NYC-BigKat Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Yea its over & I still have to work at this place . I worked 8 days in a row & needed a day off really really bad 'cause I was being overworked so my mgr finally gave me 1 day off but then I called out to make it 2 days 'cause I got this cold sore on my lip & felt embarrassed to go in there & I wanted to stay home so it can go away but it wouldn't so I had to go in today, my girlfriend saw it & gave me this look & said 'are u alright' & I said yea its just a cold & she made this face & walked away. Everyone at work stared . I tried to talk to her all day but she avoided me then at the end of the day she texts me this: 'so sorry we couldn't talk was so busy lol' I say 'Its okay. Will u be free Friday to see taken 3?' She takes a really long time to answer then says 'cant, gonna be busy'. We stop texting for hours then she says 'how did u get that thing on your lip?' I tell her I was sick & I got overstressed & it always happens when I get stressed & she says 'that's not good' & then she says 'maybe we can just be friends?' I try to explain to her that it cant work 'cause we work together & she says 'well I don't think we're working out so...' & then I keep trying to reason with her but now she just ignores my texts . I feel so so bad & I don't wanna go into work again tomorrow to face her. I wanna look for another job but cant without a job. I don't know what to do from here all over this stupid cold sore.
Assada Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Trying to use logic to get a girl in a relationship with you has to be the most desperate thing you can do
Omei Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Weird im just a few mins into Taken 3 right now on pc. This girl was likely looking for a reason to break up with you before the cold sore and just used it as her way out or shes just really stupid. Sorry thats happened to you what a bad day /hugs 1
guest569 Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 That's cold.. I agree its not about the cold sore unless she is thick. That's not very nice. How closely together.do you work? Can you get a similar/better job easily? 1
Author NYC-BigKat Posted January 14, 2015 Author Posted January 14, 2015 (edited) That's cold.. I agree its not about the cold sore unless she is thick. That's not very nice. How closely together.do you work? Can you get a similar/better job easily? She works in a booth around the corner from me so yup we gotta bump into each other. I really hate this job now. Its always pressure alot & now i got dumped & everyone gonna know about it tomorrow & finding another job like it is hard u know. Edited January 14, 2015 by NYC-BigKat error
Art_Critic Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 don't go find another job, just let it go....can you not see she wasn't worth your time and certainly isn't worth your job.. keep the job and pay no attention to her. 1
amaysngrace Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 If you're prone to them why didn't you let her know that before you kissed her the first time? Yea...I might be pissed too. 2
Omei Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 If you're prone to them why didn't you let her know that before you kissed her the first time? Yea...I might be pissed too. Prob cuz upon entering their relationship it didnt come to mind cuz who says "oh yeah just so you know when I get sick I get cold sores ok" not exactly romance. 1
amaysngrace Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Prob cuz upon entering their relationship it didnt come to mind cuz who says "oh yeah just so you know when I get sick I get cold sores ok" not exactly romance. It doesn't matter if it's romantic or not. They're highly contagious and once you're prone to them you're always prone to them. Like I said...I'd likely be mad at him too for not disclosing that information to me. 1
maysj18 Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 She's an idiot. I bet she has the exact same virus like 90% of the population that caused the coldsore on your lip. Some people never show symptoms, but many, many do. Your immunity is weaker when you're stressed which is why it appeared when it did. I hope she wakes up with one tomorrow OP 4
toolforgrowth Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Cold sores are extremely common, approximately 80% of the American population has it. Depending on the source, anywhere from 1/6th to 1/5th of the population has genital herpes, between 25 and 30 MILLION people. They are 99% the same thing, the only difference in their genetic material is the preferred location. Oral herpes (cold sores, or HSV-1) are probably something that wouldn't even occur to me to disclose. Genital herpes (HSV-2) I would though. 2
Ebelskiver Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Without an active infection the transmisibilty of HSV-1 approaches 0%. But as soon as someone starts to feel the tingle, avoid kissing until the lesion is gone. You can come close to guaranteeing no viral transmission with oral anti-virals taken on a regular schedule. This is a public service announcement from your friendly Loveshack Nurse Practitioner. 3
BeholdtheMan Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 Wise up OP The cold sore is an excuse. She's breaking up with you for other reasons (unless she's a total moron)
jezzika Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 She obviously knows what it is and doesn't want to get it through kissing or through oral sex. Lysine is something you should look into to help you from getting them. I have been taking it for several years now, every day, and never get them anymore, no matter how much stress I am under...and I have been under massive stress this year. If I feel a little extra stressed, I take a little extra Lysine just in case. Stress was always my trigger. Disclaimer: I'm not telling you to take it...just saying you might want to research it and see if it might be right for you. Good luck. 1
bathtub-row Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 This is one of the dumbest reasons I've ever seen about why someone ends a relationship. And she did it over a text. This girl is empty headed and heartless. This was no loss at all. Just act normal around her and don't ask her to come back. Don't even act like you want her back. She did you a favor by showing you her true colors.
BlueIris Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 (edited) People are more averse to genital herpes than oral. The concern is location, incorrectly assigned to only one virus. LOTS of people don’t know that HSV-1 causes about 1/3 of genital herpes and HSV-2 causes about 2/3. Get the facts about herpes and Genital Herpes Genital HSV?1 infections I don’t think she’s bad or shallow, or rather, any more bad or shallow than people who want to avoid genital herpes- which is almost everyone. Since she asked you about it, she might have been questioning how much you knew about it because understanding it is the first step to being able to take precautions to minimize the risk of passing it on. Edited January 14, 2015 by BlueIris 2
jeffmeyers Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 It's the movie, Taken 3. Not a chick flick and a completely unnecessary sequel too. Seriously, she was looking for any excuse.
AVarma Posted January 14, 2015 Posted January 14, 2015 She's an idiot.. I hope she wakes up with one tomorrow OP Ah the high road.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 It doesn't matter if it's romantic or not. They're highly contagious and once you're prone to them you're always prone to them. Like I said...I'd likely be mad at him too for not disclosing that information to me. So um...I'm supposed to never have a girlfriend just 'cause I get a cold sore when I'm stressed? That's mean u know & u cant catch it unless I'm having a outbreak. I read that over 80% of people carry it but don't get outbreaks all the time unless stressed & 80% not single u know. Anyhow, we didn't talk at all today & 2 guys made jokes about it & other people stared at me. I just don't understand why when some of them probably had it before too :0.
todreaminblue Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 when things arent right i get physically sick its a way to let my heart now slow down or do something else.....cold sores once gotten recur typically in times of stress...i agree with other posters......it isnt about the cold sore its just an excuse..... as far as your job goes...if it is a high stress job that often makes you sick ...its maybe time to look for another job that you can be happy and healthy in......i wish you all the best...deb
TheGuard13 Posted January 15, 2015 Posted January 15, 2015 Or maybe it is about the cold sore, and she just didn't want to risk getting herpes and the potential complications, and weighed that against your relationship. Different people have different concerns, fears, etc.
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