kaisergal Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 At the xmas do I had a drunken snog with guy who works with me and we hung out all night hugging and kissing Since then even after 3 wks me being off he's still being off with me no longer bantering with me etc... I talked to one of the guys in my office and said maybe he's embarrassed. Will he ever get bk to norm with me
kendahke Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 He might be regretting his behavior and is embarrassed to come around you. I'd focus on other things and leave him be. 2
Satu Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 It will never be the same as it was before you did this. Thats why its best to consider the consequences before you do something.
Author kaisergal Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 He might be regretting his behavior and is embarrassed to come around you. I'd focus on other things and leave him be. Do u think he'll ever be the same jokey self with me again??
evanescentworld Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Why don't you have a quiet word with him and find out? You know, lay demons to rest, clean the page, start anew... Jeesh, sometimes, I wonder how people can't see it just takes a bit of initiative - you've kissed the guy - why not actually TALK to him!!!??? 3
Author kaisergal Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 It's awkward as we work in same room will he ever get over it
evanescentworld Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 (edited) Honestly? How the heck should we know? Is there in fact anything he needs to get over? maybe his distance is that he really doesn't like you after all! The only one who can really get to the bottom of this - is you! Go for it!! Also, see responses in this thread, including my (final) one! Edited January 18, 2015 by evanescentworld
Author kaisergal Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 Honestly? How the heck should we know? Is there in fact anything he needs to get over? maybe his distance is that he really doesn't like you after all! The only one who can really get to the bottom of this - is you! Go for it!! Also, see responses in this thread, including my (final) one! Must be something for him to b so weird with me
evanescentworld Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 'be'. not 'b'. This is a forum, not an algebra workbook. We use words here, not formulas.
Author kaisergal Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 'be'. not 'b'. This is a forum, not an algebra workbook. We use words here, not formulas. Sorry! But will he ever get over this I thought having 3 wks off he would've been ok with me
evanescentworld Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 It's Monday tomorrow. I presume you will be back at work with him. If you get a few quiet minutes, just ask him out for a drink after work, or suggest grabbing a bite together at lunchtime... Maybe he thinks you're being awkward with HIM. One of you needs to break the ice. I really can't tell you anything else.... but the only way to find out what gives, is to dive in, grab the bull by the horns and deal with it head-on....
smackie9 Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Drunken snog at a company party? not unusual, but ya like most it's regretful the morning after..... followed by the office gossip around the water cooler. He's embarrassed about it. Nothing worse than co-workers spreading rumors about you two doing it each other, that's why he's avoiding you. He wants to make sure they know nothing is going on with you two.
Author kaisergal Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 Drunken snog at a company party? not unusual, but ya like most it's regretful the morning after..... followed by the office gossip around the water cooler. He's embarrassed about it. Nothing worse than co-workers spreading rumors about you two doing it each other, that's why he's avoiding you. He wants to make sure they know nothing is going on with you two. I understand that but will he ever be normal with me again and what bout the stuff he said when he was under the influence. As I work in a male orientated department is it likely they've taken the piss
smackie9 Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 What? do you think everyone is honest when under the influence? no, people will do and say things they don't mean. Whatever he told you he probably wishes he could take it back. As for him? maybe he will recover from it in a month or so.....everyone is different, maybe he will never feel comfortable around you again......like the others have said, maybe you have to break the tension and talk to him about it. Sometime we just have to step up and clear the air.
Author kaisergal Posted January 19, 2015 Author Posted January 19, 2015 What? do you think everyone is honest when under the influence? no, people will do and say things they don't mean. Whatever he told you he probably wishes he could take it back. As for him? maybe he will recover from it in a month or so.....everyone is different, maybe he will never feel comfortable around you again......like the others have said, maybe you have to break the tension and talk to him about it. Sometime we just have to step up and clear the air. Maybe but in work not sure it's the right place... All I know it's gone from him constantly flirting and tormenting me to nada
Satu Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 Maybe but in work not sure it's the right place... All I know it's gone from him constantly flirting and tormenting me to nada What is your desired outcome? What would you like to happen?
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