dsd85 Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 (edited) Hi everyone I feel like I have bad luck with dating and I'm starting to feel it's something wrong with me. I'm bummed out bc a guy I was seeing for a month just told me he can't see me anymore bc his ex cane back in the picture. This is a man who I've always dreamt of, he was perfect, or at least I thought he was and we were getting along great. I was really excited after dating for two years and not having any luck I thought I might've finally been getting it right. I just need some words of encouragement bc I feel like my life is passing me by and I'm not getting to experience the best feeling in the world, which is love. Quick background: I met him online a month ago and we clicked instantly. Things have been going great up to last weekend. I slept over his house but there was no sex, this was about the 7th or 8th time seeing each other. I've slept over one other time before this too. I thought we had a great time and the next morning we went for breakfast and he was being more affectionate than usual, so I didn't think anything was wrong. That night I didn't message me goodnight as he usually does which I thought was weird. The next day I hadnt heard from him so I sent him a quick text and he was cold. The following day I asked him if he wanted to meet up and he flat out ignored me. I let the week go by and still nothing. So I sent him a message yesterday telling him how I was feeling and asking if I had done something wrong. I felt like maybe he had lost interest bc I didn't have sex? I was confused as to why cut communication so suddenly when the last time I saw him things were great and I felt closer to him. Anyway, he writes back saying it was nothing I did and that my message is very sweet however someone from his past had come back in the picture and he doesn't want to be unfair. I was cool about it and said it's fine, we'll keep in touch. He said he definitely would like to keep in touch and was being very apologetic. It's fine but I'm sad that this keeps happening to me one way or another. I really began to fall for this guy, I think I did fall for him. I'm wondering if there's a chance he will come back around. This sucks Edited January 18, 2015 by dsd85
bigtrouble Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Hi everyone I feel like I have bad luck with dating and I'm starting to feel it's something wrong with me. I'm bummed out bc a guy I was seeing for a month just told me he can't see me anymore bc his ex cane back in the picture. There is nothing wrong with you, he went on a date with you, means he was attracted to you (you are attractive), but he may be emotionally unavailable, since his Ex came back. This has nothing to do with luck or you, its him. He's just not ready, he is not over his Ex. Hi everyone He said he definitely would like to keep in touch and was being very apologetic. He went cold and distant. Do you want to be a safety net. Hoping for something that may be or not, can you live day to day thinking he is out there with his Ex, while you are here missing him. Hi everyone It's fine but I'm sad that this keeps happening to me one way or another. I really began to fall for this guy, I think I did fall for him. I'm wondering if there's a chance he will come back around. Don't dwell on your sadness. You met him online, I'm quite sure you will meet more, keep your options open. You are free, give him space and give yourself another chance.
Marco Valerio Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I totally agree with bigtrouble. In this case you can trully say, it's not you, IT'S HIM !!!!
Author dsd85 Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 Thanks, I just feel like it was something I did and this ex gf story isn't completely true. He's been single for two years a little more so how is it so much coincidence that she would pop back in now, and even if she did, why would he cut things off w me if there is potential and he really liked me. Why not just wait a little. The fact that I didn't sleep w him on our seventh date and my second time sleeping over makes me look like I'm a tease and I think that might've turned him off. If I had sex with him I think things would've been different. Nobody wants a tease or a prude and he has shown me a lit if attention and affection and respect for the last month. I think I messed up by not having sex with him especially since I'm in his bed and we are making out passionately. I think I messed up a possible good thing by overthinking and thinking the worst. I rly did want to sleep a him but i didn't bc I was afraid he would leave after based on bad experiences
Author dsd85 Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 Also- why would he still be logging in to they dating site we met on if he's going to work things out w his ex
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