luvsux69 Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 Been dating my girlfriend for about 7 months but weve been official for only 15 days. She has constantly let me go and pull me back in over stupid fights. Last night was our first fight while we are officially together. Last night we decided to go to a bar to have a few drinks. At midnight we decided to invite her roomate (female) and and a male (friend in common). As the male friend and I are pumping gas...he showed me a picture of 4 female friends he has while the girls were in the car. I told him "oh nice they look good...I'd do all 3 of them." My girl happened to hear me say "I'd do all 3 of them" and so when I got into the car she looked upset and asked me "you'd do all 3 what?" I told her that we were talking about selling cars because he earlier he wants to hire me as a car salesman. She wasn't buying it. So I told her the truth that he showed me a picture of some girls and that I told him I'd do all 3 of them but I was implying it if I was in his shoes (him being single and not wanting a relationship) that he should approach them. She got pissed off and told me it's over right in front of them. Usually I sleep with her every night but she didn't want me over and when I got to my car she started texting me mean and hurtful things like "I regret meeting you" "you are a loser" "get a real job" (I'm only making 17$ per hour and wish I was making more like her she's making around $25 per hour and she threw it in my face). She told me I only got her in my life because she was on the rebound as I met her 2 weeks after she broke up with her ex of 2 years. I feel so hurt by her reaction as I love her very much but I feel betrayed as I feel she's overreacting to all this and creating more drama then there should be. A part of me still wants her and another part of me is hurt by her reactions.
Author luvsux69 Posted January 16, 2015 Author Posted January 16, 2015 I even apologized for saying what I said and explained I wouldnt actually do them as I love her and I'm with her and that it was just a figure of speech. One time she said she would **** her teacher to get an A and I didn't like that comment and she explained that she wouldn't actually do it...I feel it's quite similar.
amaysngrace Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 Leave her alone and go do one of those three girls instead. 2
PegNosePete Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 You f'd up dude. You said something that people who are in relationships should not say, then lied about it, then tried to retroactively justify it. You took it from bad, to worse, to even worse. It's up to her if she forgives you or not. You can't force her to. You'll just have to wait and see. But don't say any more stupid stuff and don't try to use logic on her, it won't work. Logic does not work when you're dealing with hurt feelings. But the "constant" splitting up and getting back, this is not a good sign. If a relationship were that bad, I would be finished long before now.
mammasita Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 You're wrong for saying what you said and she's a mess of drama for her push pull. You two together are a hot a55 mess. I think you're better off single. Men in happy functional relationships don't usually say "I'd do all three of them" when they see a picture of three women. 1
Deidre Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 (edited) I echo the others that it wasn’t cool what you said to your friend. Having said that, if something that minor sends her into a texting rampage, calling you names, and raging…it’s best to see her behavior as a red flag now and move on. What you did was wrong, but what she did wasn’t completely right either. Here’s how this is going to play out if I had a crystal ball... You stop talking to her, and she will nonstop text you…maybe even stalk you. I know these types. I’ve dated these types. (only male version)They want you to beg for them to forgive you over and over and over…and chasethem. And when that doesn’t happen…look out. Have a feeling if you two stay broken up, she’ll tell everyone how horrible you are, etc… Just a vibe I'm getting from the fact that she breaks up with you constantly as you say. That is someone looking to test you, IMHO. Then, you’ll be thankful she’s gone. Lol What you did was wrong, but it wasn’t so earth shatteringthat you deserved her reaction. She could have simply said…hey, I don’t like what you said, and I don’t want to see you anymore. But to berate you, etc…? Sounds like a lot of drama. Especially since this sounds like a pattern of her behavior. (push and pull dynamic) Hope you choose to move on... A lot of people treat people like property when "I love you" gets mentioned. If you mess up and sincerely apologize, then that's all you can do. But I wouldn't remain with someone who insulted me repeatedly every time we have minor disagreements. Edited January 16, 2015 by Deidre
d0nnivain Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 You both need to learn to communicate better. There are ways to express hurt or anger that don't involve breaking up or hitting below the belt. 1
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