We have to end what we have because of the age difference...How to get over it?

[elizabeth21]

So my friend's uncle is more than twice my age and I'm going to be 20 soon. I've always had a "thing" for him but I decided to cut off contact with him last winter because I thought it was a bad idea. Well in November I saw him when I went out with his family and then started again. It started with short phone calls then we'd talk on the phone for hours. Time flies when I talk to him. So we started hanging out with everyone then hanging out alone.

 

He makes me so freaking happy but I knew in the long run it could never work. So I wanted to end what we had before New Years. Well it didn't last long because after he came back from vacation we hung out again. We've become so close these last few months. Kissed, cuddled, dates at night, etc. But it's causing so much stress because my family despises him and does not approve. And I understand why. It caused an uproar so we decided to keep it on the down low. But today we realized enough was enough. It hurts because we honestly make each other smile so much. I never get tired of talking to him or seeing him. We once talked on the phone til 5 a.m. He said after we get through this he wants to still talk as friends because he enjoys me as a person. How can I get over this because it feels like a freaking break up! Please don't be judgmental. I wish he could have kids with me and we didn't get looked at/talked about. He has 2 kids and the oldest is a few years younger than me (divorced because his wife went for another guy). Advice?

[bigtrouble]

So my friend's uncle is more than twice my age and I'm going to be 20 soon. I've always had a "thing" for him but I decided to cut off contact with him last winter because I thought it was a bad idea. Well in November I saw him when I went out with his family and then started again. It started with short phone calls then we'd talk on the phone for hours. Time flies when I talk to him. So we started hanging out with everyone then hanging out alone.

 

He makes me so freaking happy but I knew in the long run it could never work. So I wanted to end what we had before New Years. Well it didn't last long because after he came back from vacation we hung out again. We've become so close these last few months. Kissed, cuddled, dates at night, etc. But it's causing so much stress because my family despises him and does not approve. And I understand why. It caused an uproar so we decided to keep it on the down low. But today we realized enough was enough. It hurts because we honestly make each other smile so much. I never get tired of talking to him or seeing him. We once talked on the phone til 5 a.m. He said after we get through this he wants to still talk as friends because he enjoys me as a person. How can I get over this because it feels like a freaking break up! Please don't be judgmental. I wish he could have kids with me and we didn't get looked at/talked about. He has 2 kids and the oldest is a few years younger than me (divorced because his wife went for another guy). Advice?

 

Honestly, you are young, you may feel this way now. But after several years its gonna hit you.

 

You will go through some changes, and that happiness you feel now, may not last a long term relationship. As changes come, you will be moving fast and he will be slowing down. Can you really keep your youthful spirit locked?

 

I don't want to judge or anything but I know this, a lot of things will happen in your life, a lot you will learn, you will meet more people, you would want to explore, experience new things.