GG420 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Ok so me and my girl had sex within the first week we where dating and after that she decided to wait 3 months until we do it again. Now im fine with her wanting to wait and all that but seriously did she have to tease me before having to wait 3 months... Its kind of a piss off haha I dont know what to do and im 1 month in and I don't think I can hold out anymore haha.
Author GG420 Posted January 20, 2015 Author Posted January 20, 2015 No that ended This was a different girl that I met while we where still dating.
CALOVELY Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Ah, okay. I was thinking you are lucky to ever have sex with her again if it was the same one. So what reason did this new woman give you for waiting several months?
kumar123 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Ok so me and my girl had sex within the first week we where dating and after that she decided to wait 3 months until we do it again. Now im fine with her wanting to wait and all that but seriously did she have to tease me before having to wait 3 months... Its kind of a piss off haha I dont know what to do and im 1 month in and I don't think I can hold out anymore haha. You sound like a jerk honestly. It's not teasing you because she had sex with you and realized it was too early... a woman is not entitled to keep having sex with you just because they chose to once. She's human, she gave into her urges, had sex and realized she wasn't comfortable with you. I will admit the 3 month rule is a bit weird and arbitrary BUT if you can't hold out for a girl you like after 1 month... then she's probably not the girl for you. I've had guys wait several months for me and to my knowledge, it wasn't that huge of a deal because they felt being with me was more important than that sexual gratification. Perhaps she's not right for you if this is such a huge issue. 2
Redhead14 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Ok so me and my girl had sex within the first week we where dating and after that she decided to wait 3 months until we do it again. Now im fine with her wanting to wait and all that but seriously did she have to tease me before having to wait 3 months... Its kind of a piss off haha I dont know what to do and im 1 month in and I don't think I can hold out anymore haha. Did you two have a discussion about and declare exclusivity before or after you had sex? If you did not bring that up with her, she is doing the right thing, to recover from doing the wrong thing. She is hitting the "reset" button and taking sex off the table in order to maintain and manage expectations so as not to allow the emotions that become involved after having sex to cloud the ability to see things clearly and allow a relationship to develop naturally if it is going to develop. If you did have an exclusivity discussion and she's doing this, I do not agree with her handling of the situation. She is basically using sex and a weapon or tool of manipulation. If you like her enough and want to move forward, you should continue to show your interest and perhaps "up things" a little to demonstrate your sincerity to try to remove the idea that you are just in it for sex with her. If you haven't discussed exclusivity, bring it up with her and if she doesn't want to declare exclusivity, you are free to date others unless or until you decide to be intimate with a new person. At which time you should tell her you're moving on. If you decide to have sex with someone else, it probably means you aren't as interested in the first one as you thought. If you have declared exclusivity and are will to wait the three months, you'll just need to respect her wishes and be patient. Go out and have fun on your own as much as possible so that you're not dwelling on this. 2
Satu Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 If you can't wait you're not worth thinking about. 1
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