Hopeful30 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 When you start questioning whether or not a person is being sincere towards you (as in, they genuinely like you too and aren't just doing it for the kicks), how do you know when your doubts should be a real concern versus if they're just insecure thoughts?
Gloria25 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 (edited) I think: -After you gave it a decent amount of time and it doesn't materialize... -When what they do/say contradicts what they do/say... -When you've confronted them on several occasions and nothing materializes... -When you are getting hurt from what they do, you express it to them, and they do it again, as if they didn't hear what you said about what they do hurts you... I mean, let's say they aren't doing it for kicks...that indeed they have insecurities. Well, how long are you supposed to wait/give them for it to go anywhere? What more can you do to satisfy their insecurities? Would someone with sincere insecurities do things to hurt your feelings - especially when you let them know it hurt you? Like Brandy said "Almost Doesn't Count" http://youtu.be/5jC5MkGu7eU Edited January 20, 2015 by Gloria25
Gloria25 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 I think: -After you gave it a decent amount of time and it doesn't materialize... -When what they do/say contradicts what they do/say... -When you've confronted them on several occasions and nothing materializes... -When you are getting hurt from what they do, you express it to them, and they do it again, as if they didn't hear what you said about what they do hurts you... I mean, let's say they aren't doing it for kicks...that indeed they have insecurities. Well, how long are you supposed to wait/give them for it to go anywhere? What more can you do to satisfy their insecurities? Would someone with sincere insecurities do things to hurt your feelings - especially when you let them know it hurt you? Like Brandy said "Almost Doesn't Count" http://youtu.be/5jC5MkGu7eU Oh, and to add.... When you confront him and he gives you the "oh, this is all in your head, you are crazy" then it's time to cut bait and leave... I mean, anyone who would prefer you question your sanity when you know what you've seen/heard also could care less about you and your feelings. I was remembering a Mad Men where Don Draper's wife finally figured out he was cheating. I mean, I guess in his eyes he didn't see he was doing any harm cuz he provided well for her and the kids and had no intention of leaving her, but there was a show or two where his wife really sorta "lost it" cuz she had dead proof of the cheating and he looked her dead in the eye and told her she was crazy. So, take comfort in knowing that when someone doesn't just come clean with that's up, it can stress you out sometimes. So, hopefully you'll apply what I'm saying to your situation and decide to just walk away. If someone is stressing you out so much and you keep on hanging on to hope - when nothing materializes, it's not gonna get any better. You can't control other people's actions, you can only control your own. 1
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