justsomeguy Posted March 29, 2005 Posted March 29, 2005 This girl did some serious physical flirting with me freshman year of college. I ignored her. Then junior year I realized what a mistake that was. I really regreted not taking the chance to know her. She was out of the country so I sent her an email telling her that I was attracted when she was flirting with me. She only said that she respected me for saying so but couldn't have a relationship since she was out of the country. I took that as a way of saying that she wasn't interested. Another year passed and now it is senior year. For some reason I just want do anything to get this girl to turn me down or accept me. I tried to call her dorm, but untill recently I didn't know when she might be in. I called about four times when she was out. I realized that she uses yahoo IM and I could try to add her to the friends list to contact her. This was a bad move, because we aren't friends and she denied me to the yahoo thing. I took that that she doesn't want to know me or care to say anything. But since I feel so crazy this just doesn't seem to be enough for me. I want her to turn me down or say something. My friends say that I should just go visit her since she asked me to do that three years ago and I never did. I just don't want to be afraid to get turned down. So I want to force myself to do this. I don't know why if she doesn't like me now. But I don't want to have any more regrets. What does everyone think about this? If I go, what would be the best thing I could do. Should I try to call instead of going over there? I know some friends that live on her floor. It doesn't look good, but I don't want that to stop me. If you want to know more details ask. Thanks.
laRubiaBonita Posted March 29, 2005 Posted March 29, 2005 STALKER!!!!!! It has been at least 4 years...let her go!
Merin Posted March 29, 2005 Posted March 29, 2005 When you told her that you were attracted to her and she said "Thanks.. but not interested" which IMO she did.. and then you tried to add her to your yahoo messenger and again got the "Thanks.. but no" I wouldn't advise in making a trip to see her without her consent or knowlegde. Regardless if she had asked you to do so 3 years ago or not the message she seems to be sending at this time is "Not interested"
Author justsomeguy Posted March 29, 2005 Author Posted March 29, 2005 About it being 4 years and letting her go. The thing is that I wasn't interested her at the time. But for some reason two years after I had met her I remembered her. The whole thing seems kind of crazy to me. But I was thinking that she didn't accept the friends list because that is more private than AIM and she only adds her friends. I get the feeling that I must be creeping her out, but that wouldn't have happened if I could have just talked to her in person in the first place. Now I guess since I didn't do that, I have creeped her out and there is no way I can contact her on a comfortable level.
tiki Posted March 29, 2005 Posted March 29, 2005 Just keep your distance. If she wants you, she'll contact you. Anytime you give a woman the 'creepy' feeling, it's NOT a good thing.
Pocky Posted March 29, 2005 Posted March 29, 2005 I'm confused as to what quality she suddenly has now that makes you interested in her when you weren't interested in her four years ago.
Author justsomeguy Posted March 29, 2005 Author Posted March 29, 2005 I actually wanted to avoid using any more technology. Every time I have used technology it makes things more complicated. I sent her an email about a month ago titled "how are you?" Which I assume she either thought was spam or read and she ignored. Problem is I can't be sure of anything. I get like 20 spam a day and if I think the subject looks bogus I delete it and don't read it. I could try sending an email that she would notice, but if she isn't already too creeped out that will probably make me look like a guy that is too scared to talk to her. I have always wanted to talk to her in person. We talked for like 10 min when she got back to the country. I told her I had to go to class because I thought we would talk again. I didn't think to exchange cell numbers, but I haven't talked to her since. I also asked her room mate to tell her I called once, but I forgot to leave my number. I didn't get a call back. But I know all the dorm numbers are in the directory.
tiki Posted March 29, 2005 Posted March 29, 2005 Is your screen name easily recognizable? Like is it your name or something she'd know you as?
Author justsomeguy Posted March 29, 2005 Author Posted March 29, 2005 My screen name was some random thing she had never seen before But in the description for who I was I put my first name, and our school. She didn't say she didn't know me. All she said was "Sorry, but I do not wish you to add me to your friends list".
Author justsomeguy Posted March 29, 2005 Author Posted March 29, 2005 The quality she has now is the same as she did before. I was going through a hard time when she flirted with me. And couldn't really react well because of my work. Maybe specific details would help. She lived in the room next to me freshman year. I moved out half way through in order save money and go to a class I needed that was off campus. So we didn't know each other very long or well. She hugged me (like all girls seem to practice). Told me to visit, which I took as just being polite, and I never came back to visit her. But the reason I remembered her was because there were a few things she did that I look at differently now then back then. Biggest thing. For some reason one day she asked me over to her room and asked me to sit down. Then she just kinda smiled and sat down on my lap. I was realy shocked and didn't know how to take this. I couldn't understand why she would be so physically close when we don't know each other very well. I took it as she thought it was just playing around. I didn't like that because I take that kind of stuff serious. She had done other things like compliment me on my strength (which I recall has only been done by girls who have a crush on me since I'm not super big) One night I came back to my room and she was in my bed all under my covers. She asked earlier if she could use my bed to watch a movie her and my room mate wanted to watch, I told her it was ok. I assumed she didn't want me to watch it with her, so I went out with my friends. Another time she gave me a photo of me she took while I was sleeping. I ignored all these things as her having different values than me. But two years later I was like.... You know if that happened today I would have taken that a whole other way. I would think she was very interested in me.
tiki Posted March 29, 2005 Posted March 29, 2005 I say just give up. It's not worth you looking like a creep.
Author justsomeguy Posted March 29, 2005 Author Posted March 29, 2005 I guess you mean I will feel like a creep. And I will feel like she is better than me if I go after this. Still if she did that thing above I just posted, I think she would be physically attracted to me today. But maybe she doesn't focus on one guy, like I could on her. She may only likes to do what is random at the moment.
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