smg15 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 I have to either see you face to face or hear your voice on the phone. I got a woman's number from OKC and she appears to be "real live nut" Texts me 90% of the time and seems to only talk on the phone 10% of the time. So I tried speeding up the meet and greet and she is not ready so it looks like she will be on the spam list as of 1/20. Tonight she text me...WYD I responded with "eating dinner and will call you when I done" She responds with,,,,,,,,,"Don't Im out with girlfriends" lol So I am pretty much done at this point and just got her number 4 days ago. She also wanted to text while we were in bed and I refuse to do that One of the wackiest girls I ever met online 2
Raena Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 It's really not that whacky to want to text all the time these days. It seems like it is a rare person that actually wants to talk on the phone anymore. It sounds like she just wants to keep the conversation going... no matter what's going on. If that isn't what you want, that's fine... but she's not whacky for wanting to text. 2
Author smg15 Posted January 20, 2015 Author Posted January 20, 2015 It's really not that whacky to want to text all the time these days. It seems like it is a rare person that actually wants to talk on the phone anymore. It sounds like she just wants to keep the conversation going... no matter what's going on. If that isn't what you want, that's fine... but she's not whacky for wanting to text. Do you think texting can compete with me chatting on my laptop? Not at all Not if someone calls me I can still use my lap top and talk on the phone at the same time but texting takes me away from the computer Plus I like human interaction which is hearing a voice or seeing someone's face
MissBee Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 I don't do the texting thing either. If a man only texts me I will soon lose interest and forget about him. If we've never met texts need to be supplemented with calls, at least half and half OR calls need to outweigh texting. Or call me, let's chat and get a feel for each other then meet. But to meet online and you just text me for weeks...no thanks! Next! 2
Author smg15 Posted January 20, 2015 Author Posted January 20, 2015 I don't do the texting thing either. If a man only texts me I will soon lose interest and forget about him. If we've never met texts need to be supplemented with calls, at least half and half OR calls need to outweigh texting. Or call me, let's chat and get a feel for each other then meet. But to meet online and you just text me for weeks...no thanks! Next! And see I don't blame her fully because she probably has come across guys who communicate like that and feel that is how you communicate in 2015. But I can establish a connection through a damm electronic device
Raena Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Do you think texting can compete with me chatting on my laptop? Not at all Not if someone calls me I can still use my lap top and talk on the phone at the same time but texting takes me away from the computer Plus I like human interaction which is hearing a voice or seeing someone's face Why does texting take you away from the computer? I don't understand. I tend to use fb messenger on the computer because it's easier to type than to text. Is that what you mean? I think I've gotten so used to people just texting all the time that I don't think much of it. I would prefer to be able to talk, but half the time my phone doesn't get signal when I'm at home. It's just easier to text or use the computer.
Author smg15 Posted January 20, 2015 Author Posted January 20, 2015 Why does texting take you away from the computer? I don't understand. I tend to use fb messenger on the computer because it's easier to type than to text. Is that what you mean? I think I've gotten so used to people just texting all the time that I don't think much of it. I would prefer to be able to talk, but half the time my phone doesn't get signal when I'm at home. It's just easier to text or use the computer. I can text on my phone and use my laptop at the same time
Diezel Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 If she's texting you while she is out with her friends, that alone should tell you what her social skills are. NEXT. 3
writergal Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 If I had a nickel for everytime I was texted instead of called when I did online dating...well, I'd have a LOT of nickels! Nix the texters. They aren't looking for anything real, serious, or offline. They just want attention, virtually, to boost their egos, that's what texters' go for. What I'd give to go back to the days of the LAN line phone and cassette voicemail recorder. 4
rester Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 I find texting to be annoying and a distraction. It has its place for quick updates and sharing something funny that happened, but I find the back and forth conversations to be a hassle. It takes ten minutes to say to each other what you could have said in two over the phone. I also find it to be rude to text in front of other people unless they are very close friends and you just have to take care of something quickly.
Author smg15 Posted January 20, 2015 Author Posted January 20, 2015 Im still trying to imagine myself texting someone while I am laying in bed LOL
Author smg15 Posted January 20, 2015 Author Posted January 20, 2015 I find texting to be annoying and a distraction. It has its place for quick updates and sharing something funny that happened, but I find the back and forth conversations to be a hassle. It takes ten minutes to say to each other what you could have said in two over the phone. I also find it to be rude to text in front of other people unless they are very close friends and you just have to take care of something quickly. And I only like texting at home if I am asking if she one is still up so I can call or that I am leaving my apt and on my way to see you. Between the laptop, and TV it's not way I can text someone back and forth
Reliambit27 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 I have to agree. It seems like texting is the new way to communicate these days. I have done the online dating thing and when I would give a guy my number they would always text instead of call. I would wait a few days to see if they would call or suggest talking over the phone and I would even ask if we can talk over the phone. I would get responses like no, I'm busy or text is better for me. When I get responses like that, I stop talking to them completely. Communication is one of the keys to building and having a successful relationship. I feel if a person cannot talk to you over the phone, most likely they cannot hold a conversation in person. 2
Author smg15 Posted January 20, 2015 Author Posted January 20, 2015 I have to agree. It seems like texting is the new way to communicate these days. I have done the online dating thing and when I would give a guy my number they would always text instead of call. I would wait a few days to see if they would call or suggest talking over the phone and I would even ask if we can talk over the phone. I would get responses like no, I'm busy or text is better for me. When I get responses like that, I stop talking to them completely. Communication is one of the keys to building and having a successful relationship. I feel if a person cannot talk to you over the phone, most likely they cannot hold a conversation in person. The girl who text me tonight I am not going to contact anymore until Thursday evening. If we don't have a phone conversation that night then im done I don't mind texting when I am at work but when I am home I don't like it
Gloria25 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Well, when you first meet someone - especially on OLD, I could see where you wanna connect via verbal convo, but sorry, I'm not giving out my tel until after I meet you... I've had too many instances where after the first meet I wasn't feelin' it, then gave out my tel and couldn't just walk away from it. I've also had guys blow up my phone or be jerks after the first meet and I politely declined taking it further. After I'm in an established RL, I'm sorry, but we'd pretty much be texting. I don't wanna/need to get on the phone and chat with you all the time... BTW, for me the "connection" doesn't happen over telephone convo when first meeting someone...I push for a meeting in person. Just like online, it's too easy to think you got chemistry over a telephone call. I wanna meet in person ASAP and exchanging telephone numbers doesn't mean much to me.
Author smg15 Posted January 20, 2015 Author Posted January 20, 2015 Well, when you first meet someone - especially on OLD, I could see where you wanna connect via verbal convo, but sorry, I'm not giving out my tel until after I meet you... I've had too many instances where after the first meet I wasn't feelin' it, then gave out my tel and couldn't just walk away from it. I've also had guys blow up my phone or be jerks after the first meet and I politely declined taking it further. After I'm in an established RL, I'm sorry, but we'd pretty much be texting. I don't wanna/need to get on the phone and chat with you all the time... BTW, for me the "connection" doesn't happen over telephone convo when first meeting someone...I push for a meeting in person. Just like online, it's too easy to think you got chemistry over a telephone call. I wanna meet in person ASAP. you don't have a spam or blocking feature?
Gloria25 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 you don't have a spam or blocking feature? No, the only thing my celphone will do is allow me to send certain calls on my contact list directly to voicemail. And, sometimes that fails - it'll still ring like once or twice, then stop. And mind you, for years I couldn't find a celphone to block calls - much less this "voicemail" feature my current cel does.
Author smg15 Posted January 20, 2015 Author Posted January 20, 2015 No, the only thing my celphone will do is allow me to send certain calls on my contact list directly to voicemail. And, sometimes that fails - it'll still ring like once or twice, then stop. Well I guess it depends on age because I am late 30's and used to meet women on the "telephone dating site" and always had 2 to 3 phone conversations before meeting. The girl I tried to call tonight was going to ask what she is doing this sat or sun but go no answer. So if I meet someone else online between tonight and Thursday I am asking that person if they want to meet this weekend because I can't play this text game. Now we did talk on the phone last night so if I was to meet another girl I would ask her availability first and if she says saturday I will ask the girl I tried to talk to tonight what she is doing sunday since it would be 1 day of availability instead of 2.
Gloria25 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Well I guess it depends on age because I am late 30's and used to meet women on the "telephone dating site" and always had 2 to 3 phone conversations before meeting. The girl I tried to call tonight was going to ask what she is doing this sat or sun but go no answer. So if I meet someone else online between tonight and Thursday I am asking that person if they want to meet this weekend because I can't play this text game. Now we did talk on the phone last night so if I was to meet another girl I would ask her availability first and if she says saturday I will ask the girl I tried to talk to tonight what she is doing sunday since it would be 1 day of availability instead of 2. Well, I'm late 30's... Kinda like your 2-3 telephone convos before meeting, when it comes to OLD, I'll do a couple of e-mails back and forth...maybe even a chat on instant messaging. But after that, I want to meet in person. So, almost the same thing you do, I just do the communication 2-3 times w/o phone then set up a meet. Phone or not, when I see it going beyond 2-3 e-mails and they don't wanna meet in person, I move on. When they are dragging it out, either they have low interest or probably aren't who/what they say in their profile. 1
Author smg15 Posted January 20, 2015 Author Posted January 20, 2015 Well, I'm late 30's... Kinda like your 2-3 telephone convos before meeting, when it comes to OLD, I'll do a couple of e-mails back and forth...maybe even a chat on instant messaging. But after that, I want to meet in person. So, almost the same thing you do, I just do the communication 2-3 times w/o phone then set up a meet. Phone or not, when I see it going beyond 2-3 e-mails and they don't wanna meet in person, I move on. When they are dragging it out, either they have low interest or probably aren't who/what they say in their profile. yeah we exchange messages on the site and then once we hit it off we exchange numbers. And then we talk and if the 1st convo goes well then we set up the face to face meeting on 2nd or 3rd convo. Now I can understand why it's hard to transition to the phone, it's because a lot of people are accessing the site through their phone so they are already kind of texting each other. So some may not feel the need to give their number right away because they are already chatting through the phone Me on the otherhand is typing on a computer and like to transition to the phone. Plus I never like browsing ads on my phone because I can see their pic better on my computer on a bigger screen
Gloria25 Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 yeah we exchange messages on the site and then once we hit it off we exchange numbers. And then we talk and if the 1st convo goes well then we set up the face to face meeting on 2nd or 3rd convo. Now I can understand why it's hard to transition to the phone, it's because a lot of people are accessing the site through their phone so they are already kind of texting each other. So some may not feel the need to give their number right away because they are already chatting through the phone Me on the otherhand is typing on a computer and like to transition to the phone. Plus I never like browsing ads on my phone because I can see their pic better on my computer on a bigger screen Well, I don't know if I'm the norm...what you stated - the transition from computer to phone is still what I "think" some people expect. So, IMO, if it doesn't advance to an exchange of telephone numbers and/or a call - it might be a sign of lack of interest. But, that's the bad thing about OLD, in the first few interactions you really don't know if that person is playing you, has lack of interest, or is simply the way they do things. I mean, we had several threads by people here where they tried to enter into a certain banter too early and seemed to turn off people. But, like you said, I try to give them the benefit of a doubt and if it isn't moving forward, I just forget it.
todreaminblue Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 theres nothing like conversations face to face .....where you can see someone smile and know they are teasing and not insulting or belittling.......too many miscommunications by text....even over the phone.....physical time cant be replaced.....virtual time....seems to me.....to be not satisfying or fulfilling....i like to hear tones in voices i can pick up more abotu a person by inflections than words on a screeen...i love tones.....deb
Gaeta Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 I am starting to hate texting. I have been seeing this man for a few months and he only texts. It drives me nuts. I have mentioned to him I would like to get a phone call once in a while, I am not looking to speak hours on the phone just 5 mins. His excuse was he can do so much while he is texting as opposed to calling. Yep, I am losing interest. 1
ASG Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Heh... I can see how *JUST* texting without meeting face to face can lead to loss of interest. I've been struggling with it myself, being away from the new guy for a month, just texting (though it seems we're still on track). But texting as opposed to calling? Give me texts every time!! I hate talking on the phone and am very particular about it. In fact, I prefer people NOT call me. Text me. Always. And don't leave voicemails if you do call. Text me what you want/need. And I'm in my 30s, so it's not some generational thing... I just find it much more comfortable... 1
Gaeta Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 And I'm in my 30s, so it's not some generational thing... I just find it much more comfortable... Are you male or female? Men underestimate the power of a phone call. We women usually are sensitive to a nice man's voice. I will develop a familiarity much faster with a man that calls than that text. 1
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