king1402 Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 So me and one of my exes from hs are still good friends we only dated two weeks lol. Now we are both seniors in college and talk about our relationships with each other. She recently got out of a relationship with a guy whom she loved so much and has already been making out with different people and now says she has met a guy that she really likes. She already told her mom about him and says her mom already likes him. She told him that she wants to be official and they spend a lot of time together and spend the night with each other. Problem is they've only been talking for about 4 days now. I think she's heading toward a bad self destruction as she didn't give herself enough time to heal from her previous relationship. She would talk about how amazing this guy is and how much she loved him, but is already Googly eyed over a new guy. I get that she was dumped and is very sad but good grief. One week later?Can people really move on so fast or is she using this new guy to cover up the pain she may be feeling. I feel like she will crave for the old guy and hurt the new guy in this process eventually. Have any of you experienced or rebounded like this before?
Ieris Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Ummm... I once jumped from one relationship to another very quickly. I remember thinking how can this person treat me better than my own boyfriend? The new guy was not a rebound, I just met someone who treated me right and I never had to question where I stood with him. I don't even remember needing time to heal from the previous relationship because it was comparing being treat like mud to being treated like gold. I didn't even think about my ex much apart from when my mutual friends were passing on messages which I completely ignored. So.. I don't think everyone who moves on fast is on the rebound. Sometimes you just find bigger and better things 1
EgoJoe Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 I'm seeing a new girl but it started a month after things ended and a few days after the final meeting. I wouldn't call it a rebound. It's deeper mentally and we're both taking it slow. I think the term rebound applies to someone who gets dumped and attempts to transfer the emotions. Starting something new in the ashes something else is not a rebound. But you still have to be mindful of your true feelings and be honest with yourself and your new interest. 1
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