Author ameyers Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 why yikes lol? also noticed something. the stuff she wants me to see on FB she lives public but the rest private
Author ameyers Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 now im depressed cause i looked at her instagram and there was the caption WE CHILLIN and you can clearly see a guys hand. now if she is hanging out with guys does now mean its over for good or may she still contact me ?
seminoles84 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 now im depressed cause i looked at her instagram and there was the caption WE CHILLIN and you can clearly see a guys hand. now if she is hanging out with guys does now mean its over for good or may she still contact me ? Stop. Delete her off instagram, FB ect. Gotta man up here.
Light Breeze Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Brother, you can't be hanging on hope that she'll contact you. She is probably with the dude she was cheating on you with. You have to let this go and go NC. Heal yourself. Why would you want a cheater who has no iota of remorse in her back?
Author ameyers Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 its just so hard not to look at her things.. I wish she was hurting too
Light Breeze Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Trust me, we know how you feel. We've been there. But, guess what? We're surviving/have survived this. What really helped is NO CONTACT. Directly or indirectly. 1
sober and dry Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Yes we know how hard it's because probably we all more or less felt that urge, but now you do also know why you need to block/delete all of this highway to insta pain. Keep strong
Author ameyers Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 so hard because i wanna know what shes up too
sober and dry Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 You just need to remember: What is harder, do total NC or not doing it, get slapped in the face so many times that you go NC after that all? 1
Author ameyers Posted January 16, 2015 Author Posted January 16, 2015 now its been 2 full days of no texting or anything and now im getting the urge to say hi so she doesnt forget about me. should i say hi ? is there still a chance she will come back after a week?
Light Breeze Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 I don't know if she's going to return in a week or not (probably not). What I DO know however if you text her now she isn't coming back.
Author ameyers Posted January 16, 2015 Author Posted January 16, 2015 I don't know if she's going to return in a week or not (probably not). What I DO know however if you text her now she isn't coming back. ok.. isnt there any happy endings here where the girl comes back
Light Breeze Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 Of course there is, but it depends upon circumstances and the people involved. Obviously I don't know the exact dynamics of your relationship. What I do know however, is based from what you wrote here. Let me summarize 1.) She's 22 - relatively young 2.) She emotionally cheated on you - First, I might be off based here, but, in my opinion this girl wants to run wild and free and she got the guy she wants to do it with. You know, the dude who wanted to taste her lips. Second, she wasn't even remorseful. In addition to that, she would ignore some of your text messages to her after your breakup. Not really exerting effort to get back with you as I said before if she wanted to she'll let you know. Now, based on what I've written do you think she is likely to get back to you? Besides, would you really want her back with all that she did?
Author ameyers Posted January 16, 2015 Author Posted January 16, 2015 Of course there is, but it depends upon circumstances and the people involved. Obviously I don't know the exact dynamics of your relationship. What I do know however, is based from what you wrote here. Let me summarize 1.) She's 22 - relatively young 2.) She emotionally cheated on you - First, I might be off based here, but, in my opinion this girl wants to run wild and free and she got the guy she wants to do it with. You know, the dude who wanted to taste her lips. Second, she wasn't even remorseful. In addition to that, she would ignore some of your text messages to her after your breakup. Not really exerting effort to get back with you as I said before if she wanted to she'll let you know. Now, based on what I've written do you think she is likely to get back to you? Besides, would you really want her back with all that she did? Well i dont know much but i do know she is not with the guy that she was texting or have they seen each other since the breakup. but she is hanging out with other people. see said she needed time to think and see if she thinks i will keep acussing her of this stuff but i had every right to accuse her with what was in those messages .. I just cant believe after four years that she is just flat out not texting me at all unless i text her. Do i want her back?? i think i like the idea that she would want me still
Light Breeze Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 (edited) Do i want her back?? i think i like the idea that she would want me still That's really the cause of your desire to reconcile with her, isn't it? You want her to want you because you and her shared 4 years of your lives. That's your ego talking brother. It's quite understandable because when we are rejected, not only our hearts take a hit but also our egos. But, remember our hearts mend and so does our ego. You have to let it go brother, but, I understand how you feell, it's still early days and still very difficult for you to swallow. Do NC, and you'll notice that gradually the weight in your chest slowly lifting. Edited January 16, 2015 by Light Breeze 1
Author ameyers Posted January 16, 2015 Author Posted January 16, 2015 new fb update Last night had to have been the worst but the funniest ever. Go out on the four wheeler..have a great time...get back to the house and realise I lost my phone in the woods. I have no numbers 1
JonjMie Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 Blessing in disguise, get a new phone and start afresh, and get back out on the quad sounds like you enjoy it and forget about stuff, do more things like this !,
Author ameyers Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 new update she called my mom today saying she loves me with all her heart but cant be with me now because i dont trust her and she dont trust me because i went through her phone.. she then called me and stopped over with clothes of mine and she basically cried the whole time. then left and now ignores my texts again
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