spanishchick00 Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 I would say having to stay home on Friday/Saturdays, where I could be getting dolled up and getting wined and dined. Another thing would be whenever I go out solo, I'm always seeing couples. Ugh.
aggie382 Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 I don't have someone to reach the stuff really high up, I have to drag out a step stool. And it's a hassle carrying my own grocery bags, as I have to make multiple trips. And I get colder at night than if I have my man with me. That's about it.
avintagegirl Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 The perpetually empty other side of the bed when I fall asleep and wake up.
TheyCallMeOx Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Before I fell in love for the first time, the worst thing about being single was feeling like no one wanted me and that I was going to die without knowing what it feels like to fall in love. After that relationship ended, the worst thing about single became the feeling of losing those incredible feelings, and believing I'm never going to feel that way about a woman ever again. 3
Danda Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 I'm a cuddler. Can do pretty much everything else for myself just fine. If I'm horny I can give myself several serious orgasms. I'm a rather tough cookie, also kinda proud and stubborn anyway, so I enjoy doing pretty much everything for myself. I get plenty of laughs and other forms of social fulfillment from friends. If I'm really craving a more intellectual and unusual debate, I at least have a few forums where I can find it, even if there's no connection going on. I can go out on my own to try a new coffee place or some artsy event or whatever and actually enjoy myself. But damn, when I want to cuddle, there is seriously no substitute for an actual guy. Those moments do suck. 3
todreaminblue Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 there are things about being single that really are quite awesome....like not having to share the nutella.....ok now i have to think a bit harder.....not having to share the blanket or having to put the toilet seat down.....alllll the time...... what i miss about being in a couple....is nearly everything......most of all the closeness and sharing my hearts thoughts with someone special.....someone who knows me better than anyone..better than myself......i dont miss getting dolled up...i miss getting dolled down and going out for a walk and getting rained on sharing the flawed moments......and laughign with soemoen abotu them ...instead of getting rained on and no one is there to laugh with...sort fo sad when that happens...i often look crazy because i laugh to myself.......deb
amaysngrace Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 You don't realize you're single when you have a dog 7
Gloria25 Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 For me it's the sex.... I want sex right now. I wish I could just ring up dude and be like: "Hey, what's up?" and he'd be like "My C*&k" and I'd then be like: "Well, come on over so we can take care of that". I mean, I have nights - like tonite - where I just want sex. I wanna get laid. I'm tired from a long week and feel like either my sinuses are bothering me or I'm coming down with a cold, but have enough energy to have sex - and great sex. I don't wanna have to dress up and go out, I just want him to show up - preferably around 2-3AM after I wind down from watching ID and we just go at it. Shoot, I could even show up at his place in a thong and bra under a heavy coat. Christina Aguilera - "Get Mine, Get Yours" We do our thing, part ways, and I can go back to bed with a smile on my face and wake up the next morning and enjoy my Saturday cartoons. Well, if he wants he can sleep over, but then I probably won't enjoy my sleep...not used to having someone sleep over. But, would be good for a morning romp before he leaves I've had moments where I feel I'd cave in to marriage just so I could have sex on the regular with one guy. I'm sorry if what I just posted would be off-putting to some guys - as if I just want you to come and "do me" and leave, but hey, it is what it is. I don't get why I just can't get someone to do that for me on the regular 3
Darren2013 Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Not getting an ego boost. Every once in awhile I need an ego boost. For me that's more important than getting laid.
writergal Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Having a partner to banter with. Real witty banter. 3
D.Mc. Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 The worst for me is the feeling of being unwanted sexually. I am so starved for the feeling of being desired & wanted physically as well as the physical act(s) itself. It's a vicious circle too, the more you don't get the sexual approval the less sexual you feel...I'm at the point where I don't even feel like a woman anymore...I don't know what to do. NONE of my friends can understand b/c they are in RS's & can have sex anytime they want. It's just too much to bear sometimes. 1
avintagegirl Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Being single so long you've forgotten how it feels to be kissed. 1
candie13 Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 planning the vacations solo is the worst for me. the worst and the best too, actually
Shining One Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 For me it's the sex.... I want sex right now. I wish I could just ring up dude and be like: "Hey, what's up?" and he'd be like "My C*&k" and I'd then be like: "Well, come on over so we can take care of that". I mean, I have nights - like tonite - where I just want sex. I wanna get laid. I'm tired from a long week and feel like either my sinuses are bothering me or I'm coming down with a cold, but have enough energy to have sex - and great sex. I don't wanna have to dress up and go out, I just want him to show up - preferably around 2-3AM after I wind down from watching ID and we just go at it. Shoot, I could even show up at his place in a thong and bra under a heavy coat. Christina Aguilera - "Get Mine, Get Yours" We do our thing, part ways, and I can go back to bed with a smile on my face and wake up the next morning and enjoy my Saturday cartoons. Well, if he wants he can sleep over, but then I probably won't enjoy my sleep...not used to having someone sleep over. But, would be good for a morning romp before he leaves I've had moments where I feel I'd cave in to marriage just so I could have sex on the regular with one guy. I'm sorry if what I just posted would be off-putting to some guys - as if I just want you to come and "do me" and leave, but hey, it is what it is. I don't get why I just can't get someone to do that for me on the regular I've been the guy in this situation and I loved it. What's not to love about sex with no financial investment? I preferred to not sleep over since I usually stay up later than the woman I'm seeing.
toolforgrowth Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 I think I'm going to be the minority here, but I REALLY enjoyed being single. I got out of a horrible marriage and then a horrible relationship, and at that point I had developed an aversion to women and dating in general. I had ZERO desire for it. I did what I wanted, when I wanted, and a few times who I wanted. I had time, money, and friends, which I had none of when I was married. Now i'm in a R with a really great lady, but I took it slow and there was an adjustment period for me. I missed regular sex, but I got hit on fairly often when I was single so I didn't have any troubles with feeling attractive. I guess the one thing I missed the most was cuddling.
Sarabi Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Wondering if there is actually something wrong, really wrong with you and what it is and how you seem to be able to fix it, ever. I go through it all lol. Maybe if I was a bit skinnier. If I was a different race. If my hair was longer. If my job was better. If I earned more money. If I wore more makeup. If I had more hobbies etc...at some point in life I have tried some of those things but it hasn't made a big difference to my single status. Also the patronising (but kindly meant) comments on being positive, one day it will happen, you're so young and you have plenty of time 1
SolG Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 I think I'm going to be the minority here, but I REALLY enjoyed being single. Same here. Being single after being in a long unsatisfying marriage is just awesome. The freedom quite liberating. I plan to never marry again. I would have to say that the worst thing about being single is well meaning people always trying to set you up. And the fact that some can't understand that you really just aren't interested in finding a man and settling down into domestic bliss. Ugh.
insert_name Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Knowing there isnt a girl out there who wants to be seen in public holding my hand.
Sarabi Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Knowing there isnt a girl out there who wants to be seen in public holding my hand. Awwww. Am feeling sad for you that you feel this way. 1
Art_Critic Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 April 15th I loved being single.. but if I had to say one thing that got old it was always eating by myself, the dog kept me from feeling alone most of the time.. but she never talked back 1
evanescentworld Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 When you're really unwell, and you still have to do everything... Lem-sip just doesn't taste as good when you have to make it yourself....
MissBee Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I'm a cuddler. Can do pretty much everything else for myself just fine. If I'm horny I can give myself several serious orgasms. I'm a rather tough cookie, also kinda proud and stubborn anyway, so I enjoy doing pretty much everything for myself. I get plenty of laughs and other forms of social fulfillment from friends. If I'm really craving a more intellectual and unusual debate, I at least have a few forums where I can find it, even if there's no connection going on. I can go out on my own to try a new coffee place or some artsy event or whatever and actually enjoy myself. But damn, when I want to cuddle, there is seriously no substitute for an actual guy. Those moments do suck. I'd have to agree. I'm not sitting around being depressed about being single but when I want to cuddle, that is one thing where there isn't a substitute. Every other base is covered. I can even get sex if I want to from a FWB or booty call. But cuddling and pillow talk, I do miss that.
preraph Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I've chosen single. When I do wish I had someone are at the most stressful times in life, like when I had to put my dad in a nursing home and just had too much emotional pressure on me that I needed someone to take over for me on the smaller things so I could handle the big one. I have no one who can do that. Other than that, it's mainly wishing I had a handyman to paint and fix things -- and none of the guys I actually dated were handymen anyway. I was handier than they were!! So they'd have been virtually useless for that anyway. But perhaps with a joint paycheck, would have been feasible to hire it done.
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