crazychick Posted March 30, 2005 Posted March 30, 2005 Oh my GOD - somebody seriously needs to smack me. So today I booked a trip to Italy and Greece. I am going on a cruise. I am so excited because I have never been there before and I was like going thru the roof with happiness as soon as it was booked. Then as I am rushing to get out of work, I get this phone call from the ex. Which basically was like, just wanted to see what was up with you, blah blah blah. But he was acting like a jerk. I didn't mention the trip to him, the whole conversation was just fricken weird. He was really stand-offish and just I don't know - weird. So I said that he didn't have to call me, and he said he just wanted to see what was up with me. Why call me if he is going to be an a**hole? I don't get it. So I hang up with him and I go to call my friend to tell her about it and I accidentally call him back - my stupid phone has the outgoing, incoming and missed calls list all in one when you hit talk and even though she was the last person I called since his incoming call was top of the list I called him. UGH, so then I feel like an idiot, cuz I'm all - "I didn't mean to call you, was trying to call Sharon, sorry, bye." And he is laughing at me, whatever. I am so pissed off because now instead of being excited about this trip, I am thinking about him and what an ass he is and I am angry at him for calling. Its like everyday when I feel better about not being with him, he calls or something. You know, this breakup was his freaking idea so leave me alone already! I don't want to hear him calling me and being a jerk. I hate this!!!!!
Shuffty Posted April 2, 2005 Posted April 2, 2005 I am thinking about him and what an ass he is and I am angry at him for calling. Its like everyday when I feel better about not being with him, he calls or something. You know, this breakup was his freaking idea so leave me alone already! I don't want to hear him calling me and being a jerk. I hate this!!!!! Say that to him!! Next time he calls, tell him it was his idea to break up, so he can't keep calling you. You're not his girlfriend, and are not available to talk to whenever he's feeling like an a**h***. Or even call him, so you won't be waiting on him, because you might lose your nerve Work out what you want to say and get in there first! Or just hang up. He's not your problem anymore. So what if he laughed when you accidentally called him?! You don't have to care what he thinks, that's the beauty of breaking up. And if he found that so funny, he must be pretty sad. Don't let him ruin your trip. And don't worry if he's going to call, or wonder when you should call him or whatever. In fact, don't let him worry you full stop, go and have fun!
sami Posted April 2, 2005 Posted April 2, 2005 He may be saying the same thing about you right now. Once it's over there's nothing good left. Once you leave the good is history.
Shuffty Posted April 2, 2005 Posted April 2, 2005 He may be saying the same thing about you right now. But she's not the one phoning him up to see if he's still crying over her.
faux Posted April 2, 2005 Posted April 2, 2005 Do not answer his phone calls any more. Block his number. Set his telephone calls to have a very specific ring; one which you can easily ignore. Always send him directly to voice mail. There are a variety of ways you can handle the situation. If you really wanted to, you could probably get away with telling him he is being an ass, and that you do not want him to talk to you ever again and such.
sami Posted April 2, 2005 Posted April 2, 2005 don't ever do that. That will put you on the defensive. Just go ahead and ask him not to bother you. Period.,
Shuffty Posted April 2, 2005 Posted April 2, 2005 Why would that make her defensive? She'd just be making it clear that she doesn't want him callling her, then maybe he'd get the message. Although i do agree that you should tell him not to bother you. Then he can't say you didn't spell it out to him.
Author crazychick Posted April 4, 2005 Author Posted April 4, 2005 I guess what bothers me is how random it is. I won't hear anything from him at all for days, and I will start to feel better, like it's behind me. (or getting there). I mean I am starting to think about him less, and I think now that I am at the point where I am beginning to see that I like my life and who I am better without him. I have more time to focus on other things and I feel calmer and more relaxed. He just gets me all worked up when he calls. It's too soon for us to try to be friends, there are too many feelings. I don't know if I should block his number, but I think I am just not going to take his calls, if and when he calls again. Let him get my voicemail. If he wants to talk he can leave a message. If not thats fine too. We both need to move on. One thing that was said was "once it's over there is nothing good left" and I don't think thats really true. I think that there is good left. I think at some point you can look back and see what things drew you together, you can remember the funny stories of things that happened between the two of you and remember why you were together. You just need to get past the bitterness first. That may take some time, but I think it's healthier to think about the good things instead of the bad.
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