Nina1 Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 So there's this guy in university..He is sociable, optimistic, he smiles all the time, speak with all the girls, is super cool. But the problem is he doesn't speak to me, he is like ignoring me. But the thing is he is staring at me everytime he has the chance to, and everytime I look at him, he's smiling. He has no problem flirting with every girl he sees but when it's me, he just gets all shy. And it's weird cuz he is not a shy person at all, he is talkative,curious with the other people. I don't know how to react, I don't know why he doesn't talk to me or even say hi. I don't know why he acts different with me.
365daysgone Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Why not make the first move?? He's probably waiting and if you don't then he will just go onto someone else.
HarryG Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Could be a sign that he is intimidated by you.
Author Nina1 Posted January 17, 2015 Author Posted January 17, 2015 But is it a good thing though?? when a guy is intimidated by a girl, does it mean he actually likes the girl?? and there are a lot of girls, why is he only intimidated by me????
Author Nina1 Posted January 17, 2015 Author Posted January 17, 2015 So you feel he acts like that because he likes me? idk if it's the case, I feel like he has to do the first move though. I'm kinda shy, I don't think I could take the risk and do the 1st move.
365daysgone Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 So you feel he acts like that because he likes me? idk if it's the case, I feel like he has to do the first move though. I'm kinda shy, I don't think I could take the risk and do the 1st move. Why should he make the first move? Because he's the guy? God I can't stand that mindset from girls! I understand that you may be shy but maybe he is shy around you. I'm like that sometimes too. Doesn't necessarily mean I like you anymore than other girls, sometimes it just takes longer to get more comfortable with certain girls. There's no way to know what he's thinking or feeling towards you but what you're doing right now is gonna end up driving you nuts. Don't overthink anything. Either throw him some hints that you want him to approach you or forget about him and move on.
Author Nina1 Posted January 17, 2015 Author Posted January 17, 2015 I don't think guys always have to make the 1st move, I already made the 1st move even though I'm shy. But that's the thing, everytime I made the 1st move, I knew the guy was into me, in this case, his all attitude is weird, that's why I don't really know what to think about this situation...What are the hints you are talking about? what do you guys consider as hints that make u think we want u to approach us?
preraph Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 As long as you're smiling back and looking approachable and open, I'd wait and let him decide to make the move. He may be "taken." 2
Bellaisa Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 He has no problem flirting with every girl he sees but when it's me, he just gets all shy. And it's weird cuz he is not a shy person at all, he is talkative,curious with the other people. When someone acts differently around you than other people, then they feel strongly about you in one way or the other. They either really like you or they really don't like you. Because he's smiling at you, I'm willing to bet he likes you. The fact that he's not talking at all, tells me he is nervous. You may be intimidating to him, or he may not be confident he can get you. If you like him, smile back and be inviting to him. The more inviting you are, the more likely he will approach you. 1
Author Nina1 Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 I know he's not taken though, he flirts with some girls, and I heard he said he was single..
Author Nina1 Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 I can see he is nervous when he is next to me. But I don't understand how I may be intimidating to him, or that he may not be confident he can get me. I mean what would I have done that made he feels that? idk..
preraph Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Well, if he's outgoing with others, I'd wait and let him muster up and decide if he wants to talk to you or not. He sounds a bit playerish.
singlelife Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 He obviously wants you more than he ever thought. You should talk to him and let it come out in conversation. Sounds like a special situation you both don't want to miss out on. 1
Author Nina1 Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 (edited) "he sounds a bit playerish" <---- true! that's exactly what I noticed, but it makes the whole situation even more special and weird... he literally talk to every girls, and if he doesn't flirt with some girls, he just talk to them, try to be cool but he never talk to me, he just stares at me, and I really think that he wants to approach me sometimes, but he never talk to me.. So that's kinda paradoxal. Edited January 18, 2015 by Nina1
Author Nina1 Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 "He obviously wants you more than he ever thought." If it's true, I can understand why he didn't talk to me though, after all he doesn't even know if I have already a boyfriend. I'm single but he doesn't know it..
singlelife Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 "He obviously wants you more than he ever thought." If it's true, I can understand why he didn't talk to me though, after all he doesn't even know if I have already a boyfriend. I'm single but he doesn't know it.. Sounds interesting.
FitChick Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Do you like him or not? If you do then say "Hi" and smile when you walk by. See if he follows up. 1
singlelife Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I don't think guys always have to make the 1st move, I already made the 1st move even though I'm shy. But that's the thing, everytime I made the 1st move, I knew the guy was into me, in this case, his all attitude is weird, that's why I don't really know what to think about this situation...What are the hints you are talking about? what do you guys consider as hints that make u think we want u to approach us? What was your first move?
Author Nina1 Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 It depends, the thing is, it always came naturally.. but before doing the 1st move, you need to know a minimum the person. And in this case, he never talked to me so that's why this whole situation is weird... It's the 1st time a guy is only shy around me..
singlelife Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 It depends, the thing is, it always came naturally.. but before doing the 1st move, you need to know a minimum the person. And in this case, he never talked to me so that's why this whole situation is weird... It's the 1st time a guy is only shy around me.. How did you interact with him?
todreaminblue Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 you really dont know what he is thinking or feeling you can try and use intuition honestly the best thing you can do is be friendly and open and others have suggested open the conversation first...extreme shyness is debilitating.....i know i went through it when i was young i would actually cover my eyes...sometimes that comes back and i do it as an adult...i am aware somewhere in my psyche that i dotn need to do it.....but i cant control things that happen when i am shy even my own actions or reactions to others.....what i do for people when i feel shyness coming from them is understand what it feels like.....and i step back enough to let them feel comfortable i wont look at them directly but when i talk to them i am open and friendly and smiling...so they can look at me without me staring right back at them ...i developed this with shy kids...and it works.and i have dealt with shy men.......they eventually come to me and i increase eye contact over time they actually dont notice.....it just happens naturally they feel comfortable enough to open up to me.....when i used to eb an escort i had first times who were beaten up by women basically .....rejected unsure and shy........i was put with guys like that because i made them feel comfortable.....by using above what i have told you...it takes effort and soem women think its not worth it...i can honestly tell you....its worth every bit to bring a guy out of his shell.... these guys are pretty special.......deb
singlelife Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 It depends, the thing is, it always came naturally.. but before doing the 1st move, you need to know a minimum the person. And in this case, he never talked to me so that's why this whole situation is weird... It's the 1st time a guy is only shy around me.. I thought I would get an anwser
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