Whatislife Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Hi guys So my ex bf and i spoke today. I am still madly in love with him but due to previous problems he does not trust me as much and doesn't believe what i say. However last week he said we should move on and go our own ways because when he wanted to marry me 5 months ago i was not ready. But now i want to marry him and he says that time has gone. However he claims that i do not understand what love is. in order for me to tell my family about him i need to know if he is still willing to marry me. But he expects me to tell my parents and says he will decide after that if he will marry me. I do not understand his logic and i do not understand him. Maybe he is testing me to see if i truly love him, because he said if i did I would have told my parents about him ages ago. But obviously for a women and because of my culture it is difficult to just tell my parents especially as they expect me to marry someone they find me. One minute hes sad and says leave me alone the next hes happy to talk of our future. I do not know if we will get along in the future either as he always doubts me and sometimes gives me the cold shoulder but can also be very loving too. He says i put him in a difficult position. Someone care to interpret his behaviour because im so so so confused. Thank you
batt Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 You cant expect him to marry you if hes never met your family or they know nothing about him. I couldn't marry a girl if I've never met her family. When you marry someone, you're not just marrying that person, you're getting into a relationship with their family also. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 It's a good thing you didn't get married if only 5 months later he's already changed his mind. Sounds like he never really intended it to begin with...
seminoles84 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Aren't you the one that had an arranged marriage set up? How do you think HE feels? 1
Light Breeze Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Hi OP, I remembered your first thread. Correct me if I'm wrong but you have 2 boyfriends at the same time right? This guy you're talking about is your second boyfriend, correct? Just a question have you even broken up with your first boyfriend yet or is he the one you are arranged to be married? If the first BF is arranged why did you talk about him in your first thread like you had a real relationship with him when you met this 2nd BF Just for clarification if you don't mind so that we could see the whole picture.
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