Girlfriend wants to get a tattoo

[TitanRainbow]

My girlfriend wants a tattoo, and originally I thoughts it would be something small nothing over the top, and I was trying to get used to the idea, looking around at tattoos I feel alright about those white ones that look like a scar they look really nice and elegant or something small not too detailed in black I feel alright about.

Last night she told me about these four tattoos she wants to get a huge one on her back and one on her upper arm, two on her leg. They mean a lot to her, and I love her, I don't want to lose her for something like a tattoo but I honestly I don't like how they look i don't like the colour on the skin. I feel very uncomfortable with the idea that they will be on her,

I hate myself for that, I know its her body and she should do what she wants, but .. I just .. I just can't. they mean a lot to her, but I don't know what to do, I honestly don't know how to wrap my head around the idea.

[Ebelskiver]

My bf mentioned wanting a tattoo and it made me a little sad. I just don't care for them. But ultimately it is his body and he can do with it as he pleases. I won't break up with him over it.....unless he gets a facial tattoo.

 

You either have to accept it and promise yourself to never complain about it, or just tell her your reservations and see if she might wait a bit. But again, it's her choice. You just have to decide if it's a big deal or not. Seems a silly reason to break up with someone.

[Danda]

Is she open to the idea of trying a Henna tattoo first? Going from no ink to 4 large tattoos is a big pretty thing, IMO. Not even talking about you, but from her own perspective. That seems kind of impulsive, as well, especially if she doesn't even have one tat yet, and the notion is relatively new. I have one tattoo, it's somewhat prominent and about the diameter of an apple. I wanted it for years before I got it, it has a huge deal of meaning to me, and I also tried out a couple Henna tats first just to see how I'd really feel about something that seemed awesome when I got it, weeks later.

 

I agree that ultimately you either have to be able to accept it, or able to accept that you can't accept it. However, with that topic itself aside, large, permanent body art shouldn't be taken lightly or impulsively, IMO, for the person's own sake. If I were in your shoes I'd gently push for her trying Henna pieces first on the grounds of her finding out how she feels about the work weeks after it's done. What can seem really awesome and meaningful in the here-and-now can feel less-than-stellar once the novelty and excitement of it wears off.

 

If she does try Henna work first and still loves it after said-experiments, then she likely really does want to do this. But IMO for something large and permanent like this, if it is really meaningful to a person and not an impulse or rebellion psychology thing, then there should be no rush. Only takes a matter of months to try some Henna work and gauge one's feelings.

[Gaeta]

When my daughter came home with her entire back tattooed I had a huge fit, how could she mutilate the perfect body I had given her. Fast forward a couple of years, now 75% of her body is tattooed. I had no choice but to learn to love it. Today I see my daughter, not the tattoos. They have become invisible to me. The same will happen to you, you will get use to them and eventually you won't see them anymore.

[Woggle]

At the end of the day it is her body. She likes tattoos and you can't change that no matter how hard you try.