Nascarfan Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Hey, everyone! I'm 20 years old and my first girlfriend (18 now) left me about a month ago after 2 and half years for her friend. She was very insecure about herself and I stayed with her through thick and thin (even her father's suicide). She never wanted me to look or even make friends with other girls while in college, and now that she is in college, she kicked me to the curb. I was her friend when she had none, and as soon as she started hanging out with some friends from high school, she left me for one of them. She said she needed to "find herself" and that she wouldn't get a boyfriend anytime soon because it would contradict her reasons for breaking up with me, yet, less than three weeks later, I had found out she already was with and had kissed one of her friends who I suspected. I'm devastated and am having a hard time moving on. I've removed all methods of contact and haven't talked with her since.We go to the same college too, so I'm concerned that I will run into them. I would really appreciate some encouraging words. Thank you and have a great day.
bigtrouble Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Typical happens to all of us, we hang on, through thick and thin, and they just go off feeling bored of the long term relationship, trying out new things, that excitement feeling of being in love again. Well nothing much you can do here, except sit it out and enjoy your life too. It has nothing to do with you, its her, you have been a good boyfriend. 1
EuTuBrute Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Classic off to college breakup. Go NC (No contact). Here is the punch to the gut. She wants to sleep with other people and explore what college is about. I suggest you do the same. If it is meant to be between you two, you two will get back together. 1
Nolan 93 Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 Typical happens to all of us, we hang on, through thick and thin, and they just go off feeling bored of the long term relationship, trying out new things, that excitement feeling of being in love again. Well nothing much you can do here, except sit it out and enjoy your life too. It has nothing to do with you, its her, you have been a good boyfriend. He is right it does happen to us all, and yes some of us hang through thick and thin. I know I have done this and gave her my all, and she even said I was the best boyfriend and girl could ask for. But that has no weight to it since she left me, to go back to her ex. Im 21 and she's 18 so not to far from the age group my friend. All I can say is do you and its hard it really is, but all we can do is move on right?? One day maybe one day they will realize what kind of guys they had, and regret it later on in life. I hope they learn a valuable lesson. After all life is all about trial and error.
Author Nascarfan Posted January 19, 2015 Author Posted January 19, 2015 Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts, you guys. I greatly appreciate it. Although I've done a lot of reading here on LS, this is my first time posting on here, and I appreciate the warm welcome. No contact has helped so much over this past month. Things are getting better everyday, and I'm able see things now without much of an emotional layer on top of it. I have moments, but I've begun to emotionally accept what's happened and realize that she doesn't deserve my concern. It was a tale that wasn't right, and I know that I will find someone better. "If you could love the wrong person that much, imagine how much you could love the right one." 1
bigtrouble Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 "If you could love the wrong person that much, imagine how much you could love the right one." This one just hits the spot.
Author Nascarfan Posted January 22, 2015 Author Posted January 22, 2015 Hey everyone, just having one of those days today. I do have a few questions though. School starts on Monday and I know I'll probably see them, which I accept, but I hope I am not set back by it since I've been NC since Dec. 12. Do these encounters restart the healing process each time? Also, from what you've read, do you think she'll come back? I don't think I could ever take her back, but I'm at the point where I wish she experienced at least a piece of what I'm going through, you know? I do realize that that is bitterness, but it is how I feel right now.
EgoJoe Posted January 22, 2015 Posted January 22, 2015 For you: The best is yet to come. By the time she comes back, if she does, you won't want her back. There is a strong Woman who has been waiting for you out there. She will appreciate your life lessons and introspection. Meanwhile there are plenty of skeezy college girls to keep your bed warm. Get good grades and new girls!
Author Nascarfan Posted January 22, 2015 Author Posted January 22, 2015 For you: The best is yet to come. By the time she comes back, if she does, you won't want her back. There is a strong Woman who has been waiting for you out there. She will appreciate your life lessons and introspection. Meanwhile there are plenty of skeezy college girls to keep your bed warm. Get good grades and new girls! Thank you for the kind words! They really do help
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