henderson14 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 I just find myself not very physically and emotionally attracted to blondes. And it's not something I'm deciding or being shallow about. Move dated blondes and I just domt have the same attraction both physically and otherwise. Can any guys relate? 2
aggie382 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 As a woman, I can relate. I'm not attracted to blonde men. I'm not sure why. 3
carhill Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Fortunately, blondes in my demographic do not lack for attention but I think the last one I had designs on in any serious way was a young blue-eyed Irish Catholic blonde in high school. There were a lot of them, now that I think of it. Some of the families had two and three sisters there at the same time. Catholics bred like rabbits back then. As an adult, nearly nothing. I think I only dated one blonde out of dozens of dates and none of my relationships nor marriage were with blondes. Most common? Green-eyed brunettes. That said, after marrying a colorist and learning the ins and outs of hair color, I wonder if I really knew the hair color of any woman I met or dated. They all seemed pretty dark, if you know what I mean.
mario_C Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Everyone's got a right to like what they like! Maybe we should start appreciating our unique tastes instead of bemoaning them. 2
oberkeat Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Just because mainstream society tells us that blonde bombshells are the epitome of beauty doesn't mean everyone finds that look attractive. Blonde, brunette, black, white, fat, skinny, tall, short, quiet, talkative. Everyone has their own idea of what's attractive. 4
NopeNah Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 I'm drawn to any beautiful women,but for some reason always end up in LTR with blondes. None have worked out(adds to list of things to change). 1
trippi1432 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 I would have to agree with Aggie, I've not been attracted to a blonde either. I do admit that at one time I told my best friend that I just wanted a dark haired, green eye'd man to sweep me off my feet. Lo and behold, he manifested himself into my life!! :eek: [fifteen years of my life I will never get back].... People should really be careful for what they ask for or are looking for IMO. Any woman can change her hair coloring....doesn't mean anything changes. 1
Emilia Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 I can relate, I'm not all that attracted to blond guys as a rule, maybe because I'm blonde myself. I like huge brown eyes, a lovely darker skin tone and jetblack hair though I like the combination of brown eyes/brown hair with whiter skin too especially if he has freckles 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 I have no attraction to guys with blond hair and pale skin...Never dated one...
Haydn Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Interesting. Blondes have always been my most happy RS. Brunettes have been my downfall. (With their wily ways)
Otter2569 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 You like what you like and there is nothing wrong with that. I have friends that go nuts for Asian woman (personally that doesn't really do much for me) and for the Irish look (too pasty in my opinion). Everyone has their own thing and thats ok.
mtber75 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 I just find myself not very physically and emotionally attracted to blondes. And it's not something I'm deciding or being shallow about. Move dated blondes and I just domt have the same attraction both physically and otherwise. Can any guys relate? What's your point? I'm not really attracted to blondes either. I'm more into brunette and black hair girls!
Eighty_nine Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 I'm bisexual and I'm not really attracted to blonde men or women. But that especially applies to women. I love blue eyes though. dark hair and blue eyes, best combination ever.
Redhead14 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 I just find myself not very physically and emotionally attracted to blondes. And it's not something I'm deciding or being shallow about. Move dated blondes and I just domt have the same attraction both physically and otherwise. Can any guys relate? Food for thought . . . is there someone in your history who was blonde and caused you some kind of pain, anxiety, etc? If so, you may be weeding out potential dating partners due to some kind of subconscious filter or even stereotyping. I'm not saying that's so for you, just something to consider. It does happen and more often than people realize. A characteristic or habit or feature reminds you on some level of some negative experience and you are immediately turned off without even realizing it. If you can get to know the person on a little deeper level and the past experience isn't too severe, you may find that you can "overlook" the hair color. Not only that, maybe she really isn't blonde . . . Preference by Loreal is a great deceptor
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 I never really found blonde haired women particularly more attractive, but I definitely find them attractive if they are good looking just like any other. One thing I never got was the pasty white colored skin some people prefer....objectively to me, caramel or a golden brown is the nicest looking, I had some extended family that had the color naturally...it didn't even look like skin, it just looked like a silky colored coating of paint. But as a whole, I don't find skin color itself, romantically or sexually arousing, or appealing but it can be nice skin or a nice color/tone. I get preferences and attraction, but I think when you date outside your normal preset attraction standards, they tend to change a bit with experience. I've never been particularly attracted to Asian or black women for example generally speaking, but I've dated them both, as well as the others in between that people mostly paint with a wide brush...I still found them attractive individually, there's certain features that you learn to admire in a woman that you find appealing or have chemistry with at the end of the day anyway, and nobody is perfect. I don't find myself particularly attracted to Indian women either, or maybe some other country I've hardly ever thought about...but it doesn't mean I wouldn't date them or will find them unattractive because I'm not particularly attracted to that ethnicity in general.
Taramere Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 I just find myself not very physically and emotionally attracted to blondes. And it's not something I'm deciding or being shallow about. Move dated blondes and I just domt have the same attraction both physically and otherwise. Can any guys relate? There's no rule that says men have to be attracted to women with a specific hair colour, is there? Some men like blondes, some don't. Do you need to hear that other men share your preference in order to have it validated?
Frank2thepoint Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 I can't relate. I do tend to like brunettes a bit more, maybe because I am a blonde (dark blonde actually), but honestly I like all hair colors on a woman. Even if she dyes it pink, green, or whatever rainbow color. I don't discriminate. I see a lot of posts for no attraction to blondes. .
Sunfire73 Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 My bf can relate. He is not attracted to blondes and he's white.
Taramere Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 I see a lot of posts for no attraction to blondes. . I think people feel safe about saying it because blonde hair and blue eyes still tend to be stereotypically associated with privilege. I recall a very plain secretary I once worked with who claimed to find Brad Pitt "ugly". Whether she'd have knocked him back if he'd approached her in a bar is a different matter. I suspect not. 1
SycamoreCircle Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 I feel the same, as well. I'm typically drawn to women with dark hair. I think it's visually more dramatic to see a curtain of dark hair against lighter skin. I think also, because of my lower middle class upbringing and politics, I tend to associate blonde hair with elitism, racial purity, acceptance. Dark hair seems more exotic and forbidden.
acapelo_dp Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 I can relate, I am a woman and I am not attracted to men with blonde hair. Dark brown hair seems to be the type I am attracted to. I think I had a crush on one man with blonde hair and that was when I was a teenager. Dark hair with blue or green eyes is so sexy on a man. Yum.
GemmaUK Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 I'm not attracted to blonde men. nor men with pregnant and about to drop looking tummies and big moobs. [at my age (45) this is the norm in shape for single men though - the only 'in shape or average shape' men I know of my own age or slightly younger/older are married or loved up as they know they need to keep looking good for their wives] You cannot help what you are and are not attracted to. 1
mysteryscape Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 I thought I wasn't attracted to blondes. Then I fell in love with one. And then another. I'm also attracted to women of various races. At one time I thought I wasn't attracted to black women, then that changed. My eagerness for different races varies with time, for some reason. Sometimes I am super keen for Chinese women, at other times indifferent. I have no idea why.
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