Lynn81 Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Hi I am very good friends with a guy at work, he is 10 years younger than me, he has always shown a weird interest or acted different to me for example: Always had a pet name for me, always just buys me birthday and Christmas gifts, always likes to be around me on nights out, staring at me complimenting me constantly saying how beautiful I look and take selfies, confides in me about girlfriend issues or family, says I look great at work when wearing new outfit or change my hair, says am so lovely n personality awesome, craves my attention, hates upsetting me and will apologise straight away, gets shy when alone blushes. Gets jealous when I mention other men Generally he very nice guy and does sometimes compliment girls rare though only me but when we talk bout old team we worked on he will say who misses but never me as I work bank behind him now, and I do so much for him at work no one else does. I have bf and he upset me other day and told him and he said no one upsets my girl and winked. He use to cuddle me lots but that stopped and he once said don't fancy u but I was drunk n annoying him. But says nice things to me and always so nice and smiling but if I get moody he hates it, but sometimes more last few days he kinda changed again, him and his gf betting on better now so now says like if I say am on top on u on email he goes no not like that ur my friend but before smiled n winked, and when other colleages around more so men will change behaviour. But this other girl worked on our old team, she lovely but younger than me has bf and bit slimmer, but when she around he kinda changes to me like I get ignored, or makes me sound dumb about old job and asks her everything, even if am next to him, seems to want to sit next to her even though hardly talk. It's like I don't exist suddenly but don't flirt as such, but he does sometimes compliment her but why do this to me, I feel used as a friend and upset?
deathandtaxes Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Hard to read and make sense of this....but looking at your post title, people will act and get away with what you let them. 1
preraph Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 He just sounds like a player and attention wh*re. He flirts and wants all the attention. He gets mad when he isn't the center of attention. He is totally fickle about women. He has a gf but is flirting all over his workplace and getting people stirred up. And then that comment he made "not fancy U," that would have been the lid back on the pickle jar for me. 2
Satu Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 "Why does Guy friend act like this?" Because he's not really a friend.
KimmyBee Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 (edited) I went through exactly the same thing! We were close friends for over a year and he would drop me whenever this girl was around. She had a boyfriend. I put up with it for so long because I had feelings for him. I let him treat me like a door mat. One day I had the courage to tell him what I thought of him and he came back running and begging me for forgiveness. I forgave him and then he did it again! I told him I was done with the friendship and it hurt at first but then it felt really good. People like that are insecure and attention seeking. He has your attention and now he is after someone elses. If you withdraw from him then he will probably come running back but don't fall for it. He's using you. Edited January 18, 2015 by KimmyBee
Author Lynn81 Posted March 5, 2015 Author Posted March 5, 2015 (edited) Hello All Am confused about a guys behaviour toward me at work, we are good friends but I got moved and sit very close to him now and he started doing well acting different. If I ask other guys about there evenings etc he interupts and says how was your evening as he always asked me but stopped for no reason so I did, we have this joke about who is my favourite and he keeps saying woman near him who also my friend is his favourite and I can hear him saying it over and over and saying how great she is and really thanks her for stuff like fruit. He so ott now with older women around us teasing etc acting very loud and jokey, but yet am the one who gives him stuff helps him is there for him but he never goes on like that but cheers that's it. He stares lots, likes to see me smile as says smile more, teases me lots and he knew upset me today kept talking crap if honest to keep me talking and saying I only joke you are favourite but he goes over the top., he likes my attention and says am so nice and checks me out too now and out of work social events touches my shoulders lots and always near me, Why would he act like this now with me but want to lunch with me still and is so comfortable with me but then acts all immature and if honest selfish to me but yet others get treated better, he use to always be nice then overnight like this? Edited March 5, 2015 by Lynn81 Wrong forum
Author Lynn81 Posted March 5, 2015 Author Posted March 5, 2015 Hey am very confused about guys behaviour towards me. We work togeather and are really comfortable with each other, he does the following: Buys me birthday presents only Likes to tell me jokes, as in he comes to my desk at work to tell me joke and says did you like that. Acts all silly when am around Blushes if I say touch my arm etc when alone Let's me touch him but hugs all my friends no problems but gets weird round me as use too? Stares at me lots Knows when am down and just gets me Touches my shoulders hair etc lots but not in work Checks me out sometimes Now he also is very friendly in general to others but he seems to like to know more bout me, like says i would love to go holiday with you and he says he is good looking and always asking me, if I say am I your favourite he goes it's a secret and laughs. But he use to compliment me lots, tease me lots more but he don't do that as much, he also very comfortable as in he got new car he asked me to go for ride not anyone else and always asks me to help him with things. We both got partners, what's the deal help?
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