cottom Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 History between us: Met on facebook early December, texting etc for a week or two then we met up went for a drink with her mates from work, ended up out at a club where i spent the night chatting and dancing with her mates (most of them lads). Next time we met, we went for a drink with one of my mates and one of her lad mates. We ended up getting back at 6am and she came back to mine where we had sex and then she spent the next day at mine until she had work, chatting etc. Then i went to hers and we watched films till about 3am cuddled and kissing on the sofa, i went round to help with an application she was doing, which i ended up filling all in for her. Next time we met though, she was with a girl mate and her bitchy sisters. They went off all night and left me sat on the side looking after their bags. She apologised for being so drunk and doing that to me and i went hers and we cuddled on the sofa all day with films. Last saturday she came and stopped at mine we had sex again and then chilled all next day. I asked a question, what was going on with us. She said she wanted to be with me but she didnt know because she was going to work abroad in June for a few months etc but she doesnt want me seeing anyone else, so i said were medium official, together but not together and she agreed. (That convo was before the sex) The next day after i dropped her home she stopped talking to me properly, id text and got 1 or 2 word replies back. At times she isnt really in to texting back and does give not much of a reply so i thought nothing of it. That night i found out one of my exs cheated, basically she popped up on fb saying she missed me, i told her to go away, she said ok then i asked about the cheating. I showed this girl the message and she had a go that i carried on the convo to ask about her cheating which apparently showed that im not over my exes. When im pissed off i make facebook statuses with indirect snipes at people and i made 1 or 2 aimed at this girl which when i sobered up, or a second later realised it was wrong i deleted it but she saw them and they made her more pissed off at me and she hasnt spoken at all. Every day ive tried making conversation etc but she ignores it and gives one word answers. Friendly one word answers rather than "k" etc but still one word. I havent said a word at all today and she hasnt bothered coming after me. What did i do wrong? How do i fix this? Can i fix this or write it off? I live 100 miles away, save for weekends i live down the road from her so cant go round with flowers etc
Assada Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 You come off as very feminine OP. 1. Asking the "What are we question" Shows you are super insecure. 2. Then posting the message of facebook shows that you are terribly weak. A woman just cant trust that. Its not something a stable man does. Move on 2
Awon Apanilerin Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 She sees you as weak and needy. Two of the worst traits that most women hate in any man. She made you watch over her and her sisters' bags in the corner while they chatted and had fun. That says it all... Worst of all, you want to give her flowers. May the Lord have mercy on your soul and help you see the light.
aggie382 Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 When im pissed off i make facebook statuses with indirect snipes at people I suggest you stop doing this, completely. Reading a status aimed at me, combined with him showing me a series of messages with an ex-gf, would tell me the guy was really immature and unable to handle an adult relationship, and I'd move on. I would think she's done the same, and you should too. 1
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