SadPanda20 Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 I will try to keep this short! We dated 4.5 yrs, he left me for another girl in November (didn't find out he was cheating until December), and then he proposed to her after knowing her for only 8 weeks! The problem is we started a company together. I am his only employee. It's killing me everyday working for him. I don't know what to do. I want him back, but he is with another girl. I know they say to cut communication after a breakup to make your ex miss you, but I work for him. Should I quit? I feel like that would put him in a huge bind, and his company would fail. I feel bad about it, but then again he chose to leave me. He can't have his cake, and eat it too right? I am going to miss working with him, but I'm going to miss how it used to be and not how it is now. So what should I do? Would quitting make him so mad that he won't want me back? Will deciding to keep working for him make him love me again? Please note we talk everyday and he has already said he is rethinking things. (He keeps flip-flopping)
No Limit Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 Quit working for him and get out of there. Who cares if he gets mad? He's out of the picture now, block him on everything, cellphone, social media whatever and move on. You can do better than a cheating idiot. And no, working for someone doesn't make them fall in love with you. He's trying to keep you in case he feels like hooking up when his GF isn't around. Cut all ties to him as quickly as you can.
BC1980 Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 Quit the job. You will never get over him if you stay. This is an awful situation, and the only way forward is to leave the job once you have found something else. I work with my ex, but. . . . and this is a big but, I was NC for almost a year before he came back to work. So I had pretty well detached by that point. Also, I rarely see him and have minimal interaction when it does happen. Still, it has affected me to see him (mostly disgust and anger), so I think your situation must be nearly impossible. You'll never be able to grieve and move on in this state.
Author SadPanda20 Posted January 19, 2015 Author Posted January 19, 2015 Quit the job. You will never get over him if you stay. This is an awful situation, and the only way forward is to leave the job once you have found something else. I work with my ex, but. . . . and this is a big but, I was NC for almost a year before he came back to work. So I had pretty well detached by that point. Also, I rarely see him and have minimal interaction when it does happen. Still, it has affected me to see him (mostly disgust and anger), so I think your situation must be nearly impossible. You'll never be able to grieve and move on in this state. I totally agree with everything you said! I just feel really bad because if I continue NC (starting today), he will not have information about his business. He will have a lot of angry clients, and NC will most likely cost him his business. I did all the back work for his company, so he basically knows nothing. He was just the face of the company, and the bank. I didn't sign a contract and he never paid me, so I don't think legally I will get in trouble. I actually think he would get in trouble even more if he decided to take action against me because he never paid me, and I never filled out any tax paper work, etc.
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