mitabrev Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 I just got out of a 3 month fling with a girl (she just got out of a two year relationship when I met her) about a month ago. It was a 'FWB' type situation and everything went well until I caught her being dishonest and I realized I caught feelings for this girl. I knew it wasn't going to lead to anything so eventually we stopped calling/texting each other. Even though I describe it as a FWB situation, it was a bit more than that. We literally did things a couples do, such as text/call daily, hold hands, cuddle, go on dates daily, and sex (she initiated most of the time when we held hands or cuddled but I initiated most times when it came to making dates and having sex). I found out recently from a mutual friend that while we were talking, she told people we both know that I was being clingy and kept calling her. She made me out to be some sucker who kept bothering her to hang out. The frustrating part of the situation is, that night she told people I was being clingy, she was the one who called me to come over! I am really confused about the situation. I know it's been a month and we both moved on but I can't stop thinking about it now. Why did she tell people that I was being clingy when this was a mutual thing? I'm not a bad looking guy, I have been pretty successful when it comes to getting dates but it feels like she was ashamed that she was in something with me but why? This is messing with me mentally and I feel my self esteem dropping. I never had this happen to me so what happened? How can a person be so fake that she could be with me one way and then stab me in the back when I'm not with her? Why couldn't I see through it? Why would she try to clown me like that when I was always there for her and helped her out with her personal issues. Even though I was the nice guy in this relationship, why is she creating unnecessary drama with this? If she felt this way, why would she still continue with this fling? She has told me numerous times that she really likes me and she just wanted me to be happy/satisfied. These are things, she would say out the blue, without me asking. I tried to end it numerous times due to her being dishonest but she would always try to fight for it but now that I hear this, I'm so confused! I'm so confused here! Help! This is has got me caught by surprised and I feel like I had to vent somewhere.
SycamoreCircle Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 (edited) This woman just used you to fill an emotional void in her life. She doesn't care about you. Why? Because she has self-esteem issues. She probably still has feelings for her ex and hasn't fully processed the ending of that relationship. If you knew the full details of that relationship, it might give you some insight into who this woman is. In the future, I would recommend that you not entangle yourself with women fresh out of relationships, especially as it seems you're looking for something beyond FWB. Have you admitted that to yourself? Look at the emotion you've invested in something that was supposed to be FWB. Hence the woman's claims to you being clingy. Let this one go. Move on. Seriously ask yourself what it is you want. Personally, I think you'd like to have a serious girlfriend. Edited January 19, 2015 by SycamoreCircle 3
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