kendahke Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 I have to either see you face to face or hear your voice on the phone. I got a woman's number from OKC and she appears to be "real live nut" Texts me 90% of the time and seems to only talk on the phone 10% of the time. So I tried speeding up the meet and greet and she is not ready so it looks like she will be on the spam list as of 1/20. Tonight she text me...WYD I responded with "eating dinner and will call you when I done" She responds with,,,,,,,,,"Don't Im out with girlfriends" lol So I am pretty much done at this point and just got her number 4 days ago. She also wanted to text while we were in bed and I refuse to do that One of the wackiest girls I ever met online I agree. I hate texting all the time. To me, it's pointless. I've got it written in my profile that I'm not looking for a protracted texting adventure and will lose interest quickly if it becomes that. 1
kendahke Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Well, when you first meet someone - especially on OLD, I could see where you wanna connect via verbal convo, but sorry, I'm not giving out my tel until after I meet you... I've had too many instances where after the first meet I wasn't feelin' it, then gave out my tel and couldn't just walk away from it. I've also had guys blow up my phone or be jerks after the first meet and I politely declined taking it further. After I'm in an established RL, I'm sorry, but we'd pretty much be texting. I don't wanna/need to get on the phone and chat with you all the time... BTW, for me the "connection" doesn't happen over telephone convo when first meeting someone...I push for a meeting in person. Just like online, it's too easy to think you got chemistry over a telephone call. I wanna meet in person ASAP and exchanging telephone numbers doesn't mean much to me. Get a google phone number. That way, they don't have your phone number.
kendahke Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 No, the only thing my celphone will do is allow me to send certain calls on my contact list directly to voicemail. And, sometimes that fails - it'll still ring like once or twice, then stop. And mind you, for years I couldn't find a celphone to block calls - much less this "voicemail" feature my current cel does. download the app "Privacy Star". It will block texts and phone calls.
ASG Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Are you male or female? Men underestimate the power of a phone call. We women usually are sensitive to a nice man's voice. I will develop a familiarity much faster with a man that calls than that text. I'm a woman. Don't care at all aboit talking on the phone, unless it's for a practical reason, like "I'm here, can't see you, where are you?" 1
mammasita Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Agreed with the weirdness of texting while she's out with her friends.....BUT I am one that HATES phone conversations. I'd rather text. If her communication style doesn't match yours then on to the next. Doesn't make her wacky for not wanting to speak on the phone. 1
Diezel Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 Men underestimate the power of a phone call. We women usually are sensitive to a nice man's voice. I will develop a familiarity much faster with a man that calls than that text. You know why though? Because of the endless Catch 22 that has been created over the past 5-6 years. Men won't call anymore because sometimes when we do, women will not respond, and then text IMMEDIATELY saying "What's up?". They can't talk because they are doing something. It happens the other way around too, but slowly, everyone has trained themselves in some kind of sick, twisted Pavlovian way to just text instead of call. Even adults who have dated pre-texting now resort to this. So now people won't call because people text, and people text because people won't call. Phone calls will be a lost art pretty soon. It might get to the point where having a Skype conversation or Facetiming will be considered as Date #1 or a "hang out". Technology. Amazing.
idoltree Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 So I am pretty much done at this point and just got her number 4 days ago. She also wanted to text while we were in bed and I refuse to do that One of the wackiest girls I ever met online I think an adult who judges another person as "wrong" because they don't share his personal preference about communication is pretty wacky. I also think someone who chooses not to communicate when he is having an issue in an adult relationship (or one that is forming) is also pretty wacky.
applej4 Posted January 21, 2015 Posted January 21, 2015 Some people don't understand that texting is not dating/courting. There's a time and place for texting and it shouldn't be used to get to know someone. That's lazy - just punching buttons on a phone takes no effort. And YOU don't have to reply, OP. If you're getting lots of texts that you don't want, delete and ignore.
Author smg15 Posted January 22, 2015 Author Posted January 22, 2015 Some people don't understand that texting is not dating/courting. There's a time and place for texting and it shouldn't be used to get to know someone. That's lazy - just punching buttons on a phone takes no effort. And YOU don't have to reply, OP. If you're getting lots of texts that you don't want, delete and ignore. A text at work looks a lot better on my phone than it does at 9pm in the evening lol
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