Whatislife Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Hello lovely people, I am so glad I have found somewhere i can get good advice. So my unofficial ex bf is confusing me like mad. We have been in a relationship for a year and were really in love. But due to my religion etc my parents want to arrange my marriage with another guy. I was really upset and still am and feel helpless because I love my ex but see more future prospects with the guy my parents have proposed, he is a gentleman (known him 2yrs). So since this has been happening for the last 4/5 months my ex was upset at first and showed jealousy etc throughout he has tried to support me. He encouraged me to tell my family about him but until this day i am still afraid of upsetting them. He has said stuff like he is looking for someone else and will slowly forget about me. But the next day he talks to me for hours and talks about our future together. yesterday he told me to leave him alone and that it would be best for us both. 2 months ago i stopped talking to him and he begged for me to come back and later admitted he hated that i had 'gone' and was not the one chasing him. He says stuff like "I gave u my everything but when i wanted to propose to you, you were not ready. Why have you come back now". I think because now I feel he is moving on and don't care about me I want him more. I have tried to contact him today but he ignores my calls and on whatsapp says he is typing but nothing comes through. So confused... What is he thinking? Has he had enough or is he just upset? Does he still love me or have i broken his heart? Please someone guide me. Xx
Josmatjes Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Well, I personally don't believe in arranged marriages but would never judge. If you feel that this is definitely the path that you are going to take, then you truly need to let your boyfriend go. You can't keep him in a holding pattern. It sounds to me as if he is holding on to you hoping you will change your mind and stick up for him. If you truly loved him you would tell your parents ASAP. If not then let him go so he can move on. Good luck 2
David87 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 I agree with Joshmatjes, arranged marriages are not ok... 1
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