ameyers Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 broke up with my girlfriend after she was texting a friend she said in her phone it sounded like more to me.Him talking about how he would llike to taste her lips and her basically going along with it. So i told her to get out and she left. Now i miss her and only think about the good things. She said she needs time.but then i never hear from her she never calls or texts. unless i text first Its only been 5 days is that enough time or should i expect longer? She doesnt text unless i do then i get mad. Should i just ignore her until she contacts me? and is she hurting as much as me when i do talk to her she says she will always love me and il be in her heart. i then told her fine il move on and she said if thats the way you want it good luck
Light Breeze Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 broke up with my girlfriend after she was texting a friend she said in her phone it sounded like more to me.Him talking about how he would llike to taste her lips and her basically going along with it. So i told her to get out and she left. Now i miss her and only think about the good things. She said she needs time.but then i never hear from her she never calls or texts. unless i text first Its only been 5 days is that enough time or should i expect longer? She doesnt text unless i do then i get mad. Should i just ignore her until she contacts me? and is she hurting as much as me when i do talk to her she says she will always love me and il be in her heart. i then told her fine il move on and she said if thats the way you want it good luck Translation of the above text: I don't want to be with you, I wan't to be with the other dude. Ignore, block, delete. Brother, why would you want someone who was emotionally cheating on you? The kicker is she wasn't even remorseful!
bigtrouble Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 broke up with my girlfriend after she was texting a friend she said in her phone it sounded like more to me.Him talking about how he would llike to taste her lips and her basically going along with it. So i told her to get out and she left. Now i miss her and only think about the good things. She said she needs time.but then i never hear from her she never calls or texts. unless i text first Its only been 5 days is that enough time or should i expect longer? She doesnt text unless i do then i get mad. Should i just ignore her until she contacts me? and is she hurting as much as me when i do talk to her she says she will always love me and il be in her heart. i then told her fine il move on and she said if thats the way you want it good luck Its a good thing you saw that early on, It save you some heartaches, You did the right thing... Clearly she challenged you, she has no remorse whatsoever. I say you're one of the lucky few here. I got cheated on, the full emotional package, and she dropped me like I was nothing, it was hell. Walk away with your head high, don't look back, be strong...
The Poster Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 I'm sorry man, but if she's texting other guys and playing along about tasting each other's lips, chances are pretty good she has checked out and wants this other guy. It sucks but it's common these days. How long have you been together? I would definitely stick to NC. It's difficult but it'll benefit you in he long run. Maybe she'll realize she's making a mistake but that won't happen if you stay in contact with her. Disappear and find things to improve upon and fun to have. Good luck.
Author ameyers Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 been together 4 years.. So i am doing the wrong thing when i keep texting her? she said shes sick of me always thinking shes doing something wrong when they are just friends. she was crying when we broke up ..
bigtrouble Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 She was caught in the middle of it, she has not emotionally checked out yet, if she did, She would have dumped You... You're one lucky guy, stick to NC... 1
Author ameyers Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 She was caught in the middle of it, she has not emotionally checked out yet, if she did, She would have dumped You... You're one lucky guy, stick to NC... im trying to understand how NC works. so far i keep texting her everyday and sometimes she ignores it.. i didnt text her at all today
sober and dry Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 broke up with my girlfriend after she was texting a friend she said in her phone it sounded like more to me.Him talking about how he would llike to taste her lips and her basically going along with it. So i told her to get out and she left. Now i miss her and only think about the good things. She said she needs time.but then i never hear from her she never calls or texts. unless i text first Its only been 5 days is that enough time or should i expect longer? She doesnt text unless i do then i get mad. Should i just ignore her until she contacts me? and is she hurting as much as me when i do talk to her she says she will always love me and il be in her heart. i then told her fine il move on and she said if thats the way you want it good luck Wait, whaaaaaaat? No no no man, no all the way, see... What you are feeling is the hangover from her. The chemical need of her. She acted so selfish and did hurt you in that way that she doesn't deserve anything from her! If you think in an logical way you will see this and it will only get clearer as time goes! I was pretty much in your position and I really know what you are going trough. I now I'm being harsh, but it's the best way for you to face it, trust me. Don't talk to her anymore, NC all the way unless she categorical state that she wants you back (and supposing you want her back too), besides that, NC! Start to heal. Look at you RS and see what you did wrong and work it out. See what she did wrong with the purpose of getting to know what you don't want in a gf. Embrace the pain, feel it and go trough it. Best of luck to you man, I'm with you! 1
Author ameyers Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 another thing is her mom has brought my exs best friend in their house to keep her busy for the moment but im sure that will get old
sober and dry Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 im trying to understand how NC works. so far i keep texting her everyday and sometimes she ignores it.. i didnt text her at all today NC is totally no contact at all. Not with her by text/call/FB or what ever. No contact with her family. No peeking on her FB or what ever. No form of contact at all. You have a guide here.
bigtrouble Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 im trying to understand how NC works. so far i keep texting her everyday and sometimes she ignores it.. i didnt text her at all today NC - no contact is for you to heal and get over her, meanwhile do some activities to keep yourself busy...
Author ameyers Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 see i keep secretly peeking on her facebook and seeing people she is adding then get bummed
sober and dry Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 (edited) So let me put it this way. No direct or indirect contact with her. Not anything that put you looking at her and her new life. No way of getting any update from her, not by yourself, not by anyone else. Edited January 15, 2015 by sober and dry
Author ameyers Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 what bothers me the most is like when i think she could be having sex or hanging with another guy
Light Breeze Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 im trying to understand how NC works. so far i keep texting her everyday and sometimes she ignores it.. i didnt text her at all today She's ignoring some of your texts because she doesn't want to be with you. If she was truly remorseful and wanted you back she'll be all over the place doing some grand gestures to get you back after you caught her cheating. The NC guide is pinned at the top of this section. Please read it all. To summarize: block calls, text, email, social media. Do not attempt to communicate or reject any attempt from her. Tell your friends and family you don't want to hear any news regarding her. NC is a tool for healing. One of the underlying reasons why it's so effective is because attachment to your partner is akin to addiction. Removal of the stimuli that causes the addiction will cause the urges to stop. It'll be hard, just like withdrawal, but weather it out and you come out on the otherside emotionally stronger and wiser. Stay strong brother.
sober and dry Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 (edited) what bothers me the most is like when i think she could be having sex or hanging with another guy Yes I also know this feeling and know it's very, very hard to get througt. Hard truth, she probably is at least one of this. I was having that kind barf everyday maybe for some 2/3 weeks after the BU, for instance everyday I woke up and get the idea and the image in my head! But as you start to heal that's one of the first things that go away. Stay strong man, stand by you. You you you and only you is what matter now. Take care of yourself throught this bumpy ****ty road and you will end up on the other side better then when you started and even better before you last RS Edited January 15, 2015 by sober and dry
bigtrouble Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 what bothers me the most is like when i think she could be having sex or hanging with another guy Seriously, you wouldn't want thinking that while your together its worst... And you will still be thinking of that even if she dumped you... I say stick to NC while you can still hold your head high... Look at some of us here, totally broken, our Ex cheated on us and walked away feeling nothing like we don't even exist, save yourself that pain, stop calling her or trying to get her back, she's ignoring you, its a power play, Be strong. stick to NC...
Author ameyers Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 Im definitly done contacting her.. The thing is she was nothing special. very bossy and such. but hate the idea of someone with her
Light Breeze Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Im definitly done contacting her.. The thing is she was nothing special. very bossy and such. but hate the idea of someone with her Focus on yourself right now.. The thoughts will pass in time. Meanwhile.... Distract yourself by improving on aspects of your life you feel you've neglected for the past 4 years. Workout, get new hobbies, learn new things, travel, go out with friends and family, know yourself and correct any flaws to improve your character. A new girl will come when you're in a happy place.
Author ameyers Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 Focus on yourself right now.. The thoughts will pass in time. Meanwhile.... Distract yourself by improving on aspects of your life you feel you've neglected for the past 4 years. Workout, get new hobbies, learn new things, travel, go out with friends and family, know yourself and correct any flaws to improve your character. A new girl will come when you're in a happy place. another issue is i no longer have any friends. over those 4 years with her lost touch
NopeNah Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 another issue is i no longer have any friends. over those 4 years with her lost touch Find them.
Author ameyers Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 i think another issue is she was young 18 when we started dating . anf she moved right in with me,
NopeNah Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 i think another issue is she was young 18 when we started dating . anf she moved right in with me, How old are you?
Author ameyers Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 (edited) we are ten years apart 22 and 32 Edited January 15, 2015 by ameyers
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