SkyFullOfStars Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Some months ago i dated a guy for a while. Not something serious. After a long time we started hanging out again but not dating. He is also single now so it's a good chance to become closer with him. We kissed a bit but it wasn't again something serious. One day ago we saw a movie together. Nothing really happened between us. I wanted to make a move but i chose not to do it. Also, lately we speak a lot online at night and he teases me. The truth is a still like him a lot. I feel that he likes me but the signals are a bit mixed. Even the thing that he came to watch the movie could be friendly because in general he is very friendly with everyone and open. The strange thing is the way he looked at me. Since the time he came to my house he looked at me with his eyelids lowered and a little smile. Do you think he is still interested? Also, what can i do to become closer with him and show him that i'm interested? I really want your help cause i feel it's a big chance for me. I want to make a try even if it doesn't work. I don't have anything to loose.
evanescentworld Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Invite him round for a meal one evening, watch movies, and when it gets late, tell him he's quite welcome to stay the night if he likes.... See what his response at the time, will be....
Author SkyFullOfStars Posted January 14, 2015 Author Posted January 14, 2015 Invite him round for a meal one evening, watch movies, and when it gets late, tell him he's quite welcome to stay the night if he likes.... See what his response at the time, will be.... I would prefer something else. I don't want to rush things. Maybe something more discreet.
evanescentworld Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Ok. GO OUT to dinner, and talk. Actually talk, face to face, and broach the subject of dating. In today's world, sometimes, if a lady wants something to move, she has to be the instigator.
Redhead14 Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Some months ago i dated a guy for a while. Not something serious. After a long time we started hanging out again but not dating. He is also single now so it's a good chance to become closer with him. We kissed a bit but it wasn't again something serious. One day ago we saw a movie together. Nothing really happened between us. I wanted to make a move but i chose not to do it. Also, lately we speak a lot online at night and he teases me. The truth is a still like him a lot. I feel that he likes me but the signals are a bit mixed. Even the thing that he came to watch the movie could be friendly because in general he is very friendly with everyone and open. The strange thing is the way he looked at me. Since the time he came to my house he looked at me with his eyelids lowered and a little smile. Do you think he is still interested? Also, what can i do to become closer with him and show him that i'm interested? I really want your help cause i feel it's a big chance for me. I want to make a try even if it doesn't work. I don't have anything to loose. Don't try to DO anything different. Let the relationship develop naturally. Let him come to you. Be receptive and accept his invitations, respond to his calls and let him know you appreciate hearing from him and being with him. Just show him you enjoy being with him. 1
Author SkyFullOfStars Posted January 14, 2015 Author Posted January 14, 2015 Don't try to DO anything different. Let the relationship develop naturally. Let him come to you. Be receptive and accept his invitations, respond to his calls and let him know you appreciate hearing from him and being with him. Just show him you enjoy being with him. I really believe that's the best way. If i started suggesting to do things together more often and talk to him online a little more would it help the situation? He doesn't really suggest to do things together. For example, in order to watch this movie i started talking to him for something and then suggested it.
Assada Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 You DONT have to go to dinner with him and do all of that stuff. All you have to do, is smile a little more with him. Be gentle with him. Look in his eyes when he's talking to you, have lingering hugs, try to be in his space. Ask him questions about himself, be attentive. - He'll get the idea
Author SkyFullOfStars Posted January 14, 2015 Author Posted January 14, 2015 You DONT have to go to dinner with him and do all of that stuff. All you have to do, is smile a little more with him. Be gentle with him. Look in his eyes when he's talking to you, have lingering hugs, try to be in his space. Ask him questions about himself, be attentive. - He'll get the idea I have done all these a bit already and he seems receptive. The problem is that he doesn't really seem to make an effort to tell me to do something together. When i talk with him online (most of the time i initiate the contact) as i said he teases me and we talk a lot but in order to do the things you say he should also try at least chase me a bit as i do. He likes me but he gives mixed signals. Do you have maybe any idea what i could suggest doing next? Maybe tell him to watch a movie again or it will be boring? I really like this guy and i would like to spend more time with him but i don't have any ideas.
Assada Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 I personally never initiate contact online, because I just dont talk online, i know that some people do. Im not one of them. There is no chasing going on. just be patient, it will happen
Redhead14 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 I really believe that's the best way. If i started suggesting to do things together more often and talk to him online a little more would it help the situation? He doesn't really suggest to do things together. For example, in order to watch this movie i started talking to him for something and then suggested it. He did suggest something . . . you guys watched the movie. Just make him aware of things you like to do in general. If he is paying attention, he will hear that and suggest doing one of the things you've mentioned.
Redhead14 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 I have done all these a bit already and he seems receptive. The problem is that he doesn't really seem to make an effort to tell me to do something together. When i talk with him online (most of the time i initiate the contact) as i said he teases me and we talk a lot but in order to do the things you say he should also try at least chase me a bit as i do. He likes me but he gives mixed signals. Do you have maybe any idea what i could suggest doing next? Maybe tell him to watch a movie again or it will be boring? I really like this guy and i would like to spend more time with him but i don't have any ideas. He did suggest something . . . you guys watched the movie. Just make him aware of things you like to do in general. If he is paying attention, he will hear that and suggest doing one of the things you've mentioned.
preraph Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Oh, for God's sake. You said yourself he is a friendly outgoing guy. That means if he WANTED to start dating you full on and make you his girlfriend, he wouldn't hesitate to do so. I seriously doubt there's any confusion to him whether you're interested or not, but if you think there might be, tell him, "I still like you a lot. Are you interested in dating and seeing where it goes?" 1
Author SkyFullOfStars Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 Oh, for God's sake. You said yourself he is a friendly outgoing guy. That means if he WANTED to start dating you full on and make you his girlfriend, he wouldn't hesitate to do so. I seriously doubt there's any confusion to him whether you're interested or not, but if you think there might be, tell him, "I still like you a lot. Are you interested in dating and seeing where it goes?" I know he would have done it. Anyway, i have just decided to let it blossom naturally. We will hang out, having fun and get to know each other better. No need to rush. He knows i like him and he also likes me. So, i will just give it time and see where it goes. If nothing happens we can just hang out as friends since that he is a great guy. Thank you all for your answers! 1
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