FuzzyItalian Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 Well I've been married 2 x's before and it didn't last very long. About 4 months ago I started dating someone I used to 10 years ago. We get along great and he wants to get married, I'm not sure if it's just fear or nerves. I do love him and just looking for a little input. We've been talking marriage since we got together again. Any advice would be nice. Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 Just take it slow and try not to make the same mistakes you made in your fist marriages...No one can really tell you whether it's going to work but I do know that a person you know for 10 years will love you for who you are and you can cherish certain moments with them that no one else would ever know...It sounds nice but just think about it...If you take things slow, what do you have to lose...like you said 3rd times a charm... Link to post Share on other sites
Lolla Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 Although you've known him in the past, you were married 2X before... 4 months really is not a long enough time to even be considering marriage again. Have you been in contact with this guy for the last 10 years while you were married to the other two??? Different story then ... But that's just my opinion... and Yes, I do beilieve that 3X is the charm so with whatever direction you go, all my luck your way Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 stats show that each successive marriage has a smaller and smaller probability of lasting. would you marry someone who has been divorced three or four times already? Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 Alpha...I know what your saying but at the same time who cares....The past is the past...if she feels a connection with this person and is happy why not??? F*ck it, if it doesn't work she's been through this before...Now the question is...Can you deal with it again??? Stats said 2004 was the year for the Dolphins...um what the f*ck happened to that???!!! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 Originally posted by NeverSayNever Alpha...I know what your saying but at the same time who cares....The past is the past...if she feels a connection with this person and is happy why not??? F*ck it, if it doesn't work she's been through this before NSN, that is a bad attitude and bad advice to the orig poster. Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 To who to you???...Alpha I'm not trying to argue...but that's your opinion...When it comes to love you have no guarantees...if it doesn't work you move on, that's reality and all I'm trying to say...In the end it's up to her whether she wants to take the risk, if it's even a risk...You have to meet a few wrong people before you meet the right one. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 Originally posted by NeverSayNever To who to you???...Alpha I'm not trying to argue...but that's your opinion...When it comes to love you have no guarantees...if it doesn't work you move on, that's reality and all I'm trying to say...In the end it's up to her whether she wants to take the risk, if it's even a risk...You have to meet a few wrong people before you meet the right one. I did not say she should not get married again, NSN. She should wait for some time. They have been back togehter again for 4 months after a 10 yr hiatus. NSN, you should be telling her to wait for at least another year or two and not be hasty and jump into a 3rd marriage so quickly. The chances of a 3rd marriage failing are higher than a 1st or 2nd marriage so she needs to be very careful here. Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 I did tell her to wait...read again alpha... Just take it slow and try not to make the same mistakes you made in your fist marriages hello....I told her take it slow!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author FuzzyItalian Posted March 29, 2005 Author Share Posted March 29, 2005 Thank you for all the notes. My 2nd divorce was over 12 years ago and I've been dating on and off since then but have always maintained a very close relationship with this man. I do believe I probably should wait sometime. This is his first marriage and he's very familiar with my past and has a great relationship with my 18 yr old son. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 Okay, I stick to the old saying, "Go through the four seasons together"....a.k.a. one year. I would think 3rd, 4th, 5th marriages would have a HIGHER success rate, because you're starting to realize that it's becoming embarassing to be married so many times. Or that you are the common denominator. Good luck! Nonetheless!!!! And it hurts nothing to be engaged, you can always break it off if ya wanna. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 30, 2005 Share Posted March 30, 2005 Alpha, kindly post your sources. Link to post Share on other sites
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