Lovebella Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 I've been in a serious relationship with a man for about a year and a half we have been living together for about a year. I know what I want out of life, I want to get married, have children, a house etc. I love him and hope it's going to be with him. He says he wants the same things as me and he wants me forever and wants to marry me. He's looked at rings in the past and he says he's waiting for the right time. I can't help but think he doesn't mean it and he's just saying it because it's what I want to hear. I've never met any of his friends, which he never see, he claims is the reason why. I've just recently met his family it took over a year to meet them and they live 20 minutes away. I just can't help but think he's not serious or ready to commit. We have sex like once a week if that sometimes we go three weeks. There's just something off and I can't quite pinpoint it. He treats me ok for the most part, I just don't know how long I should wait
Satu Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 The relationship you have today is the relationship you have. If you're not happy with it today, you won't be happy with it next week, next month, or next year. It will not morph into what you want just because you want it to. 3
WonderWoman911 Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 His behaviors do seem a little sketchy. You've been dating him for a year and you NEVER met his friends and you recently met his family who only lives TWENTY minutes away? :confused:Something isn't right about that. On the flipside of that, if he's ashamed of his family that can be the only reason I think a person wouldn't want their significant other to meet them.But still, at least one time it should've happened. You only have sex about once a week and sometimes it can carry into 3 weeks?! If this was a LDR then it can clearly be an exception,but you're living with this guy. I would have a serious talk with him and ask him is there anything going on that you need to know about. Although you want to get married,have children,etc., with him, you need to make sure he's the right guy for you. You also mentioned that he treats you "ok for the most part". That should be addressed with him also. IMO, the time is now to have this talk so you won't have to wait any longer. 2
Laci1975 Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 Sounds as though he's keeping a part of his life VERY separate from you. Almost like he dont want to take that step of bringing you completely into his life, but just enough to keep you, until he really figures out what he wants to do. His friends and family should have met you a while ago. The Sex thing isnt right either first couple years should be all the time, lol.. 1
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