dezzy1028p Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 I was with this guy for a year and a half. He broke up with me over a month ago. During that month after we broke up we were trying to be friends (also with the hope of getting back together), but of course that idea doesn't work so well. He got jealous I was trying to make new friends (both guys and girls). My ex is a very controlling, possessive, manipulative person. Last week, he found out I texted a guy friend/classmate and he got really pissed. He assumed I liked him and wanted to get together with him. I told him i have no feelings for him and that i find it dumb to have a rebound, but he doesnt believe me. So he yelled at me over the phone, called me a liar and said he wants nothing to do with me anymore. He doesnt want to see me or hear from me either. All because I text a guy I dont like, he felt it threatened our friendship or our chances of getting back together. That was like the closure i needed to hear to try and move on..so i blocked his number and deleted him from all social media. Recently he has been trying to call me through mutual friends. I thought his heart was more at peace and we could be friends again. But then he texted me through another number and said "You really blocked me?". He then texted that he wants to give me back all the gifts and memories from our relationship. Personally, i thought that idea was rude because they were gifts and now he wants to give them back. I told him he can burn it or throw it away, whatever helps him move on. He texted me blaming me for ruining our relationship and friendship. I didnt answer, because hearing that hurt. Then he texted "are you going to ignore me again?". That I didn't understand because last he told me he wants nothing to do with me. I told him he has a heart full of anger and hatred towards me and that when he has calmed down, we could talk. Then he texted "are you serious?". I reminded him that he wants nothing to do with me and that I'm trying to respect that. I also told him that I'm trying to move on. Then he texted "You mean move on to other guys?". I got upset when he said that so i ignored it. Then he texted "Dont talk to me ever again". I haven't replied. He is such an angry person and i felt that if i answered or ignored he would be angry. Being honest about my feelings, it may sound silly but i want to be on a good level with him. Hopefully even friends someday. Our paths do cross often and I dont want there to be so much tension. It hurts knowing that someone hates me this much when I'm not the one completely at fault. I tend to blame myself a lot so I feel like I should apologize for stirring up his anger. I dont understand why he is acting this way when he wants nothing to do with me. Is he just trying to start an argument and push buttons? I know there's nothing i can do to change his personality/behavior, but is there something I can say to ease his anger and hatred. I don't want to be the enemy or wanting to start a fight. Or is there really nothing I can say or do.. Thank you for taking the time to read this. It's my first post and I'm so confused and getting clouded thoughts. I'm still in the process of healing but him contacting me is like re-opening the wound because he is still angry.
Marco Valerio Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 There must be something going on with him apart from the break up I guess. Give him some space to calm down by doing NC for a while, and if he wants to be rude he can be rude to his friends.
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