mc117 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 my girlfriend didnt text me for 5 hours yesterday, which is unusual for her, so im not trying to be clingy but 5 hours is a long time. also she has sent me messages like i love you too, or telling me what she is doing even though i didnt ask and didnt tell her those things recently. The first time she tolding me she was watching a show on tv, but i didnt ask her it was completely random. i was very confused and told her about but i gave up and ignored it. the second time she did it yeterday, where she said i love you too even though i hadnt said it recently. i said it an hour and a half before when she hadnt been talking to me, but then a whil later she texts hey. after all that i suspected cheating and told her about it and she said she was not cheating. she said it was the truth from her heart, and she also during our argument said to dump her because thats what i want and that i never loved her anyways and dont talk to her or anything. i do talk to her though, it is hard though because im antisocial and not used to talking to her.i barely talk to my own parents because im so shy. i even thought of telling her that im not good enough because i cant be a good talker for her. also she isnt very passionate in my opinion and im the one who is more physical and emotional. her kind of caring makes her seem like my mother instead of my girlfriend. she also likes gangsters and rap, and i dont hate her or anything for that but im not really into that stuff. So when she listens to rap or i hear about gangsters i get angry. i just hate them like a phobia. she doesnt express love for gangsters, or rap artists since december >_< and she actually wipes my kisses off too. not like angrily but just a kiss and a wipe of the sleeve.she says its because i get saliva on her but my kisses arent even wet, and she didnt used to do it. i noticed she started to do it recently :/ she is the exact same girl in my other posts, so yes it seems like its a broken relationship or that i have too many issues with her, but i have a bond with her and i deeply love her i just dont think she would do the same or feel the same, i dont know what to do because i love her, but for some reason i feel like a kid who became friends with the wrong people in school. and that may be the answer but she loves me, i think, and she doesnt love me, i think. i want to stay because i love her, and i want to go because i feel like i cant continue with her anymore. i dont know if she is cheating, i dont know if she is right for me, and i dont know if she loves me anymore. she seems to want to be around me less, not let me touch her a lot, im a touchy feely guy and im passionate loving and emotional, but she doesnt like touching me, and she doesnt like me touching her that much, only in specific ways. i feel like either way im making a bad choice because if i leave her i will regret it, because i love her and she will be hurt for sure, and its a bad choice to stay because i risk being hurt in the relationship more and more. i am thinking if i dont feel like im being treated fairly, that i should let her go, or if im hurt by being with her sometimes because she stabs and runs, is a perfectionist, critical and i sense narcissistic tendencies, but after all of that i love her and i feel like i would be abandoning her. she is cute, funny, assertive, smart, motherly caring and uses tough love but i dont know if she is right for me. -mc117
applej4 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 5 hours is NOTHING. Maybe she was doing other things like living a life.You sound very needy and insecure - maybe SHE needs to pull back. Sounds like you're smothering her.(btw your post is hard to read. Learn to break thoughts into paragraphs.)
Author mc117 Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 5 hours is NOTHING. Maybe she was doing other things like living a life.You sound very needy and insecure - maybe SHE needs to pull back. Sounds like you're smothering her.(btw your post is hard to read. Learn to break thoughts into paragraphs.) she is living her life, but like i said, it is unusual for her to do that, she has been living fine texting me every half hour and i dont complain about that, but when she starts to not text me for five hours, that is unusual. and yes i am kinda needy but i dont control her, she actually does that more than me. and besides she says she likes that that im clingy. i actually dont know what to say about your post other than that.
katlover Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 (edited) My man it seems like you have a lot to learn.. I'm guessing you are still very young or very new to the love game. You say she likes that you are clingy, but being clingy in the future is not a good thing. So don't get use to it. I mean what if she leaves you.. no other girl is going to want a clingy/needy/insecure guy. Learn to be less clingy. 5 hours of not texting is okay. You should not put too much emphasis on how people behave on text messages. If I was in a relationship and I knew my gf had a life, I could care less if she didn't text me for a whole month. I think you might have some trust issues with this girl as well since you accused her of cheating. If this is the case then you need work on your trust with this girl. Edited January 15, 2015 by katlover 1
Redhead14 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 my girlfriend didnt text me for 5 hours yesterday, which is unusual for her, so im not trying to be clingy but 5 hours is a long time. also she has sent me messages like i love you too, or telling me what she is doing even though i didnt ask and didnt tell her those things recently. The first time she tolding me she was watching a show on tv, but i didnt ask her it was completely random. i was very confused and told her about but i gave up and ignored it. the second time she did it yeterday, where she said i love you too even though i hadnt said it recently. i said it an hour and a half before when she hadnt been talking to me, but then a whil later she texts hey. after all that i suspected cheating and told her about it and she said she was not cheating. she said it was the truth from her heart, and she also during our argument said to dump her because thats what i want and that i never loved her anyways and dont talk to her or anything. i do talk to her though, it is hard though because im antisocial and not used to talking to her.i barely talk to my own parents because im so shy. i even thought of telling her that im not good enough because i cant be a good talker for her. also she isnt very passionate in my opinion and im the one who is more physical and emotional. her kind of caring makes her seem like my mother instead of my girlfriend. she also likes gangsters and rap, and i dont hate her or anything for that but im not really into that stuff. So when she listens to rap or i hear about gangsters i get angry. i just hate them like a phobia. she doesnt express love for gangsters, or rap artists since december >_< and she actually wipes my kisses off too. not like angrily but just a kiss and a wipe of the sleeve.she says its because i get saliva on her but my kisses arent even wet, and she didnt used to do it. i noticed she started to do it recently :/ she is the exact same girl in my other posts, so yes it seems like its a broken relationship or that i have too many issues with her, but i have a bond with her and i deeply love her i just dont think she would do the same or feel the same, i dont know what to do because i love her, but for some reason i feel like a kid who became friends with the wrong people in school. and that may be the answer but she loves me, i think, and she doesnt love me, i think. i want to stay because i love her, and i want to go because i feel like i cant continue with her anymore. i dont know if she is cheating, i dont know if she is right for me, and i dont know if she loves me anymore. she seems to want to be around me less, not let me touch her a lot, im a touchy feely guy and im passionate loving and emotional, but she doesnt like touching me, and she doesnt like me touching her that much, only in specific ways. i feel like either way im making a bad choice because if i leave her i will regret it, because i love her and she will be hurt for sure, and its a bad choice to stay because i risk being hurt in the relationship more and more. i am thinking if i dont feel like im being treated fairly, that i should let her go, or if im hurt by being with her sometimes because she stabs and runs, is a perfectionist, critical and i sense narcissistic tendencies, but after all of that i love her and i feel like i would be abandoning her. she is cute, funny, assertive, smart, motherly caring and uses tough love but i dont know if she is right for me. -mc117 You need to look at the relationship as a whole and not analyze or assume from little "blips" now and again that cause you to be insecure. Unless there is some significant history in the relationship or real indicators that something is truly wrong, don't dwell on or blow up the small things. You are manufacturing issues that probably don't exist. Further, if you feel there is some so significant to address, don't do it through texting. Make a phone call and TALK in a non-confrontational way to find out if your insecurity is warranted. How long have you been dating?
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