bigfred Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 Well its been a week of the NC and its been rough there ups and downs, the mornings are really bad, feel like texting her but i wont! We have been through this before and she would always contact me a couple of weeks of NC, but this last time we broke up, she clearly told me that she knows my tactics and she would call me in two weeks. Im sitting here counting the days its sucks, but in the long run i cant even anwser the phone or text if she does contact me. Practilly my NC will officialy start after two weeks into the NC, Make any sense? I have to be strong and not answer her calls if she does decide to call me, do i even pick up if she does calls or text or keep the NC for the full 30 days and then after if it does go the 30 days do i contact her? or still stay in the no contact!
PegNosePete Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 Why are you asking the same question, 3 days later? 1
Author bigfred Posted January 16, 2015 Author Posted January 16, 2015 Why are you asking the same question, 3 days later? Objective - To see if she calls me after the two weeks and if she does dont anwser and stay on NC, when she realizes that i have moved on, she might do a 180 and tell me what i want from her and start fresh again.
PegNosePete Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 Do you think asking the same question 3 days later will get any different responses form people here? No, you're using NC as a mind game to manipulate her into repeating the same cycle again and again. Just read your old thread, the answers you received, and your own responses to those answers. Yet here you are again asking the same thing over and over. No you will not get any different answers. 1
Author bigfred Posted January 16, 2015 Author Posted January 16, 2015 Do you think asking the same question 3 days later will get any different responses form people here? No, you're using NC as a mind game to manipulate her into repeating the same cycle again and again. Just read your old thread, the answers you received, and your own responses to those answers. Yet here you are again asking the same thing over and over. No you will not get any different answers. Your absulutly correct PNP, it just sucks this is happening my bad! sticking to NC, honestly i am not trying to manipulate her at all, i just want the ball in my court and call the shots this time around, like you said, i dont want to it to repeat itself, that s why im doing this again with her. if it works or doesnt, i need to be string thats all, thx PNP
Marco Valerio Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 NC is NO CONTACT, doesn't matter today, tomorrow or in three months time. If you want to do it right, you have to avoid every contact for a while, not weeks. It is meant to help you moving on with your life. So don't give yourself a timeframe to contact her or an excuse to answer her messages. Avoid any type of communication until you are over her (if it's that what you want of course). 2
Satu Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 You're doing something, but it isn't NC. NC is a tool for healing. It's not meant to be a tool for evoking a desired response from someone. If you use it that way, you don't get the benefits of it.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 You really need to get off this 30 days crap. No Contact takes as long as it takes to get yourself healed and moving forward, and it takes a hell of a lot longer than 30 days for that to happen. You need to stop trying to use No Contact as a manipulative tool to temporarily bring her back and use it for what you're supposed to use it for -- that's to heal and move forward to bigger and better things. Stop being a tool and trying to manipulate your ex. 2
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