BrainRightHeartWrong Posted March 30, 2005 Posted March 30, 2005 well i'm doing most things that i should do... no contact and all that! met ex 2-3 weeks ago by accident in a pub we both go to, she then phoned me 2 days later and we are 1 1/2 hours on the phone, she tells me how happy she now is ( ie. without me ) and why she ignored me the other week when she seen me in the car with my mother ( said she thought i was with a new girl and couldn't stand it ! ) , she also said she couldn't stand the thought of me with another girl and if we see each other again she doesn't want to hear! what the hell is this about? if she is so moved on why does she say this? thing is there has been loads of girls after me every time i have been out but i can't move on and be with anybody else as i still love my ex! help! even a nice girl on Saturday night told me i was beautiful ( must be blind! ) and i can't even go for anybody like her! help! help!
moon Posted March 30, 2005 Posted March 30, 2005 Is that really your picture? I am just curious. That might help other posters with your last question.
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted March 30, 2005 Author Posted March 30, 2005 emm moon no! that is david gilmour from pink floyd who is an idol of mine... however my hair is nearly as long as his but unfortunately he is a far better guitarist than I! some of my friends girlfriends say i could get any girl i wanted but i know better than that... i only girls with dark hair and green eyes ( like my mother and grandmother had ) ... weird but true!
moon Posted March 30, 2005 Posted March 30, 2005 By the way its been more than five months since my break up and I had a guy ask me out today and I was the same way.....it didn't even register. It's not like I wouldn't want the right guy to ask me out. But the one who did looks just like my ex except not as cute. They have the same hair and features, though. Now that would be just torture. So maybe this guy will just be a friend because I do work with him. I imagine when you do meet a quality candidate to date again you will probably proceed with it. Remember even when you are single (and not hurting) it's not like you'll date anybody. It takes time, no matter what, to find somebody you actually think you can like. At least for me. But then when I do those relationships (and break ups) seem to last a long time........so I think I will be very picky next time. Maybe you should too. It sounds like your ex still has feeling for you, though. It couldn't be making this any easier that you still talk to her and see her. So maybe go back to the N/C or maybe your ex is going to come back to you. I mean if she dumped you do you really worry that you'll hurt her feelings by dating somebody else? Think more about yourself. I know it's hard, but what does this girl expect? Good luck.
moon Posted March 30, 2005 Posted March 30, 2005 Sorry, I didn't realize the guy in that picture was somebody famous. But that guy is good looking.
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted March 30, 2005 Author Posted March 30, 2005 hi moon, its nice to hear in a strange way that you are in the same boat! i wish you weren't but you know what i mean! i was always very picky but if I ever go again I will be ultra picky! I should have seen the writing on the wall with my ex and dumped her before I became attached to her big time! she will never come back to me but i really think some day she will realise she lost a good guy! she comes to my town so its up to her to stop seeing me in my town and stop calling me! she never really dumped me but moreso freaked out at a bit of a disagreement then didn't attempt to makeup as much as me still heartbroken here! i told her this last time i seen her and she said i broke her heart how?
moon Posted March 30, 2005 Posted March 30, 2005 The thing is I don't want my ex back. He was never very good for me. I feel like (in the long run) our break up was a necessary evil. Of course it doesn't mean that I didn't love him. But I am sort of at an age (the age thing) where I need to find the right person....no more messing around. So I know what you mean. The silly thing about the guy asking me out on a date today was that I could tell he was interested for a while. It is sort of tempting. But then you sort of catch yourself and pull yourself back and say...NO this one isn't right either. Don't ask me why I know this, I just think the guy who asked me out isn't great dating material. He seems like sort of a "ladies man" to me. It might just be my imagination because I have never actually seen him with another women I just think he's the type (?). But I think I am ready to find the right person now. I don't think I will wait as long as my last last relationship. Yeah, I guess life goes on. I think when I do meet the right person it will only confirm how I have felt about this last break up all along.....man it just had to happen because I don't think I could have married my ex anyway. I mean I told my ex all the times the things he had to change before I married him. I don't think we were ever meant for the long haul. I am not much of a dater though. I haven't done a lot of it. I usually either keep things very casual or start a regular relationship. So....I guess I will just keep things casual with those potential dating men around me until I hit the jackpot (and I do mean the JACKPOT). Sounds shallow, but I've done my time. I've paid my dues. Amen.
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