dsd85 Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I started a new thread bc the other one below had far too much info. I just have a question for everyone regarding sex with someone you're dating for about a month. If you're the guy in the scenerio and you've been seeing a girl twice a week for a month and she's been over three times (slept over twice) and she hasnt had sex, only made out with you, would you dump her bc of lack of physical contact? We have chemistry, we kiss passionately but I didn't sleep with him and I think that might've been a turn off and he's thinking it's been a month already it's not going anywhere and he needed more physical intimacy. Do guys bond through sex? I feel like he liked me but me not putting out turned him off. Especially since he's been very respectful Affectionate with me and it's been a month already. So does no sex after a month and 7 dates and two sleep overs = dump her?
Ieris Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I read your other post and I believe he would have dumped you whether you slept with him or not. Be glad that you didn't sleep with him...
batt Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I think I got dumped, because I wanted sex. Almost same scenario as you. However, I was willing to wait until she was ready. Apparently guys who think about sex was a turnoff/dealbreaker for her. As for you if he can't wait then talk to him about it.
Author dsd85 Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 His reason to break things off was bc an old gf of a cpl years came back in the picture. I took it very well and told him goodluck. But my instinct tells me it's bc of no sex. I should've asked him. Is it weird to ask him in a few days?
batt Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 His reason to break things off was bc an old gf of a cpl years came back in the picture. I took it very well and told him goodluck. But my instinct tells me it's bc of no sex. I should've asked him. Is it weird to ask him in a few days? I would just leave it be. I tried getting answers from my ex, and she made it seem like it was my fault. She still left me with no answers after basically telling me to **** off. I was willing to wait, in your case if an ex enters the picture and he's not willing to wait then move on.
robaday Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 There's a really fine line here regarding not having sex first few dates......I dated a girl for maybe two months and she didnt want to have sex the whole time (we slept in same bed a few times), so I stopped seeing her. My reason - I didnt think she was into me and had friend zoned me. I'm willing to wait but after two months I just figured to cut my losses because it seemed like she wasn't that into it. Later (a long time later) she asked me why I'd broken it off, it was clear it had hurt her. I wasn't just after sex but there has to be some indication your attraction is being reciprocated and affection/sex is one way of doing that. I think if shed explained to me that she wanted to wait/had been hurt etc I might have been more patient and understanding.
rester Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 His reason to break things off was bc an old gf of a cpl years came back in the picture. I took it very well and told him goodluck. But my instinct tells me it's bc of no sex. I should've asked him. Is it weird to ask him in a few days? Didn't read your other thread, but I would go with what he told you and not what your imagination is telling you. Asking him would be weird and would do you no good. Personally, if I was in the situation in your OP, I would not break it off because of lack of sex. That wouldn't deter me at all. 1
mammasita Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 I'm quite his moving on is not because you didn't have sex. A month is not a long time at all. I'd recommend talking about where your relationship is/heading before having sex anyway.
sober and dry Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 Why the hell is "no sex on 7th date and one month of texting" is a reason to let go/give up?!? I can't believe it... I can't wrap my mind around it...
batt Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 Why the hell is "no sex on 7th date and one month of texting" is a reason to let go/give up?!? I can't believe it... I can't wrap my mind around it... I'm on the opposite spectrum. I tried to initiate and it turned her off or so she says. It wasn't a deal breaker for me, but it was apparently a deal breaker for her. However, my situation is different. As I said earlier, if I genuinely care for a girl, her refusing sex until she is ready wouldn't be grounds for a BU.
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