E-Squared Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Maybe it's because I have never been in a "real" relationship or dated much in my life, but I have never understood this. I know some people try to justify it by the arguments of having problems in the relationship, or someone isn't giving the other enough attention, etc. I have never understood this.
aggie382 Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 They aren't trustworthy, they lack boundaries, they are selfish, they don't care about anyone but themselves, they lack the skills to deal with conflict in a relationship. There are many reasons.
Gloria25 Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 EOk, I do not condone cheating.... But IMO, there's two types of cheaters: (1) Dogs and (2) People who are starved. Then, there's people who "slip" and will never do it again (probably too much alcohol, putting themselves in compromising situations).
Ebelskiver Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Because they want to more than they don't want to. Simple as. When I was younger I believed any type of cheating was an automatic dealbreaker. But as I've gotten older my world is filled with more shades of gray and I don't see it as the end-all I once did. But, I don't view monogamy the way I once did either.
Light Breeze Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Because their inner sense of morality is not well developed or not developed in the sense that they don't see cheating is wrong.
spiderowl Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Maybe it's because I have never been in a "real" relationship or dated much in my life, but I have never understood this. I know some people try to justify it by the arguments of having problems in the relationship, or someone isn't giving the other enough attention, etc. I have never understood this. It goes without saying that someone like that is not trustworthy. I suspect there is more to it, like the person is literally battling with themselves: one half of them wants a strong, safe relationship, the other half has an eye out for fun, a back up, and adventure. At some point, the wayward other is likely to win. I think this may be why there are people who nearly always cheat in relationships. They are literally their own worst enemy. The evolutionary argument would be that they have a better chance of propagating their genes if they have lots of sex and multiple partners, but do they really have to get into long-term relationships to do this? I would have thought lots of flings would be just as effective from that point of view.
littleblackheart Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 Maybe it's because I have never been in a "real" relationship or dated much in my life, but I have never understood this. I know some people try to justify it by the arguments of having problems in the relationship, or someone isn't giving the other enough attention, etc. I have never understood this. I'm assuming it's because they can, but I don't think anything good comes out of understanding it. There'll be reasons no doubt; none will be good enough, though.
Woggle Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 If people don't want to be monogamous why not just be single and sleep around or least be in an honest open relationship? Why the need to lie to and betray somebody?
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