Halcyon Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 I think it was Leigh who started that part of the discussion or at least pushed it to the point where people needed to comment on it anyway enough of that. Back to your ex. As I said before why do you feel the need to keep him your life? You guys broke up 11 months ago that is quite some time ago. His lack of contact with you during that period is pretty telling that he wants to move on.
Author Sweetescape910 Posted January 21, 2015 Author Posted January 21, 2015 I think it was Leigh who started that part of the discussion or at least pushed it to the point where people needed to comment on it anyway enough of that. Back to your ex. As I said before why do you feel the need to keep him your life? You guys broke up 11 months ago that is quite some time ago. His lack of contact with you during that period is pretty telling that he wants to move on. I guess since that dick I dated a couple months ago basically treated me horribly, it made me realize how good my ex was. I started re reading old fights and conversations and seeing how it could have easily been avoided. But once your in the situation, you cant see the whole picture until you're finally out. I guess because I'm lonely. I want a guy to treat me well and he was the closest I ever got. And I never really got "closure" from the situation. For some odd reason he thought I was using him for his friends and rides. And I never gave him a reason to feel that way. Especially with his stupid friends. Not one bit. I get it, he's moved on with his life. But what's wrong with being friendly with someone who you shared good feelings for? He hasn't had a relationship since me, and neither have I. I should've jumped to the point right when I texted him. I shouldn't have just said "Shabbat shalom :)" and then he didn't answer. He probably thought I wanted more small talk. I don't know but whatever he thought, I cant go back and text him again. I have too much pride for that.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 I guess since that dick I dated a couple months ago basically treated me horribly, it made me realize how good my ex was. I started re reading old fights and conversations and seeing how it could have easily been avoided. But once your in the situation, you cant see the whole picture until you're finally out. I guess because I'm lonely. I want a guy to treat me well and he was the closest I ever got. And I never really got "closure" from the situation. For some odd reason he thought I was using him for his friends and rides. And I never gave him a reason to feel that way. Especially with his stupid friends. Not one bit. I get it, he's moved on with his life. But what's wrong with being friendly with someone who you shared good feelings for? He hasn't had a relationship since me, and neither have I. I should've jumped to the point right when I texted him. I shouldn't have just said "Shabbat shalom :)" and then he didn't answer. He probably thought I wanted more small talk. I don't know but whatever he thought, I cant go back and text him again. I have too much pride for that. You can't force him to be friendly with you and he's not obligated to treat you a certain way. It sucks, but it's really out of your control at this point. Not sure what else can be said.
Author Sweetescape910 Posted January 21, 2015 Author Posted January 21, 2015 You can't force him to be friendly with you and he's not obligated to treat you a certain way. It sucks, but it's really out of your control at this point. Not sure what else can be said. I know. I have to move on from this sotuation. I guess I'm curious to see what kind of person he is now. I miss him. I want to know what's new and thinngs like that. But you cant expect that from an ex.
Halcyon Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 And the kind thing to do is allow him to move on without interfering. That is what I meant about it being selfish for contacting him, do not take that as an insult I mean it in the truest sense of the word. You think you are being kind reaching out to him. If you are honest though the reasons all come back to you and what you want. You want to be part of his life, you want to be friendly, you want him to think of you, you want to reconcile because you are lonely, you realised he wasn't as bad as you thought. Unfortunately that chapter of your life is done and he does not seem interested in rekindling that, which is entirely within his rights. Sometimes to be kind you have to let the things you care about go.
Diezel Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 It sounds like you miss him solely because you realized AFTER what you had and you don't have now. Next time you are in a relationship with someone new, remember these lessons and apply them then so this situation won't happen again.
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