Encouraging/Motivation/Uplifting Songs/Poems

[ilovedmike]

Hello all, I decided to make this thread so that we can all express ourselves and maybe uplift each other during the NC process and the moving on process in general. I'll start here first by pasting a song that gave me a little bit of a push.

 

"Now that you're out of my life, I'm so much better

You thought that I'd be weak without you, but I'm stronger

You thought that I'd be broke without you, but I'm richer

You thought that I'd be sad without you, I laugh harder

You thought I wouldn't grow without you, now I'm wiser

Though that I'd be helpless without you, but I'm smarter

You thought that I'd be stressed without you, but I'm chillin'

You thought I wouldn't sell without you, sold nine million

 

I'm a survivor

I'm not gon' give up

I'm not gon' stop

I'm gon' work harder

I'm a survivor

I'm gonna make it

I will survive

Keep on survivin'

 

 

Thought I couldn't breathe without, I'm inhaling

You thought I couldn't see without you, perfect vision

You thought I couldn't last without you, but I'm lastin'

You thought that I would die without you, but I'm livin'

Thought that I would fail without you, but I'm on top

Thought it would be over by now, but it won't stop

Thought that I would self destruct, but I'm still here

Even in my years to come, I'm still gonna be here

 

 

 

I'm wishin' you the best

Pray that you are blessed

Bring much success, no stress, and lots of happiness

I'm not gon' blast you on the radio

I'm not gon' lie on you and your family

I'm not gon' hate on you in the magazines

I'm not gon' compromise my Christianity

You know I'm not gon' diss you on the Internet

'Cause my Mama taught me better than that"

Edited January 14, 2015 by ilovedmike

[bigtrouble]

Here's my favorite for now...

Let Her Go - Passenger

 

 

"Let Her Go"

 

Well you only need the light when it's burning low

Only miss the sun when it starts to snow

Only know you love her when you let her go

 

Only know you've been high when you're feeling low

Only hate the road when you’re missin' home

Only know you love her when you let her go

And you let her go

 

Staring at the bottom of your glass

Hoping one day you'll make a dream last

But dreams come slow and they go so fast

 

You see her when you close your eyes

Maybe one day you'll understand why

Everything you touch surely dies

 

But you only need the light when it's burning low

Only miss the sun when it starts to snow

Only know you love her when you let her go

 

Only know you've been high when you're feeling low

Only hate the road when you're missin' home

Only know you love her when you let her go

 

Staring at the ceiling in the dark

Same old empty feeling in your heart

'Cause love comes slow and it goes so fast

 

Well you see her when you fall asleep

But never to touch and never to keep

'Cause you loved her too much

And you dived too deep

 

Well you only need the light when it's burning low

Only miss the sun when it starts to snow

Only know you love her when you let her go

 

Only know you've been high when you're feeling low

Only hate the road when you're missin' home

Only know you love her when you let her go

 

And you let her go (oh, oh, ooh, oh no)

And you let her go (oh, oh, ooh, oh no)

Will you let her go?

 

'Cause you only need the light when it's burning low

Only miss the sun when it starts to snow

Only know you love her when you let her go

 

Only know you've been high when you're feeling low

Only hate the road when you're missin' home

Only know you love her when you let her go

 

'Cause you only need the light when it's burning low

Only miss the sun when it starts to snow

Only know you love her when you let her go

 

Only know you've been high when you're feeling low

Only hate the road when you're missin' home

Only know you love her when you let her go

 

And you let her go

[JonjMie]

Play this loud and proud, brilliant lyrics from Arctic Monkeys. Think about NC when you listen.

 

Have you got colour in your cheeks?

Do you ever get the fear that you can’t shift the type that sticks around like something in your teeth?

Are there some aces up your sleeve?

Have you no idea that you’re in deep?

I dreamt about you nearly every night this week

How many secrets can you keep?

Cause there’s this tune I found that makes me think of you somehow and I play it on repeat

Until I fall asleep

Spilling drinks on my settee

 

Do I wanna know

if this feeling flows both ways?

Sad to see you go

Was sort of hoping that you’d stay

Baby we both know

That the nights were mainly made for saying things that you can’t say tomorrow day

 

[Chorus]

Crawlin’ back to you

Ever though of calling when you’ve had a few

Cos I always do

Maybe I’m too busy being yours to fall for somebody new

Now I’ve thought it through

Crawlin’ back to you

 

So have you got the guts?

Been wondering if you’re heart’s still open

And if so I wanna know what time it shuts

Simmer down and pucker up

I’m sorry to interrupt

It’s just I’m constantly on the cusp

Of trying to kiss you

I don’t know if you feel the same as I do

But we could be together if you wanted to

 

Do I wanna know

If this feeling flows both ways?

Sad to see you go

Was sort of hoping that you’d stay

Baby we both know

That the nights were mainly made for saying things that you can’t say tomorrow day

 

[Chorus]

Crawlin’ back to you

Ever though of calling when you’ve had a few

Cos I always do

Maybe I’m too busy being yours to fall for somebody new

Now I’ve thought it through

Crawlin’ back to you

Too busy being yours to fall

Ever thought of calling darling?

Do you want me crawling back to you?

[bigtrouble]

Anyone seen the movie Swingers 1996

Its a story about a Guy who got dumped by her GF for another Guy, his struggles to go NC, always wanting her back, so messed up he can't go on dates. Well it has a good ending... I don't want to spoil it, if you do wanna watch it...

 

trailer --->

[ilovedmike]

Anyone seen the movie Swingers 1996

Its a story about a Guy who got dumped by her GF for another Guy, his struggles to go NC, always wanting her back, so messed up he can't go on dates. Well it has a good ending... I don't want to spoil it, if you do wanna watch it...

 

trailer --->

 

Thanks so much for sharing this Big Trouble! I will watch this and let you know what I think.

[ilovedmike]

At first, I was afraid, I was petrified.

Kept thinkin' I could never live

Without you by my side,

But then I spent so many nights

Thinkin' how you did me wrong.

And I grew strong

And I learned how to get along.

 

And so you're back from outer space.

I just walked in to find you here

With that sad look upon your face.

I should've changed that stupid lock,

I should've made you leave your key,

If I had known, for just one second,

You'd be back to bother me.

 

Well, now go! Walk out the door!

Just turn around now,

'Cause you're not welcome anymore!

Weren't you the one

Who tried to hurt me with goodbye?

Did you think I'd crumble?

Did you think I'd lay down and die?

 

Oh no, not I! I will survive!

Oh, as long as I know how to love,

I know I'll stay alive!

I've got all my life to live.

I've got all my love to give.

And I'll survive! I will survive!

Hey, Hey!

 

It took all the strength I had

Not to fall apart

And trying hard to mend the pieces

Of my broken heart.

 

And I spent, oh, so many nights

Just feeling sorry for myself.

I used to cry,

But now I hold my head up high!

 

And you'll see me, somebody new,

I'm not that chained up little person

Still in love with you.

 

And so you felt like droppin' in

And just expect me to be free,

But now I'm savin' all my lovin'

For someone who's lovin' me!

 

Go now! Go! Walk out the door!

Just turn around now!

'Cause you're not welcome anymore!

Weren't you the one

Who tried to break me with goodbye?

Did you think I'd crumble?

Did you think I'd lay down and die?

 

Oh no, not I! I will survive!

Oh, as long as I know how to love

I know I'll stay alive!

I've got all my life to live.

I've got all my love to give.

And I'll survive. I will survive! Oohh..

 

Go now! Go! Walk out the door!

Just turn around now!

'Cause you're not welcome anymore!

Weren't you the one

Who tried to break me with goodbye?

Did you think I'd crumble?

Did you think I'd lay down and die?

 

Oh no, not I! I will survive!

Oh, as long as I know how to love

I know I'll stay alive!

And I've got all my life to live.

And I've got all my love to give.

And I'll survive. I will survive! I will survive!

[ilovedmike]

I couldn't edit my post but I DID see Swingers! It has my favorite actor in it, Vincent Vaughn! He's hilarious and I love his character in here because it's funny. He and that other guy who was hurt over his girlfriend are always in movies together!

 

I won't give the end away but it's hilarious when "trent" is flirting with a chick and he figures out she's talking to a baby! lol

[todreaminblue]

I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself.

 

D. H. Lawrence

heres the song .....

 

[spoken:]

After all that you put me through,

You think I'd despise you,

But in the end I wanna thank you,

'Cause you've made me that much stronger

 

Well I thought I knew you, thinkin' that you were true

Guess I, I couldn't trust called your bluff time is up

'Cause I've had enough

You were there by my side, always down for the ride

But your joy ride just came down in flames 'cause your greed sold me out in shame

 

After all of the stealing and cheating you probably think that I hold resentment for you

But uh uh, oh no, you're wrong

'Cause if it wasn't for all that you tried to do, I wouldn't know

Just how capable I am to pull through

So I wanna say thank you

'Cause it

 

[Chorus:]

Makes me that much stronger

Makes me work a little bit harder

It makes me that much wiser

So thanks for making me a fighter

Made me learn a little bit faster

Made my skin a little bit thicker

Makes me that much smarter

So thanks for making me a fighter

 

Never saw it coming, all of your backstabbing

Just so you could cash in on a good thing before I'd realize your game

I heard you're going round playing the victim now

But don't even begin feeling I'm the one to blame

'Cause you dug your own grave

After all of the fights and the lies 'cause you're wanting to haunt me

But that won't work anymore, no more,

It's over

'Cause if it wasn't for all of your torture

I wouldn't know how to be this way now and never back down

So I wanna say thank you

'Cause it

 

[Chorus]

 

How could this man I thought I knew

Turn out to be unjust so cruel

Could only see the good in you

Pretend not to see the truth

You tried to hide your lies, disguise yourself

Through living in denial

But in the end you'll see

YOU-WON'T-STOP-ME

 

I am a fighter and I

I ain't gonna stop

There is no turning back

I've had enough

 

[Chorus]

 

You thought I would forget

But I remembered

'Cause I remembered

I remembered

You thought I would forget

I remembered

'Cause I remembered

I remembered

 

[Chorus]

 

 

 

 

this is a classic poem by T.S Eliot

 

The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock

BY T. S. ELIOT

 

S’io credesse che mia risposta fosse

A persona che mai tornasse al mondo,

Questa fiamma staria senza piu scosse.

Ma percioche giammai di questo fondo

Non torno vivo alcun, s’i’odo il vero,

Senza tema d’infamia ti rispondo.

 

Let us go then, you and I,

When the evening is spread out against the sky

Like a patient etherized upon a table;

Let us go, through certain half-deserted streets,

The muttering retreats

Of restless nights in one-night cheap hotels

And sawdust restaurants with oyster-shells:

Streets that follow like a tedious argument

Of insidious intent

To lead you to an overwhelming question ...

Oh, do not ask, “What is it?”

Let us go and make our visit.

 

In the room the women come and go

Talking of Michelangelo.

 

The yellow fog that rubs its back upon the window-panes,

The yellow smoke that rubs its muzzle on the window-panes,

Licked its tongue into the corners of the evening,

Lingered upon the pools that stand in drains,

Let fall upon its back the soot that falls from chimneys,

Slipped by the terrace, made a sudden leap,

And seeing that it was a soft October night,

Curled once about the house, and fell asleep.

 

And indeed there will be time

For the yellow smoke that slides along the street,

Rubbing its back upon the window-panes;

There will be time, there will be time

To prepare a face to meet the faces that you meet;

There will be time to murder and create,

And time for all the works and days of hands

That lift and drop a question on your plate;

Time for you and time for me,

And time yet for a hundred indecisions,

And for a hundred visions and revisions,

Before the taking of a toast and tea.

 

In the room the women come and go

Talking of Michelangelo.

 

And indeed there will be time

To wonder, “Do I dare?” and, “Do I dare?”

Time to turn back and descend the stair,

With a bald spot in the middle of my hair —

(They will say: “How his hair is growing thin!”)

My morning coat, my collar mounting firmly to the chin,

My necktie rich and modest, but asserted by a simple pin —

(They will say: “But how his arms and legs are thin!”)

Do I dare

Disturb the universe?

In a minute there is time

For decisions and revisions which a minute will reverse.

 

For I have known them all already, known them all:

Have known the evenings, mornings, afternoons,

I have measured out my life with coffee spoons;

I know the voices dying with a dying fall

Beneath the music from a farther room.

So how should I presume?

 

And I have known the eyes already, known them all—

The eyes that fix you in a formulated phrase,

And when I am formulated, sprawling on a pin,

When I am pinned and wriggling on the wall,

Then how should I begin

To spit out all the butt-ends of my days and ways?

And how should I presume?

 

And I have known the arms already, known them all—

Arms that are braceleted and white and bare

(But in the lamplight, downed with light brown hair!)

Is it perfume from a dress

That makes me so digress?

Arms that lie along a table, or wrap about a shawl.

And should I then presume?

And how should I begin?

 

Shall I say, I have gone at dusk through narrow streets

And watched the smoke that rises from the pipes

Of lonely men in shirt-sleeves, leaning out of windows? ...

 

I should have been a pair of ragged claws

Scuttling across the floors of silent seas.

 

And the afternoon, the evening, sleeps so peacefully!

Smoothed by long fingers,

Asleep ... tired ... or it malingers,

Stretched on the floor, here beside you and me.

Should I, after tea and cakes and ices,

Have the strength to force the moment to its crisis?

But though I have wept and fasted, wept and prayed,

Though I have seen my head (grown slightly bald) brought in upon a platter,

I am no prophet — and here’s no great matter;

I have seen the moment of my greatness flicker,

And I have seen the eternal Footman hold my coat, and snicker,

And in short, I was afraid.

 

And would it have been worth it, after all,

After the cups, the marmalade, the tea,

Among the porcelain, among some talk of you and me,

Would it have been worth while,

To have bitten off the matter with a smile,

To have squeezed the universe into a ball

To roll it towards some overwhelming question,

To say: “I am Lazarus, come from the dead,

Come back to tell you all, I shall tell you all”—

If one, settling a pillow by her head

Should say: “That is not what I meant at all;

That is not it, at all.”

 

And would it have been worth it, after all,

Would it have been worth while,

After the sunsets and the dooryards and the sprinkled streets,

After the novels, after the teacups, after the skirts that trail along the floor—

And this, and so much more?—

It is impossible to say just what I mean!

But as if a magic lantern threw the nerves in patterns on a screen:

Would it have been worth while

If one, settling a pillow or throwing off a shawl,

And turning toward the window, should say:

“That is not it at all,

That is not what I meant, at all.”

 

No! I am not Prince Hamlet, nor was meant to be;

Am an attendant lord, one that will do

To swell a progress, start a scene or two,

Advise the prince; no doubt, an easy tool,

Deferential, glad to be of use,

Politic, cautious, and meticulous;

Full of high sentence, but a bit obtuse;

At times, indeed, almost ridiculous—

Almost, at times, the Fool.

 

I grow old ... I grow old ...

I shall wear the bottoms of my trousers rolled.

 

Shall I part my hair behind? Do I dare to eat a peach?

I shall wear white flannel trousers, and walk upon the beach.

I have heard the mermaids singing, each to each.

 

I do not think that they will sing to me.

 

I have seen them riding seaward on the waves

Combing the white hair of the waves blown back

When the wind blows the water white and black.

We have lingered in the chambers of the sea

By sea-girls wreathed with seaweed red and brown

Till human voices wake us, and we drown.

 

Source: Poetry (June 1915).

 

anyone who has ever loved or want to love should read it ...its long but the phrases and lines are perfection ....takes anyone on a real journey..not for payback just your own personal discovery ...enlightenment....pure happiness to read a master of words...his plays and turn of words are god sent...if you dont like T.s eliot after reading this...you are simply mad.....it is a poem of pure beauty......deb

[bigtrouble]

I couldn't edit my post but I DID see Swingers! It has my favorite actor in it, Vincent Vaughn! He's hilarious and I love his character in here because it's funny. He and that other guy who was hurt over his girlfriend are always in movies together!

 

I won't give the end away but it's hilarious when "trent" is flirting with a chick and he figures out she's talking to a baby! lol

 

Yeah, made me laugh too, two sides to the coin, after reading everything about BUs, NC, coming back, rebound and Gigs. That movie pretty much sums it all up.

[Invictus01]

Invictus

BY WILLIAM ERNEST HENLEY

 

Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.

 

In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.

 

Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds and shall find me unafraid.

 

It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate,

I am the captain of my soul.

[bigtrouble]

Invictus

BY WILLIAM ERNEST HENLEY

 

Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.

 

In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.

 

Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds and shall find me unafraid.

 

It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate,

I am the captain of my soul.

 

You got this one right, its my favorite poem...

[Chin Up]

Been listening to this one lately and makes me NOT want to contact him:

 

 

hurts for sure, but I was definitely a fool for love. Gotta love those songs you relate to that kick you right in the "feels" hahahha.

[todreaminblue]

[ilovedmike]

 

Good 1....

[ilovedmike]

You thought I was warm

but I whip out the cold,

I'm still young and you're getting old,

You get the love and I get the pain,

you get your sunshine from my rain,

You pulled out an Ace when you're used to jacks,

I know you didn't truly think you've had it like that,

Coz I'm stuck in a fantasy trap...

 

and now that I know.

I'm gonna leave on that note..

And now I know..now I know..

I'm gonna leave you on that.

And now I know..

I'm gonna leave you.

I'm gonna leave you on that note..

 

I've been stressed and

depressed from this pluto-ness

putting my emotions

to the test..and in the end

I'll leave a great big mess,

never to return again...

Never to show up again,

never to provide the light,

your days will turn to

constant...nights.

 

and now that I know.

I'm gonna leave on that note..

And now I know..now I know..

I'm gonna leave you on that.

And now I know..

I'm gonna leave you.

I'm gonna leave you on that note..

 

It hurts like hell..

It hurts like hell...

It hurts. it hurts it hurrrrts

 

and I dont wanna leave

but it hurts..

Coz I don't wanna leave but it hurts..

and I know I gotta say goodbye farewell..

 

Peaceful...Departure..

I won't make a fuss.

I'm just gonna leave..

quietly..

[DrReplyInRhymes]

One of the most profound quotes I've ever had the pleasure of hearing. You heard a secularized version if you watched Coach Carter.

 

Someday, I hope to get this quote tattoo'ed onto myself.

 

From the book "A Return to Love" by Marianne Williamson:

 

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

[me85]

Pretty much everything Elizabeth Gilbert. She's great.