VedderisBetter Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I went on a date with a girl who was 9 years older. I'm 28, shes 37. She did look younger in her pics but she was a bit odd. While on our date eating, she decided to whip out her phone and show me some if her "modeling" pics. She said she paid for modeling school but no one showed up to the gigs she had so she gave up. To me, this screamed awkward and like she needed validation. Plus, at the end of the date, I didn't realize it then but now I do: she saw a spray bottle on one of the tables and was like "do you see that spray bottle over there? I think they are cleaning the tables soon." This was her way of saying she wanted to get out of dodge. I shouldn't have paid for her portion but was a gentleman and did. Luckily, I have a date with another girl I met from a pay site who I think will be a better match. Anyone else have any similiar dating stories they'd like to share lol?
WonderWoman911 Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Yes,that date was a little weird. One, for her to show you her modeling pictures was a sign of validation and/or so you can see what she look like being "dolled up",being as though she's an older woman. I don't understand her reasoning for mentioning how she paid for modeling school,but no one showed up which led to her giving up. Those details could've been left out. :confused:The spray bottle comment is odd. The way she mentioned it was like she wanted to leave before they make their way over to sanitize her,lol:lmao:....Like why so much the rush to get out of dodge?
Gaeta Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I don't really find it weird. She was sharing things about her. You interpreted it as her needing validation, she was probably just sharing a dream of hers that did not materialized. You have to be humble to admit to someone you tried something and it didn't work. You usually don't try to validate yourself to others by talking about a failure. As for the sanitizer, if I were eating in a restaurant and the waiter left his cleaning products on the table next to ours I would not be happy. If I mentioned something it would be to point out how inappropriate this is, not to speed up the date. 1
preraph Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 If there was a lot of skin in those pics and she was flattering you a lot, then it could even be she's trying to be a prostitute. Otherwise, this is her one claim to fame so she showed it to you.
WonderWoman911 Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 If there was a lot of skin in those pics and she was flattering you a lot, then it could even be she's trying to be a prostitute. Otherwise, this is her one claim to fame so she showed it to you. Lol........ 2
Eighty_nine Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I think showing you pics of her modeling is super weird, yep. Screams insecurity. Maybe several dates in it would seem less strange. 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 As for the sanitizer, if I were eating in a restaurant and the waiter left his cleaning products on the table next to ours I would not be happy. If I mentioned something it would be to point out how inappropriate this is, not to speed up the date. Really? I would recognise that people working in the restaurant have homes to get to as well and realise it was time to leave. Can't stand people who sit there all night well up until closing time then act offended when they have to leave. You wouldn't complain about someone in retail starting to pull the shutters down if you went in five minutes before close.
writergal Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I think it was totally inappropriate for her to show you her modeling pics. Who does that on a 1st date? Sure, if modeling is your dream then talk about it. But showing a complete stranger photos of you (probably) scantily clad in bikinis is very, very strange behavior. She was definitely seeking your validation of her physical appearance. Just bizarre behavior on her part. And her weird story about how no one else showed up at her modeling school makes me think there was no modeling school and that these were selfies she took or had a friend take of her. This is one of the pitfalls of online dating: all the weirdos you meet. Hope your date with your other woman went better!
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Probably since she was quite a bit older she wanted to show you how good she could look. When women are younger they don't give a damn yet, but as they get older they can get a bit self conscious, especially dating a younger guy who they probably think has options. She was probably dropping hints about other things, and sounds like she may have been trying to get out of the restaurant not exactly away from the date...it's hard to tell from what you're saying...but provocative pics, a gesture to move out of that location...I mean, she probably liked you. Call her up at like 12 am saying you are lonely
elaine567 Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Call her up at like 12 am saying you are lonely Call her up at midday and ask if she wants lunch...
Gaeta Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Where did OP say those modeling pictures were her in bikini? I have a friend who does modeling and there are no bikini pictures in her portfolio.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Call her up at midday and ask if she wants lunch... That's so 2014.
Gaeta Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Really? I would recognise that people working in the restaurant have homes to get to as well and realise it was time to leave. Can't stand people who sit there all night well up until closing time then act offended when they have to leave. You wouldn't complain about someone in retail starting to pull the shutters down if you went in five minutes before close. OP did not mention it was closing time. If it was indeed closing time, employees turning off lights and sweeping under tables then she did nothing wrong by pointing the cleaning supplies as a hint it's time to go. 2
irresolute Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I went on a date with a girl who was 9 years older. I'm 28, shes 37. She did look younger in her pics but she was a bit odd. While on our date eating, she decided to whip out her phone and show me some if her "modeling" pics. She said she paid for modeling school but no one showed up to the gigs she had so she gave up. To me, this screamed awkward and like she needed validation. Plus, at the end of the date, I didn't realize it then but now I do: she saw a spray bottle on one of the tables and was like "do you see that spray bottle over there? I think they are cleaning the tables soon." This was her way of saying she wanted to get out of dodge. I shouldn't have paid for her portion but was a gentleman and did. Luckily, I have a date with another girl I met from a pay site who I think will be a better match. Anyone else have any similiar dating stories they'd like to share lol? I don't find anything weird about this girl. what is weird is your attitude and you posting about it. what's the big deal? 4
umirano Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I unknowingly dated a 37yo too this week. I knew her age, but I didn't know it was a date, LOL. We used to work together. When I took her to the train station she told me "I'd jump in as a GF, as you don't have anyone around right now". We talked about our love lives over drinks that night. I thanked her but declined...
irresolute Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I unknowingly dated a 37yo too this week. I knew her age, but I didn't know it was a date, LOL. We used to work together. When I took her to the train station she told me "I'd jump in as a GF, as you don't have anyone around right now". We talked about our love lives over drinks that night. I thanked her but declined... Really? How come? She was not attractive enough?
umirano Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Really? How come? She was not attractive enough? Hm... she's too nervous, I've never seen her that way, not sexual enough for me, not my style in general (clothing, political views). She's in a different life stage. She's a great friend though, very down to earth and experienced. And I'm probably not completely over the last RS. I think I did her and myself a favor.
acrosstheuniverse Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 OP did not mention it was closing time. If it was indeed closing time, employees turning off lights and sweeping under tables then she did nothing wrong by pointing the cleaning supplies as a hint it's time to go. Good point... I should read more thoroughly!
hoping2heal Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I went on a date with a girl who was 9 years older. I'm 28, shes 37. She did look younger in her pics but she was a bit odd. While on our date eating, she decided to whip out her phone and show me some if her "modeling" pics. She said she paid for modeling school but no one showed up to the gigs she had so she gave up. To me, this screamed awkward and like she needed validation. Plus, at the end of the date, I didn't realize it then but now I do: she saw a spray bottle on one of the tables and was like "do you see that spray bottle over there? I think they are cleaning the tables soon." This was her way of saying she wanted to get out of dodge. I shouldn't have paid for her portion but was a gentleman and did. Luckily, I have a date with another girl I met from a pay site who I think will be a better match. Anyone else have any similiar dating stories they'd like to share lol? I thought this was totally awkward lol. Maybe not so much the spray bottle thing, but showing you modelling pics and talking about how no one showed up, bla bla bla. I don't know, awwwwwkward. 1
Author VedderisBetter Posted January 23, 2015 Author Posted January 23, 2015 She had short skirts on in the pics but I did google her and found she had nude photos a photographer took of her. It didn't reveal any private parts because of the lighting though. This and the fact that after I told her we should just be friends, she proceeded to tell me her and her parents jammed out to heavy metal at her parents house the day after our date. She asked me if this surprised me and I said a little bit but no biggy. I basically said that to cut her off lol.
lovexocoach Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 Doesn't sound totally weird at first blush. For some it would be awkward, for others it wouldn't. Obviously not a match made in heaven. At least you took the initiative to meet her and were gracious in picking up the check.
Leigh 87 Posted January 24, 2015 Posted January 24, 2015 I think showing you pics of her modeling is super weird, yep. Screams insecurity. Maybe several dates in it would seem less strange. Yeah.... I don't even tell new guys I did modelling when I was younger unless they ask me - when they have asked I admit that I have. I refuse to show them pictures from it. Any young teen can model it doesn't make you special. I think it a woman admits to a date that she did modelling it is a turn off. Unless they are asked.
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