Only get to see my girlfriend twice a week

[HazzaManazza]

I love my girlfriend however a few things are getting to me. Firstly, she goes to a boarding school nearby as she is Russian living in the uk. Her school is very strict and they only let her go out twice a week and she always has to be back before 9pm. I only get to see her on Fridays and Saturdays and her school/parents could stop me seeing her anytime they like. I can't even Skype her until 9:30 pm each day. She works all day very hard so she can stay in the uk and be able to see me. I can't even spend the night with her, she can't even stay round mine during the holidays as the school would have to contact her parents for permission and during holidays she has to go back to Russia for several weeks. If her parents knew she had a boyfriend they would be furious with her as they only care about her education. She will have freedom when she goes to uni but this is 2 years away. how can i deal with this? Does anyone have any tips to make this work?

Thanks

[Gaeta]

Twice a week isn't that bad. Now her study are getting in the way but if you were older life would be getting in the way with work, different schedules, kids, family, and other responsibilities. I know couples that can only see each other once a week, others once every 2 weeks.

 

This is her situation, you accept it and make the best of it or you let her go. And yes, at her age her studies are the most important and a bf is secondary.

[preraph]

For adults who have jobs, etc., date twice a week is about all they can handle.

[JohnM]

Yup. Twice a week or once for me. We both work.

 

Think your issue here is the non late meet ups. Nothing you can do from the sounds of it. Sit it out and enjoy what you can do in the time frame.

[Assada]

Twice a week is good.

You can deal with it, by dealing with it

[GG420]

twice a week isnt that bad. I only get to see my girl once a week

[anne1707]

As others have said plus I assume she is only around 16 from what you have posted. She is young and got a lot of important studies coming up if she is to get into university. She needs to make sure she gets all that done on top of seeing you.

[rocketman122]

twice a week is ok. not great but a C-

 

I wanted more also but I got once a week at times from my exGF and other times 2, never more.

 

you deal with what you have. if you want more than the only solution is telling her it bothers you and if she doesnt make the change and youre still unhappy then consider finding another woman who will see u more

[acrosstheuniverse]

For adults who have jobs, etc., date twice a week is about all they can handle.

 

So not true. If you're really into someone you could see them anywhere up to and including daily for the vast majority of people. Sure, most would not be proper 'dates' but you could see each other more regularly than that. When I met my boyfriend I was working 70 hours per week across two jobs/volunteering then studying and seeing friends, and I still managed to see him three, four times per week, increasing to almost every day after a few months. It's faster than I've moved before with partners but the point is, it's possible for most people who have only one job, if they want it to be. It's generally people working zillions of hours, with multiple jobs, or full-time child care who find it hard to meet too frequently.

 

Anyway, in OP's situation I clearly can see why it's pretty much impossible to see each other any more frequently than they are. I think it says a lot about how into you she is, OP, if she's seeing you on both of her 'days off' each week.

 

It really depends on how you feel about this situation... do you like her enough to put up with another TWO YEARS of this, when it's clearly less than you want or need? Or would you rather let her go, and find someone with whom you can have a normal relationship? It's not exactly ideal that you can't even sleep over together, it will make it harder to get closer to one another. Bear in mind that you might wait two years for the extra freedom, and find it ends anyway because her mind is blown by all of the extra freedom and the availability of other guys. Your call.