Andreas891 Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 (edited) Hi all, I need some help. So here is the situation, November 2013 I met a girl, talked to her on skype, had phone sex etc, she is from the USA and I am from the UK. When I met her she was married, she is now divorced. When she got divorced we started to fall in love, and by Summer 2014 we had planned me going over to meet her and were crazy in love with each other. She has 3 kids with her ex. t So I go over there September and all is well, we are both happy spend a ton of time together etc. First weekend she goes to her ex's house to see her kids. This all goes well too. Then he starts acting like an ass and wont let her see them, he comes over to the house while she is at work and basically tells me he does not like me and to go back to England. I ignore this and think he is just jealous. Few weeks pass by, she hasn't seen her kids much because he wont let her etc. Then October he comes over to the house and says he needs clothes for the kids, me being the idiot I am lets him in and follows him to make sure he doesn't do anything stupid. But the good thing I did was hit the record button on my phone when he comes over. Then the bad thing happens, I turn my back to leave the room and bam, he hits me in the face hard, knocks my tooth out then continues to hit me till I get away then he storms out the house. I go to hospital and get stitches and even today I am still missing that front tooth. So then she gets back to the schedule he has them for a week she has them for a week and I stayed with a friend while she had them. Then November he files against her trying to take them away. So a few weeks go by and I finally meet them, and I love them and they absolutely love me, I had so much fun with them that week! Then comes the last week in the USA and time for me to go by, and all the way to the airport we cried, and I could not let her go in the airport and almost missed my flight home, it was the hardest thing I have ever done. We had so much fun together and did everything!!! I miss her house and her area and the music and I miss her now!! Come to 2015 and he still hasn't dropped it. so she decides to break up with me and see if that helps, of course that doesn't! So she goes to his house and tells him I voice recorded the whole encounter of him hitting me and that doesn't seem to work either. Then this week he tells her he is willing to drop it to primary custody I assume to him. So if she does anything he doesn't approve of he can take them away. Her and I still talk and still are in love, but she said she doesn't think we can be together at all with him having primary custody, or at least for the next 16 years till they are no longer minors. he has always been controlling. before primary it was she had to sign something saying we would never be together and it would be fully dropped. I begged her not to do that so she didn't, yet. But surely him and his lawyer cant make her sign something like that, right?? I just don't know what to do, I know she is the love of my life and I am hers. but she can't lose her kids, but right now I can't lose her and don't feel I will ever meet someone like her. And yes she was my first sexual encounter. Everything is fine her kids love me, I love them, her family, her town etc. It is just him being the controlling person that is stopping us from being together. Soooo, what do I do?? What does she do?? I want to go back and take him to court and fight him, especially after what he did to me. I really love this girl!! Help! Edited January 14, 2015 by Andreas891
preraph Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Look, if she doesn't have an attorney, she MUST get one. The attorney is NOT going to give primary custody to a violent man who hit you in the face. The only thing you need to know right now is if she doesn't have a family law attorney, she MUST get one and stop living in fear. He's doing baby blackmail and trying to make her feel guilty and like a wh*re. Court doesn't care about cheating that much. They do care about violence, and he's violent. Tell her get an attorney. 1
Author Andreas891 Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 Thank you, she already has an attorney. i filed against him but I am now back in the UK so if that goes to court I cant attend! I told her to fight him but she doesn't want to risk losing her kids. She said she would give me up for them if she had to but I don't want to not be with her!
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