norrfollk Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Okay, so about 2 months now me and this guy, who is a regular at my work, have been talking. I slipped my number into a bag of coffee he got. I noticed he would always linger and chat with me so I said why not. Well weve been talking, he's taken me out to dinner on numerous occasions and always pays. He took me on a trip for a weekend, paid for it all. He always generally makes plans for us. But he doesn't compliment me ever. Like I remember he called me cute, once. He's not very affectionate and when he's in front of my co workers he doesn't even seem interested. There's alot of small things i notice I suppose. Like....I quess my question is would a guy do all of this if he wasn't somewhat invested? Or am i just thinking it's a to good to be true situation and I'm picking things to see as flaws ? Haha. Anyways this is stupid. Sorry for the waste of time. N. Oh ! Hes 32, I'm 21. If that matters
Ebelskiver Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 This scenario reminds me of my ex. I was the one who came onto him initially. He was always a bit distant, not affectionate, NEVER complimented me. We would go out on occassion but I never met his friends although he met mine. Ended up he was dating someone else. They had been together a year. He was distant becasue of his shame. Somehow in his mind it wasn't as bad because he wouldn't compliment me or be really affectionate. Does he never leave his phone around you? Have you met his friends? Do you go over to his place? I could be barking up the wrong tree but my gut says he couldn't turn down an offer from a hot chick even though he knew he should have and now he's feeling guilty. Or he could just me emotionally retarded.
Assada Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Seems like he's a mature guy and youre used to highschool relationships
Redhead14 Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Okay, so about 2 months now me and this guy, who is a regular at my work, have been talking. I slipped my number into a bag of coffee he got. I noticed he would always linger and chat with me so I said why not. Well weve been talking, he's taken me out to dinner on numerous occasions and always pays. He took me on a trip for a weekend, paid for it all. He always generally makes plans for us. But he doesn't compliment me ever. Like I remember he called me cute, once. He's not very affectionate and when he's in front of my co workers he doesn't even seem interested. There's alot of small things i notice I suppose. Like....I quess my question is would a guy do all of this if he wasn't somewhat invested? Or am i just thinking it's a to good to be true situation and I'm picking things to see as flaws ? Haha. Anyways this is stupid. Sorry for the waste of time. N. Oh ! Hes 32, I'm 21. If that matters You are moving way too fast with this man. You should not be going on trips with him at this point. As for compliments . . . I wouldn't put too much stock in this. Yes, it's nice to hear them, but some guys just aren't that way. And, he would be especially careful not to do too much pda in front of co workers. He is somewhat invested, he's taking you out and taking you on trips. But the real problem here and the reason you're questioning his interest is because you initiated it to start with. This tells him you're definitely interested in him on some level and sure, he'll take you out, etc. but you don't really know if he would have asked you to start with and so you're kinda wondering if he's just along for the ride. It would be wise to have a discussion with him to find out what he is looking for in the long run out of his dating experiences. Does he want casual relationships, is he looking for someone for a long-term relationship and don't ask specifically with you. Just in general.
mammasita Posted January 20, 2015 Posted January 20, 2015 Are you sleeping with him? Do you know if he's single? There's so many things you should be asking him to find out if he's legit or not....
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