Glitter_x1x Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 I know if I was cheated on, I would have left the relationship immediately. However, there were a LOT of red flags that pointed towards my boyfriend hiding his ‘friendship’ or whatever it was with another woman. Since, I never got a hold of any exact evidence of him cheating though, I stayed in the relationship but had a lot of trust issues. Although he worked hard to regain my trust, I became easily provoked if he mentioned anything related to the entire red flag period and all his suspicious actions/him neglecting me, would be moody more often than usual, easily get angry, not communicate well, throw fits etc etc. I was NEVER this bad when it came to relationships, but all the red flags just made me bitter towards my boyfriend. I’ve read a couple of other threads about people being treated unfairly but choosing to stay in the relationship, and then consequently getting back at their SO, becoming more irritable etc etc. In such situations, who’s to blame? Can relationships that turn out like this ever work?
No Limit Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 No. They have a deadline determined on how desperately the people in those "push 'n pull"-things they call relationships hold on to it. My friends' BF cheated on her a few months ago and she's been a jealous mess ever since, she also picks fights and turns aggressive regularly. She originally intended to break up with him immediately when she found out (he apparently called her shortly after it happened) but let his crocodile tears get the best of her. Now it's basically depending on how long until she eventually tires from going crazy before they'll finally break up. Waste of time, honestly.
d0nnivain Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 If there's no trust, there is no relationship.
Author Glitter_x1x Posted January 16, 2015 Author Posted January 16, 2015 No. They have a deadline determined on how desperately the people in those "push 'n pull"-things they call relationships hold on to it. My friends' BF cheated on her a few months ago and she's been a jealous mess ever since, she also picks fights and turns aggressive regularly. She originally intended to break up with him immediately when she found out (he apparently called her shortly after it happened) but let his crocodile tears get the best of her. Now it's basically depending on how long until she eventually tires from going crazy before they'll finally break up. Waste of time, honestly. So in essence... this whole 'I'll forgive you/second chances" thing rarely ever works?
Gaeta Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 I know if I was cheated on, I would have left the relationship immediately. However, there were a LOT of red flags that pointed towards my boyfriend hiding his ‘friendship’ or whatever it was with another woman. Since, I never got a hold of any exact evidence of him cheating though, I stayed in the relationship but had a lot of trust issues. Whether he cheated on you or not is not the point. The fact he hide a 'friendship' from you and the series of red flags were in themselves alone a betrayal. What he did IS a form of cheating. He lied, lacked respect for you and your relationship. Isn't that enough to end the relationship? Why do you need to know for sure he put his 'thing' into her 'thing'. Do you see my point? Even if he did not have sex with her, with all his lies and red-flag he broke something in your relationship that cannot be put back together. You can take a broken vase and put all the parts back together with glue, it will still be a broken vase.
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