down hearted Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 (edited) So i am trying to adjust to this new job i have which i do enjoy and i am happy with but for some reason as always working with other women is very difficult. We have one male employee who works with us who is very nice a little too friendly but not rude or disrespectful in any kind of way. Apparently i heard from someone else that it is possible that he may have a crush on me but i don't see him that way AT ALL what so ever, i do notice he really does show interest in me and the conversation sometimes as well like last time he said to me that he has been looking to see when i am scheduled to work to see if i am working too and haven't gotten the same days or whatever like dumb stuff but i don't see anything of it. So when he comes and says hi to me he is really friendly but he is like this with EVERYONE its just who he is but one of my coworkers came up to me after he left and said to me childish like "oooo i see theres something going on with the two of you or whatever" I got mad i said no there is NOTHING going on at ALL why would you say that and she started insinuating things and i was like no, then she kind of got it and said to me he is like that with everyone even with me (she is an old lady) and she says he is like that with all the new girls he is just nice or what not (so in my mind am like then why are you starting crap) Anyway this is the second person that has said something to me, i like my job i like where i am at even though i am just sucking it up for a year or at least 6 months to transfer else where within the company since the drive for me is horrible (1 hour long and 1-2hrs and a half with traffic during the week) But i HATE gossip specially when i haven't done anything to spark the fire. did you ever get drawn up in gossip without even doing or saying anything, i don't know how to shut this up and the more i say there is nothing going on or will ever be the worse it is because people start insinuating i don't know how to put out the fire? I dont even work with him, every time i am coming in he is on his way out! I'll keep been neutral i guess and let them talk all they want, but i don't want them to tell him something and for him to think i like him when i don't and I HATE DRAMA i didnt even start what the heck!! any thoughts please? I honestly don't know how to stop this BS! I hate working with women honestly it does not fail they are so malicious and gossipy!! I rather work with guys. Now i feel bad even saying hi back to him, he isn't rude to me and i don't want to seem like a jerk not saying hi back is not his fault these people are idiots. I looked at my schedule and all the days i work he also works (only when i come in he leaves) but its going to be horrible because he tries to stay longer when i am there...... !! Edited January 18, 2015 by down hearted
WonderWoman911 Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Well there's no way to stop the drama or the gossiping. That's just the way some women are. They don't have anything better to do but to run their mouth about a whole bunch of bs. But don't feel bad speaking back to the guy. Don't burn your bridges with other people because they want to act like little girls. You said he isn't rude to you so I wouldn't give that type of behavior towards him. More than likely, he know how those women are. So even if they did try to tell him lies about you, more than likely he won't believe them. One day in the future the two of you probably will have time to talk and he'll get to know you, and not based off of he or she say.Just don't feed into their mess. It's not worth your time or energy.
preraph Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Well, the man told you he's trying to schedule when you're there and men don't do that and pay a bunch of attention to you out of just being platonic. He has a thing for you and you aren't doing anything to discourage it, and this is the workplace. They've been there long enough to know what he's like, and you haven't. You need to tell him people are talking and you want it to stop so he needs to back off. You have accepted him after he confessed his interest in you so he thinks you like him back.
chumble Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 It's tough to understand your post. Does this guy ever say anything to you besides "hello", or is it the gossipy women you are complaining about? How do you know he is adjusting his schedule to yours? Has this been discussed? You run into him every time you arrive, or just often?
applej4 Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 To be honest I'd focus on the job duties and not comment or listen to their gossip. Be civil, professional, but excuse yourself and say "I'm busy learning the job", smile and walk away. Do not comment, and stop worrying about what that guy might be thinking.
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