Taramere Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 There's a certain look I like that you can see in men of any race. It's not a look that's dictated by any particular race or colouring. I'd define it as a laid back, good natured, playful vibe. The eyes play a major role. If a man has that look, then I'm going to notice - regardless of colouring. Going to the first post, when I think about it it does seem a bit shallow to me that people's attraction would be dictated by a person's colouring. I don't mean shallow in a bad sense, or that they're horrible people, but it's just not very much to go on. You don't really get a sense of somebody's personality just from the colours they happen to be. Unless you tend to be guided by stereotypes attached to different hair/skin colours. It's in their eyes, their smile, the way they hold themselves, the expression their face tends to "settle" in. What they project. Whether it's mischief, or kindness or fun. And if we're just being completely superficial and going by a very brief glance at somebody - paying attention to visuals only and not really caring what they might be like as a human being....well, it's the guy's body I'm going to be looking at rather than his hair colour. 1
Gaeta Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 Going to the first post, when I think about it it does seem a bit shallow to me that people's attraction would be dictated by a person's colouring. Hmm, I am a white women and I am only attracted toward black men. Am I shallow? I cannot control what is attractive to me. I have tried to date white men but to me it's like kissing one of my brothers. I did not chose to be attracted toward a certain type of men. It is what it is. I like what I like.
Michelle ma Belle Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 I tend to be automatically drawn to men with darker hair- usually European features. It's not a conscious choice I make and I certainly would never rule out a blonde or any other hair color (or no hair for that matter) just because it isn't my preference. I know better than that. It is what it is
Taramere Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 Hmm, I am a white women and I am only attracted toward black men. Am I shallow? I cannot control what is attractive to me. I have tried to date white men but to me it's like kissing one of my brothers. I did not chose to be attracted toward a certain type of men. It is what it is. I like what I like. If you're finding men you like and you're happy, and they're happy, then there's no reason to try to control your preferences or attempt to date men you're not attracted to simply because they're the same colour as you. We're not living in the 1950s after all. As for whether I think you're shallow, it doesn't really matter what I think. I don't really want to focus on specific people and say "I think you, you and you" are shallow. Talking in more general terms, though, other people only being attracted to others who have a specific hair or skin colour seems a bit shallow to me because of the way I define attraction. As a combination of things (sexual chemistry, emotional connection, shared humour, similar values) in varying degrees. As far as the situation where I react very instantly to a person (ie in being attracted to them) - that's something I've never quite been able to pinpoint, but I do know, thinking of men I've had that reaction with, that it isn't dictated by their hair or skin colour. It's something far less easy to define. In some ways I envy people who have these clearcut preferences of "I fancy/don't fancy blondes/brunettes/black people/white people." It probably makes life more simple and straightforward in many ways. 1
Erised Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 I get not being physically attractive. It seems a small feature to be turned off by, but whatever, it's your attraction and if you aren't and you're happy with your dating pool, it's certainly not hurting anyone. I don't get - in any other way -though. Hair color has no bearing on anything but the physical, so why or how could it possibly affect mental or any other sort of attraction aside from physical? Yes, I'm a natural blond, but no, that is not the reason behind my question.
ComingInHot Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 I'm deep brunette with Blue eyes and I am drawn to whomever I am drawn to. I do kind of have a thing for a particular blonde haired, blue/green eyed hottie though... CiH* 1
slizl Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 Q: Who has more fun, blondes or brunettes??? A: The one with the bigger boobs! I'll be here all week 1
ComingInHot Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 Q: Who has more fun, blondes or brunettes??? A: The one with the bigger boobs! I'll be here all week I know per some unwritten rule I shouldn't be laughing, but... hehehehehe CiH*
orangetree Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 I can't relate how anyone can be attracted to a hair color. Sure, we all have our preferences, but a hair color? I've seen beautiful blondes, brunettes, redheads etc. and beauty doesn't relate to a hair color. Most of the guys I've dated had dark hair but that doesn't mean I wouldn't be attracted by someone with light hair.
Frank2thepoint Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 I think people feel safe about saying it because blonde hair and blue eyes still tend to be stereotypically associated with privilege. I agree, because that's what I think as well when I see men and women with Aryan features. But that wouldn't stop me from getting to know and even dating a blonde, blue eyed woman if we jelled. I on the other hand do not fit into the master race since I have brown eyes.
HarryG Posted January 17, 2015 Posted January 17, 2015 When I was a wee youngin I dated a blonde girl who turned out to be a bit crazy for me. It never went anywhere past a few hookups. Since then I dated brunettes exclusively. About 6 weeks ago my gf and I split up. I decided that I needed to change things up. I decided to date a blonde again. We've been on 4 dates and she has the making of a stage 5 clinger. I don't see this going anywhere. I know there are level headed blondes out there, but I can't seem to find them.
KimmyBee Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 As a blonde female, when I was a teen I didn't think I could ever be attracted to blondes because I loved the tall, dark and handsome look but as an adult in late twenties, I have met some gorgeous blonde men who have been such gentleman. One I would have dated in a heartbeat but he had a girlfriend. My perception has changed since then lol. Am less shallow.
rocketman122 Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 I can relate, but my taste has changed. I never was attracted but started dating a blonde.. a real blond and very nice. Curtain carpet match. Nice pale White skin. Goes well with my muscular dark skin. Always dated pale skin girls and dated blondes shortly. Usually brown or black hair. But going to try and see how it goes. She likes tall muscular dark guys and I like pale skin girls.
goldengirl11 Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 This is an interesting topic/thread. I'm blonde (naturally dark blonde) and probably prefer fair haired men. Although think it would appear shallow to rule out certain hair colours (within reason!). I am considering going darker to try and improve my success, in both dating and work, to see if I might be taken a bit more seriously and get any more luck. I'm also getting a bit bored though of my image I guess.
AVarma Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 Not attracted to blondes? Sorry man I can't relate to that at all.
Taramere Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 I agree, because that's what I think as well when I see men and women with Aryan features. But that wouldn't stop me from getting to know and even dating a blonde, blue eyed woman if we jelled. I on the other hand do not fit into the master race since I have brown eyes. I remember when I was travelling, I mentioned that my great uncle had been in a prisoner of war camp. A girl asked, in a sort of embarrassed and awkward tone, "was he a Nazi?" WTF? No, why would she think an evidently Scottish woman's great uncle was a Nazi? "I just thought with your colouring..." So, a man risks his life against these people, and goes through experiences that leave him with PTSD for the rest of his life, and yet his great niece is asked "was he a Nazi?" because like him, she has blonde hair and blue eyes. The joke of it is that the people who very deliberately perpetuated that "Master Race" stereotype didn't (with the exception of Heydrich) themselves have that look. The British Royal family are fair and have blue eyes, but if you leave them out of the equation most of the world's wealthiest and most powerful people probably don't have that particular look (I can't be bothered trawling through the Forbes rich list and googling who matches the Master Race stereotype, but the ones at the very top don't). The elite Master Race thing is a bit of a red herring, really. A useful stereotype to attribute all kinds of elitist, white supremacy stuff onto. But it certainly is a powerful myth that lives on...and I think Hollywood can be thanked for a good deal of that.
gaius Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 Brunettes catch my eye the fastest but I seem to naturally click with way more blondes. To the point like 4/5 women I end up getting really hot for are blonde. =/
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 In terms of quantity, I attract more men as a blonde. Recently went back to blonde and love it
Emilia Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 I didn't realise about the privilege thing, I thought some liked blondes because of the novelty value as there are fewer of us than brunettes.
thecrucible Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 I don't tend to find blonde men attractive, probably 'cause my brother is blonde so it feels a bit brotherly to me. But never say never - preferences alter for the right person. One exception though (I'm sorry!) is that I don't find bald or red-haired guys attractive at all.
Priv Posted January 19, 2015 Posted January 19, 2015 I'm deep brunette with Blue eyes and I am drawn to whomever I am drawn to. I do kind of have a thing for a particular blonde haired, blue/green eyed hottie though... CiH* No way! I might look like an awesome black helicopter but this is me to the T in real life. So ummm... when you have the time, call me! 1
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