Whatislife Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Hello lovely people, I am so glad I have found somewhere i can get good advice. So my unofficial ex bf is confusing me like mad. We have been in a relationship for a year and were really in love. But due to my religion etc my parents want to arrange my marriage with another guy. I was really upset and still am and feel helpless because I love my ex but see more future prospects with the guy my parents have proposed, he is a gentleman (known him 2yrs). So since this has been happening for the last 4/5 months my ex was upset at first and showed jealousy etc throughout he has tried to support me. He encouraged me to tell my family about him but until this day i am still afraid of upsetting them. He has said stuff like he is looking for someone else and will slowly forget about me. But the next day he talks to me for hours and talks about our future together. yesterday he told me to leave him alone and that it would be best for us both. 2 months ago i stopped talking to him and he begged for me to come back and later admitted he hated that i had 'gone' and was not the one chasing him. He says stuff like "I gave u my everything but when i wanted to propose to you, you were not ready. Why have you come back now". I think because now I feel he is moving on and don't care about me I want him more. I have tried to contact him today but he ignores my calls and on whatsapp says he is typing but nothing comes through. So confused... What is he thinking? Has he had enough or is he just upset? Does he still love me or have i broken his heart? Please someone guide me. Xx
Frank2thepoint Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Has he had enough or is he just upset? Does he still love me or have i broken his heart? All of the above. You're ex-boyfriend can't seem to move on and forget you since you two have no real future together. He is upset because you didn't want to tell your parents about him. He obviously does have feelings for you because of the emotional rollercoaster he is subjecting you to, and his erratic behavior. I think you have to figure out first what do you really want. Do you want your ex or the future with this new guy your family is arranging. Once you figure it out, take it from there. If you want your ex, then you'll have to tell your family about him. If you choose the new guy, then you will have to cut all contact with your ex. 1
Toodaloo Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 All of the above. You're ex-boyfriend can't seem to move on and forget you since you two have no real future together. He is upset because you didn't want to tell your parents about him. He obviously does have feelings for you because of the emotional rollercoaster he is subjecting you to, and his erratic behavior. I think you have to figure out first what do you really want. Do you want your ex or the future with this new guy your family is arranging. Once you figure it out, take it from there. If you want your ex, then you'll have to tell your family about him. If you choose the new guy, then you will have to cut all contact with your ex. All of this. What you are doing is really unfair. You really need to decide. 1
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