quattrob Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 Hi all, Been reading a lot on these forums and just wanted to share my story with everyone, maybe get some insights on what everyone else thinks. So my gf (now ex) met through an online dating site and in the beginning I knew she kind of was interested but I was persistant but not in an annoying kind of way. I did a lot for her and possibly too much. We went out for about 2-3 months and then she decided to be my gf for a trip that we were going to (Hawaii). Everything seemed nice and all and it looked like I got what I wanted. However as the plane landed back to our home city, she started to act different like she didn't want to touch or any of that stuff. She broke up with me when we got to her place, this obviously made me sad. So I'm like ok whatever and I just tried to forget about her. However about a week or 2 later she came back and felt sorry and maybe she missed me? So we started to date again for about 3 months or so. Met her family and friends. So I was thinking I have this in the bag. She even made us official after that. Fast forward a year she planned to go back to her family's home town for 6 months (long). We had a talk before she left and all the small problems like communication etc, basically things that are minor and yet not a big deal, we had an understanding. 3 months pass and then she tells me she kissed another guy while she was partying. I forgave her, I know she feels bad or whatever but she's never that sort of person that would admit to mistakes with words. But anyways it obviously made me disappointed inside. Fast forward another 2 weeks, she tells me on the phone that she wants to break up because I make her feel like a bad person... she feels like all these negative things about herself starts to come out when she's with me.. however I'm thinking she's delusional because actually she's comfortable with me so obviously her true self appears good or bad. She sends me a long letter saying how she thinks Im the kind of guy that she will marry and that she doesn't know if she made the right decision. She wants to find/be that good girl or whatever that she was before and says that when she changes herself and grows up and when she's ready she'll maybe be the one to chase me back. and says she's a selfish person and she knows that. All this sounds really stupid to me because I accept her fully her flaws and all. This long distance thing obviously triggered something and didn't help the situation at all. And knowing her I know she'll come looking for me and regret because I treated her really well. I will be moving on for sure and I won't let a person as toxic as her back in my life, thanks all for reading.
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