriously? After 3 months? How long does it take someone to make up their mind? 20 years? If their still having second thoughts at that point of 3 months, good luck. It takes as long as it takes and generally 3 months is not enough time to know a person well enough to know you love them. You haven't seen how they deal with significant life issues that may affect a relationship and whether you weather them as a team or not. You don't know all their flaws, their views on things like money, family, etc. Until you go through a period or couple of periods of say turmoil, hurt, disappointment with someone, you don't know how deep your love is nor do you know how deep theirs is. What if you lose a loved one, can they support you the way you need to be supported in that time? Are they careful with their money and will they be careful with yours? These are things you can't know at 3 months. Twenty years is clearly too long, but waiting a few more months if things are going well, doesn't hurt anything and allows for the relationship to develop naturally, without pressure and with managed expectations. 1
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