Le Franglais Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 "I am really, really upset and I don't want to talk about it now because I'm stressed about University and not thinking straight. I don't think we'll see each other before you go, but maybe next time you're in London when things have calmed down". Was this a way of breaking up with me?? This is the text she sent me in response to mine yesterday. I asked her to tell me "where I stand" ... Is her text telling that she wants space?
evanescentworld Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Hmmm..... Sounds like it. She's obviously trying to let you down easy, but I really would settle this with her, and ask her whether she is sure she wants to break up? That way, you will get clarification. But a 'break' is still a euphemism for breaking up, yes....
Author Le Franglais Posted January 14, 2015 Author Posted January 14, 2015 Hmmm..... Sounds like it. She's obviously trying to let you down easy, but I really would settle this with her, and ask her whether she is sure she wants to break up? That way, you will get clarification. But a 'break' is still a euphemism for breaking up, yes.... How is it 'obvious' to you? If she wanted to end it ... wouldn't she of said it straight away. I know her best here, and I'm sure she would have said "It's over" after I asked her where I stood.
evanescentworld Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 It's obvious to me because I'm a woman and I can see how she's thinking. Women have a maternal instinct that prevents some of them from being direct, blunt and to-the-point, and hurtful. Of course you know her best. I'm just trying to respond to your post.
Author Le Franglais Posted January 14, 2015 Author Posted January 14, 2015 It's obvious to me because I'm a woman and I can see how she's thinking. Women have a maternal instinct that prevents some of them from being direct, blunt and to-the-point, and hurtful. Of course you know her best. I'm just trying to respond to your post. She would have let me know on the spot if she wanted to end it. I'm not taking the break up until she has confronted me. She's no coward.
regine_phalange Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Important: how often do you go to London?
Author Le Franglais Posted January 14, 2015 Author Posted January 14, 2015 Important: how often do you go to London? I live here, it's my home town. We're talking about London, UK here BTW. I study in a town two hours away called Bristol ... and I go back to London every 2 weeks. IMPORTANT: My (possibly ex) GF just sent me a text ... it reads "When are you going back to Bristol?" What does ^ this mean??
preraph Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 To me, I am getting a vibe and I could be totally wrong that she's worn out from being somehow confronted or pestered by you and can't take it right now while she needs to concentrate on this other thing.
d0nnivain Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 If you come back every two weeks it means she is stressed about her stuff & wants some breathing room . . . the two weeks before you come home again but she is not going to see you before you leave. It's not an ideal situation but I don't think it's a break up either. Something is bothering her & right now you are making that worse. Give her the two weeks or how ever long until you are back. Don't pressure her. Send a few pithy messages via your favorite form of communication: text, FB, e-mail, Snapchat . . . whatever but not daily. If she calls you fantastic but you leave her be until you are back.
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