Kos Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 (edited) When I say 'Doubt', I have no clear indication of what this girl I feel attraction towards is like as a person. She could be nice. She could be vain. I just feel she's either reserved, shy or disinterested. I'm not gonna analyse every tiny detail because you can't 'analyse' scenarios when you don't see the full picture and furthermore my problem being that I'm thrown into the unknown where I'm unable to grasp how I should really act. I'm interested in sort of introverted, reserved women because they have a lot of emotional depth to them but this is the type of girl I'm attracted to where the atmosphere is too fragile for me to risk an unsettlement. Unfortunately though At present I can't decide whether I should completely ignore her or still maintain eye contact. The first time I met and introduced myself to her she was giving me a teethy smile while sort of slightly avoiding eye contact. She only actually replied with a couple one word answers. The interaction only lasted about 40 seconds and after that she sort of sat down and occupied herself with her phone. The first couple of times after that she would smile if I saw her and said hello but I cut it out at the bus stop the following day because I didn't want to look needy/stalkerish. She must of seen me talk to another girl(friend of mine) who shouted a hello to me from across the road. Because the moment I turned round, the girl I liked had walked across and was sitting a couple feet behind me with her earphones plugged in. I didn't pay much attention to her but she was obviously confident enough to walk up beside me and talk to a friend she recognised. After that we were just silent and didn't talk/look at each other. I was feeling too shy so I sat on the bottom floor of the bus. Whenever she was on her own she would have her music plugged in. What came from then on were a couple of occasions where I tried to say hello as I walked past her which she perhaps ignored. I walk very fast though so it'd probably be kind of hard/awkward to respond. She would always have her face looking at the ground if she did walk past me and she would only ever sit at tables in a big group of people if she did sit in the cafeteria. One time I had to walk the same slow speed as my friend which turbulently froze my eyes right into her face. It was as though I stared right into her and I couldn't move my eyes away I was so frozen by her gorgeously classy face. She may have actually smiled but if so I was too entranced to smile back. The last couple of times I tried to smile, it was too fake and didn't work. At which point it was only wise to give up hope and prepare for what social new years resolutions I had planned for the new year. She was in one of my classes and would sometimes stare at me but I think that's a little too inconsequential with everything else I've stated. She seems to act different around me to other people whether she likes me or not and when i've seen her walk/talk with a few guys (probably close friends) it can't just be because I'm a guy and she was already like this before I even introduced myself to her. I went through a phase of joking light heartedly in class with my friends for the first couple of weeks but I never said anything mean or acted vain when she was about. I really don't know her and she doesn't know me. I'm unsure as to whether I actually made her uncomfortable or if it was really her intention to be distant. If she means well then it's just bad luck that things have to be that way. She could just be in her own social circle. Maybe she's shy, aloof or standoffish or none of that at all. I'm focussed and not wasting my energy on her but at the same time I just want to know what the best attitude to have if I encounter her again at some point? What are your thoughts of what I should perhaps do if I encounter her again? Edited January 15, 2015 by Kos
ponchsox Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Just be yourself and she wants to be with you she will reach out to you.
todreaminblue Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 (edited) are you shy normally yourself? eyes freezing that sort of thing points to shyness..... i feel you should just bite the bullet and talk to her......talk to her about whatever makes you passionate....start a conversation with hello....each time you see her add a little more ...develop a flow an expectation of contact when you do see each other.......and see where your heart and her heart lead you....if you eventually want to start to let her know you like her ....brush her arm casually while speaking touch her....actually reach out physically ....non intrusive and not hard core...a whisper of a touch rather than a grope if you get my drift....good luck..as a person who often wears headphones in public i will tell you that they are not always on...they are for a specific purpose sometimes it to listen to music as in exercising....at other times it is so i dont listen to the noise around me...that i am not as approachable is a bonus.....but...in saying that.....i have often when out get approached headphones or not and i have to take them out......which i dont mind doing......but soemtimes its good to have a littl ebuffer and muffler to the world around me....and i am shy......part of me anyway.............deb Edited January 15, 2015 by todreaminblue
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