Chance slipping away ?

[Dubbmented]

Hey guys,

 

I'm new here. I specifically joined up just so I could share my quick story and maybe see if people could help me.

 

A little background about me and my ex girlfriend;

 

I met her about 4 years ago, we got along great. We stayed up until 6am most days just chatting.. we kept this up for a couple of months until I officially asked her to go out with me.

 

She was 19 at the time and I was 21, things were obviously great at the start. Fast forward to about 3 months ago, and we were volatile towards the end, a lot of anger towards each other. Because we both weren't happy with some things. Anyway, a mutual agreement (more on her behalf) ended it..

 

Having these two-three months broken up and away from her, I came to evaluate my feelings and everything about the relationship. I actually did realise the things I were doing, ruined the attraction she had for me.. and she eventually lost it and stopped caring.

 

I decided to myself I do want her back, but I might of ruined my chances.

 

I purchased Brad Browning's EX factor guide which is a comprehensive guide on getting your ex back, I tried to follow the 30 day no contact rule. But kept slipping up as we have mutual friends and always bump into eachother.

 

Anyway, we ended up spending the week together for NYE with friends while broken up. This was a very bad idea.. She was texting a guy pretty much non-stop the whole time up there, how we use to.. I went through the messages, she found out.. a lot of arguments and fighting on that trip.

 

Fast forward to today, I've decided to seriously go No contact for real. On day 7.. and she hasn't said a word.(Apart from last Friday night, when I organized a guys night with some of our friends and she asked to come). She sometimes likes some of my facebook status's now and again.. but I think she's making a conciouenses effort to not speak to me, to try not give me any ideas that she has any feelings left.

 

Will No contact bring her back to miss me ?

 

In this time, I've gone to the gym everyday, in the best shape of ever been in my entire life, I'm eating well, I'm seeing other girls, doing everything I'm suppose to..

 

I'm just afraid I've ruined any chances of being together again with how I've been in the two months of being broken up.

Edited January 19, 2015 by Dubbmented

[Marco Valerio]

There's nothing you can do to make her miss you. If the feelings are there they will surface, but if there's no feelings for you, then going NC will mean nothing to her.

It's her matter to miss you or not. Those feelings you are hoping for depend on lots of external and internal factors, none on which you can influence. The best thing you can do is go NC for your own sake.

[Light Breeze]

NC is a tool for you to heal and move on. It should not be used as a mind game to manipulate her into jumping back to your arms. You do NC for yourself and not because you want her to miss you.

 

Will she miss you? She may or may not, I don't know how your ex thinks nor see the complete dynamics of your relationship. Absent that knowledge, there is no way to gauge exactly how she will react.